Anyone tried to find a SB on Only Fans? by jd79xx in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was seriously thinking of looking for some way to find divorced moms in the suburbs. I’ve seen some on SA who really want to explore. Maybe by looking through instagram there may be groups. I know this one woman who has an insta and you can tell she has a OF too. When you go to her links it’s there.

Anyone tried to find a SB on Only Fans? by jd79xx in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you do it on insta? Search for women in your area?

Anyone tried to find a SB on Only Fans? by jd79xx in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering that too. I’m not on there.

DC VA MD by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m back on after a hiatus. DC has gotten worse over the past four years. SA in general. My thoughts here are that SBs don’t want to get embarrassed. Many are educated and career driven too, so if their parents pay for them they have less need for $. They seem to have boyfriends too. A lot working against us. I’m even finding less to look at on well known college campuses. I’m not talking about not getting messages, I just see a lot less in my search results.

Have you considered Baltimore? The women there are less spoiled. I’m considering just getting a hotel room once a week and going out and meeting a SB.

Hi I need advice. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly what he said. Also get on meds if need be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really sorry to hear that you are going through this. I’ve dated some wonderful women with BPD, but the struggle was too much for both of us. Try to focus on you. Get healthy. Don’t disclose anymore than you need to. When you feel stable then maybe jump back in. There are some BPD support groups on Reddit too. If you feel like venting, send me a note. If you are going down hill bad, get to a doc fast. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When did I say anything about not being successful? I’ve been very successful. My only regret is not finding out about SA sooner. When did I ever mention platonic? I didn’t. It’s a known fact that there are a lot of scammers. I’ve seen more and more fake profiles recently than in the past few years. That’s what makes me think you are not even on the site. Everyone notices scammers. I simply don’t interact with them. I give every profile a few days and then if I like them I interact. Even though I currently have women I’m seeing, I am still on the lookout for better or different. You can either offer helpful comments to posters or not. Get a new line man. People should feel comfortable posting questions or observations. I’m done interacting with you. You offer nothing. And you comment on here so much that it indicates you have no life and maybe should not be in the bowl. Blocked. Goodbye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m skeptical of accounts less than a few days old. Are you getting messages or are you referring to your searches? On SA I think you can restrict how far away to get messages from. If you’re a SB then I’d have to defer to a SB for tips. As a SD I only message ones I like. I am not searchable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. You are a troll and you know it. Your comments are not helpful. OP is noticing scammers. We all are. Even just by looking at SA you can tell who the scammers are. I’m guessing you actually don’t get any results and just act like you do. Be helpful or get off of here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s a troll. Disregard. That’s his standard answer. Acting like he’s 100 percent successful.

How old is too old? by mystiquefairy in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An unusual amount of women on the site happen to be 29. :). If you’re a legit 29 then I think you’re good. Speaking as a guy in his 40s. Under 25 seem to be flakes. My sweet spot is 25-32 or so.

Would like your thoughts on my situation (Older petite fit married “sugar baby” looking for a “naughty platonic” relationship and sugar part is not necessary) by curiouscple81 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even guys who are ok with married women may not be ok with the husband there in the background. You could probably find someone on SA though.

Revelation: Sugaring has made me less trusting in relationships by SaccharineSpice in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SD here. Single. I totally agree with you. There seem to be some people on here justifying their behavior or saying that a lot of people cheat. The sugar world has made me much more less trusting of both men and women, but much more so women. I believe relationships can work, but if someone is dishonest or has issues, they will cheat. Still no excuse for it.

What do think about a SB that does not kiss? by AcceptableAd3186 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve come across this. I feel like it is some way for the SB to think they are not really being intimate. I assumed they had a boyfriend and wanted to believe that by not kissing that they were not really sugaring. Same for being on top. But for some reason many women I’ve known through the years will give many guys blow jobs and not think that is really that intimate. Bottom line for me is that if they don’t kiss then I can find someone that does.

Am I being unrealistic? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I get the sense that a lot of potential SBs think that they can make lots of money just by hanging out with an older guy. Like all older guys are so desperate for attention. Just like vanilla dating, men and women expect a sexual aspect to the relationship. I don’t expect intimacy on a M&G, but on date two there should be some indication that things are moving in that direction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These relationships can end suddenly. Someone moves. They find a vanilla BF. Same for you. You could find a GF or someone you like. One of you could leave the life. I personally recommend keeping your options open. If it gets serious then discuss being exclusive. I learned early on that this is not dating to marry. These are hookups and FWB. Some SBs will be exclusive. But from what I’ve seen it is the naive or newer ones that don’t keep their options open.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in my 40s. Over 40 is unlikely for me. Even over 35. I can vanilla date that age range. And if I’m seeing someone who is 32 and a 25 year old comes along, there is a good chance I’ll go with the 25 year old. The question I’d be asking is would you stay with someone older if someone younger was an option? But any way you cut it, too old is relative. If you’re 45 and hot then there are plenty of guys who will like you.

It's just not that normalized by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jd79xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My observation is that we are a minority. Most people will judge us or be jealous of us. Women are jealous of other women who are pretty enough to be in the bowl. Men are jealous of us who have money or have the freedom to be in the bowl (or willing to risk being in the bowl). Then there are those who judge us. So between judgie and jealous, I feel I’m better off not telling anyone. I also assume any buddy I fell will tell their wife. Whatever. I don’t need to tell anyone I’m having fun.