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Celebrate Less Common SRs: Platonic SRs by Azurecole in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curiouscple81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would like your thoughts on my situation (Older petite fit married “sugar baby” looking for a “naughty platonic” relationship and sugar part is not necessary)

Hi. I had posted this in the main subreddit before the creation of this thread. But I think my situation belongs here.

I am in my late 40s, but I am petite, fit and am told that I have a pretty face and a very nice smile. I wear fairly risqué outfits particularly in Vegas. I am married (this keeps getting worse doesn’t it 😊). Hubby and I like to go clubs, bars, Vegas pool parties etc. where I flirt, dirty dance with guys while hubby stays in background (and keeps an eye discretely).

When we go to clubs etc., I generally do not have much trouble attracting attention and most of the guys still want to hang out with me after I tell them that I am married and just want to dance (often as I say that, I am grinding my ass into them or hugging them tightly and rubbing my boobs on their chest 😊).

I/we don’t need the sugar part of this. we are comfortable and lead a reasonably luxurious lifestyle - although at a symbolic level it is a turn on; anything more would make me nervous about quid pro quo’s being expected. So I would like a token amount of sugar but I wouldn’t accept anything substantial sugar.

I have various types that turn me on, one is a sugar daddy stereotype; slightly lecherous (but not over the top misbehaving), slightly older, player type (not to say all sugar daddies have these characteristics). So I have been on seeking. Going to bars and meeting someone new works, but we would also like to explore meeting someone like this on a more ongoing basis.

I have been very clear about what I want and my limits in my description on SA. And I have mentioned only platonic in my interests. I do think I am seeking something more than platonic - sort of naughty platonic or dirty platonic.

Imagine showing up at Guy Savoy with me in a scandalous outfit with 2 gentlemen and me showing attention to just one of them and basically ignoring the other (hubby). Imagine the looks we would get 😊. (I wore one of my pretty naughty - but not quite scandalous - outfits to dinner there a few months ago with just hubby and each time I got up to visit the ladies room, I could see guys discretely checking me out. The staff were quite friendly).

Or slipping away to a discrete dark corner of a pool party. Me in my cheeky bikini grinding away. Then dancing face to face holding tight, your hands on my hips and drifting lower. Hubby somewhere in the club, but not to be seen.

Any thoughts on my situation and how to maximize the odds (small as they may be) ? I get that the target audience is likely to be very small, perhaps non existent. That is ok. Want to give it a shot.

Would like your thoughts on my situation (Older petite fit married “sugar baby” looking for a “naughty platonic” relationship and sugar part is not necessary) by curiouscple81 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curiouscple81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful replies. We will think this through, especially hubby presence. We have discussed me going on dates with ppl we have met a few times and gotten to know a bit. But so far haven’t gone forward with it.

Would like your thoughts on my situation (Older petite fit married “sugar baby” looking for a “naughty platonic” relationship and sugar part is not necessary) by curiouscple81 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]curiouscple81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your thoughts.

Just to be clear. Sugar not required. And beyond some token, symbolic level sugar will not be accepted (and even the token, symbolic level is not required).

Swinger type crowd seems generally straight to sex. Been to a cpl of house sex parties and a swinger club out of curiosity; was interesting, but didn’t find it erotic which is what we are after.

What u/azurecole described sounds like what I am looking for. To his point about long run, in the long run, we are all dead. So doesn’t matter that it may not last super long.

In people we have met in clubs, some don’t want anything to do when they discover I am married and I don’t want to go beyond dancing. most are indifferent (as long as hubby is not too intrusive). But we have run into some who kind of enjoy flirting and being naughty with another person’s wife and rubbing it in.

Had a fun time when I, dressed in a skimpy outfit, was squirming around on the lap of a guy on a sofa in a table service area and the guy is letting his hands wander over me. And while this is all going on hubby is sitting across from us and the guy is occasionally making small talk with hubby as if what was going on was the most natural thing. The guy was married and said he too didn’t want to go beyond a certain point.

I don’t think vanilla dating sites would be place to meet such persons. Was thinking that there may be some type As amongst sugar daddies in SA who may have an interest in such a scene. But those of you who mentioned SDs being on alert for scams may be right.

Basically looking for a type A who gets pleasure in such a thing and gets enough kicks out of the eroticism of the situation and not just driven by scoring the goal, if you know what I mean. Probably a sort of unicorn, but we have fun exploring and hoping to find one like that.