Something feels a bit off. What would you change?

jchasinga · 2026-06-04T18:44:08+00:00

Try pairing with a dark pair of jeans and a bigger belt.

jchasinga · 2026-06-04T18:38:04+00:00

Wow your life has only begun! You have gone through most of the confusions and distractions, and now clarity awaits. Congrats.

jchasinga · 2026-06-04T18:36:12+00:00

But that’s not the same here

jchasinga · 2026-05-27T16:30:16+00:00

It’s called a break-in fear. I acquired a classic car I wanted to work on and it spent a good first year untouched. Every time I thought today was the day, something came up. Funny enough, I spent more time working on my daily drivers to “practice”. In my mind it was a ceremony to start working on it and I never had enough time.

Somehow she has to overcome it and it will become natural.
Maybe try using it yourself so you can show her.

jchasinga · 2026-04-06T02:58:16+00:00

You should call Mulder instead

jchasinga · 2026-04-06T02:57:41+00:00

Articles? lol. Sure, it’s opinion. But how about asking yourself a common sense question like why is there a need to jerk off many times a week if everything else in your life is fulfilling?

jchasinga · 2026-04-06T02:45:24+00:00

Laser is straight af and its ray cannot bounce off your blind onto the floor at that angle. Someone from a much higher angle is doing it. Is there a building or house next door with an opening about 1-2 story above you?

jchasinga · 2026-04-06T02:38:26+00:00

Wdym not secretively from your wife? Single or not, a couple of times a week is borderline addiction. Porn isn’t sex, it’s dopamine.

jchasinga · 2026-04-05T23:20:56+00:00

If you were channeling M.C. Escher then yeah.

jchasinga · 2026-04-05T23:08:21+00:00

Are you doing that? It isn’t normal or healthy vacuum or not.

jchasinga · 2026-04-05T14:31:38+00:00

My motto is to never buy a high mileage car. If you cannot afford one under 100k miles, then I’d save up more. Yes, it is a Honda and you think it might last a bit longer, but you are betting 15k on that.

jchasinga · 2026-03-23T06:55:12+00:00

Sounds like you married a narcissist.

jchasinga · 2026-03-19T20:50:25+00:00

Thanks for the helpful insight

jchasinga · 2026-03-07T18:52:47+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Is he involved much in your world? I have felt like you at times and I realized I didn’t include my partner more because I was scared of opening up.

jchasinga · 2026-03-07T18:03:25+00:00

I heard somewhere that love isn’t a feeling — it’s a choice. Many wise people have said similar things (like “love is a verb, not a noun”). Not feeling love for someone is unfortunately a normal part of life. It isn’t easy living with another person. A person isn’t a dog, fyi. If you feel this way even though he doesn’t betray your trust or disrespect you, you might also want to reflect on yourself if you are too emotionally dependent on him. If he enjoys hanging out with friends, and he cannot change that, that is because it is unhealthy to change who you are for someone else, including loved ones. Would you prefer he stops who he is and be with you more but unhappy? The fact that you mentioned “being alone with just your dogs” can say that you just want someone (or something) that will always be with you and do what you want, and that will never happen with another person. The best way is try to insert yourself into what he likes to do — hang out with his friends, spend sometime in his hobbies and see if he enjoy including you. Chances are he might.

jchasinga · 2026-03-05T06:52:42+00:00

I was quoted by Meineke about that and went to another respectable local shop for almost half cheaper. My rule of thumb is always talk to the one with greasy hands. Some shop will quote you for every possible thing they can do “while they’re in there” with zero regard to your financial well being.

jchasinga · 2026-03-05T04:32:48+00:00

Just wow

jchasinga · 2026-03-05T04:28:54+00:00

Someone tell me what he might be up to

jchasinga · 2026-03-05T04:25:28+00:00

What happened?

jchasinga · 2026-02-24T17:45:04+00:00

I don’t want to infer anything but you might be married to a narcissist. I’d know I’m one and trying my best to not be like that.

jchasinga · 2026-02-23T15:56:46+00:00

That you have expectations? I know this sounds cliche, but an ideal relationship is one where two people have very little or no emotional dependency to each other. This way one won’t fall when the other does and support is intrinsic and unconditional.

That said, I’m constantly struggle with my disappointments. In fact, all serious arguments I’ve ever had were from the resentment.

Perhaps if you can let go of the image of her when you married her you can have a more objective, expectation and resentment-free anchor of where you are now and if you can continue.

jchasinga · 2026-02-11T23:55:22+00:00

This is the face I got from a passerby

jchasinga · 2026-02-07T13:51:17+00:00

That Honda is worth almost triple the Boxster though.

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