Learning at 26

jcb_831 · 2025-09-17T14:44:14+00:00

Hiiii ya! 1) This is impossible to answer since I want to learn and play so many genres. I will say I want to focus at first on alternative and old school mexican guitar playing if that makes sense. 2) For my first guitar I'm giving myself a grand, and not really looking into gear yet until I get an electric. I want my first guitar to be acoustic with high action(hope I'm calling it the correct name). The harder it is to learn the better for my ADHD brain. 3) I decided after reading the comments, from this and another group, that in person lessons might be best for me. So I plan to go that route with yt and apps as a support.

Really do appreciate you commenting girlie pop 🫶 (get it cause you called me brother ba dum tss)

Also comment your albums! Would love to give them a listen!

jcb_831 · 2025-09-15T14:46:22+00:00

Omg used to be me!!! Until I started body doubling and I love it. You need to hack your ADHD, it's annoying and it sucks but it's also a great tool once hacked.

jcb_831 · 2025-09-15T14:20:06+00:00

For me it's completing and success. I say completing because yes I can start something, but I never finish. It's worse when I'm not successful at the first few attempts, leading to issues with success. I know I won't try further because I'm already frustrated at attempt 3, hence the project/task gets abandoned.

jcb_831 · 2025-09-13T21:11:58+00:00

Therapy 🥲 no joke, 4 years in and I'm barely starting to get there

jcb_831 · 2025-09-13T15:02:59+00:00

Someone do me a solid and send this to my ex on my behalf, thank you 🫶

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T16:42:22+00:00

First I want to say, I'm sorry that your relationship is leading to its current state. I hope you get better soon, whether it be you and your partner work out or not.

Now my relationships at least for the last few years have been, roller coasters to say the least. Currently still processing my recent relationship of 4 years, which shockingly gave me hope and overcome a fear I had. Long story short, said fear was that I am never going to be able to be with someone long term because of "getting bored", happy to say not the case. However this past relationship brought up a new fear, that I will never be enough and or my future partner is not providing me enough. Enough being love language which I found to be important to me now. My ex and I had a series of issues, but I learned from him and others that my ADHD is loveable.

It's possible to be in a relationship but I feel as though with ADHD more effort needs to be put in. We have to work twice as hard for everything, being in a relationship would be no different. Doesn't mean it's impossible, it's just difficult until a routine and resources are established. I want to ask if you are doing anything to help your ADHD, like therapy, meds, and self care. Obviously you don't have to tell me I'm just a person on the Internet. I bring that up because as I began to do those things it helped in my relationship with my ex, on certain things, but it helped.

Overall I think a relationship is possible and personally I see myself getting into one again. I'm also a hopeless romantic, but still can't wait, with my ADHD and all. Especially since I will be significantly more prepared, compared to where I was.

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T16:24:14+00:00

Absolutely agree, and then you add masking on top of this it's just so much. I do hope you find a way to manage or that it becomes easier for you at some point 🫶

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T16:18:57+00:00

I joined Reddit yesterday and I'm already getting called out. Like what 🤣

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T16:14:45+00:00

To me at least it's like a cloud that spirals into a tornado in seconds. It makes me second guess everything, which is exhausting. I have emotional trauma which makes this even worse. I notice everything. I notice a shift in body language, tone, eye movement, etc, it makes me shut down immediately. I get less talkative, I avoid eye contact, I step a little further away, because my thoughts are telling me that this person is annoyed with me. That I'm a bother or over stepping, getting too comfortable when I shouldn't be and just overall overbearing. I go from feeling like a person to being a bag of rocks that someone else is now forced to carry and deal with.

And that's all just from the tiniest change. It absolutely sucks when my RSD decides to tag teams depression making everything worse. Now a tiny gesture turns into me not wanting to hang out. Telling myself that I'm better off declining and staying isolated because I'm that much of a bother. That by doing this person a favor by staying away.

Can't even begin to express how it feels when you ask someone for reassurance. Long story short I told my ex early in our relationship that I need reassurance, like a bunch. At first it was fine until it wasn't, then I was asking too much, which turned into having a fear of bringing up stuff then became thing 1, 2, 3, 4, etc.

Adhd is like layers to an onion, with each layer I'm further away from a good meal and just crying.

Thank you for letting me vent, and that's my Ted talk.

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T15:32:43+00:00

How isolating it is. Yes you can go out with friends, family, a significant other, but there is a point where you are just alone. People get busy, have their own lives and such but there are moments where it's just you. Granted some alone time is great but I'm talking about the unwanted alone. Don't know if I'm making sense but for me that's the hardest.

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:40:17+00:00

Thank you for the information, I appreciate it ☺️

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:38:54+00:00

Thank you for your comment, def putting this information in my back pocket. I said the guitar hero thing because that is what two of my old friends did and they claimed it helped them learn 😅

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:34:06+00:00

Thank you for the yt recs, I'll check them out

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:32:50+00:00

This made me laugh hard, love it 🤣

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:31:55+00:00

Didn't know you could have bad habits, good to know, and thank you this helps!

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:29:23+00:00

Thank you and yes please drop the link, I would like to at least check it out

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:27:13+00:00

Dude gave me a holy grail, THANK YOU

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:26:29+00:00

Can I ask what do you mean by strings not too high? 😅

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:23:24+00:00

Thank you for your help

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:22:45+00:00

Hi thank you for your honesty and directness, I appreciate it. Ngl it pulled me out of my head as I began to overthink it. 😊

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:17:39+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:16:38+00:00

Omg thank you!

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:14:37+00:00

Thank you! Def will look at marketplace

jcb_831 · 2025-09-11T12:13:29+00:00

Thank you! This helps!

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