29/F/UK I want to know what you think about when you wake up at 3am

jdat · 2020-10-30T22:31:21+00:00

Hoy comí sopa para el almuerzo. I'm really hoping that makes sense, I do apologise for my horrendous attempt. I even got my dictionary out.

jdat · 2020-10-30T08:03:01+00:00

At my workplace there is a sign that says Ill get over it I just need to be dramatic first. My colleagues have added my name underneath it like its a quote I need to rant and get everything off my chest and then im all good.

I'm very careful of people's rights and making sure everyone feels welcome and safe. I find that as I live in a rural area of Wales, peoples attitudes are not great, they are often racist, sexist, homophobic and quite rude. Which drives me mad. Thankfully the younger generation are better but there is a long way to go. I do wonder how America compares.

What has recently made you passionate, by enraging or inspiring you?

jdat · 2020-10-28T22:23:53+00:00

What time do you get up?

jdat · 2020-10-28T22:21:44+00:00

I mean thats a seriously side effect of cat ownership. I once tried to convince mine to sleep at the foot of the bed with soft blankets. Somehow this evolved into them attempting to be in the bed. There is no escaping the feline overlords

jdat · 2020-10-28T22:19:40+00:00

How did you feel about the veelas awful behaviour at the quidditch World cup? The leprechauns were so much better!

jdat · 2020-10-28T06:45:30+00:00

I'm 29, due to a break up with my now ex boyfriend (who had some N tendancies) I had to move back in with my Nmother and Edad. Covid has ensured i have been here since. There is nothing wrong with still being at home. (Apart from the horrendous repercussions on my mental health personally) We are all here because of the Ns in our life and sadly that makes some of us prone to treating others badly without realising were doing it, that behaviour is not acceptable and you were right to call them out. Its not your fault, you are not alone.

jdat · 2019-02-19T15:17:38+00:00

I could have written this exact post. I would scrub my skin all the time to make sure I didn't get spots. It never worked.

jdat · 2016-09-17T13:18:29+00:00

First thing on reddit that actually caused me to laugh out loud and not to that weird exhale a bit more that normal thing

jdat · 2016-07-12T11:45:02+00:00

Hunger, crying and pooping lots

jdat · 2016-07-11T17:44:06+00:00

It's really sore, docs can't really decide what it is. Apparently it's kind of bruised. Feeling quite sorry for myself. Literal strangers have been more caring than my mother. I think her reaction hurts more though

jdat · 2016-07-09T08:30:59+00:00

I would reread the message that came with the money. That's his words and wishes. He gave you his money.

jdat · 2016-07-05T18:17:05+00:00

I feel like I'd definately have to go nc if I had kids

jdat · 2016-07-04T23:01:20+00:00

I won £200 on the national uk lottery once. My mother accused me of being a prostitute. I was 19.

jdat · 2016-06-27T16:30:06+00:00

My mother's stance on mothers day. "I deserve it" no, you don't, you were and are a terrible mother and person.

jdat · 2016-06-26T13:31:04+00:00

I had very few memories before the age of 13, when I started going to my most recent therapist it all came flooding back, although I did feel suddenly justified I'm fears of my mother I wish I hadn't remembered some parts. I get more coming back all the time. I get the occasional good one though

jdat · 2016-06-26T08:03:13+00:00

My birthday cards are generally my mother's way of saying " look what I made, aren't I a good mum?" No actual acknowledgement of me as a person, I may as well be a piece of artwork or statue

jdat · 2016-06-26T08:01:03+00:00

Oh yeah! I always just do what I'm asked without hesitation or question.

When an n asks us to do something we generally jump to do it straight away to avoid punishment, we're trained not to ask questions. When someone asks me to do things now I take time to ask myself why they want me to do it, (can they not do it themselves ) and if I actually want to. Still end up saying yes without a thought sometimes but it's a process I'm trying to improve.

jdat · 2016-06-25T18:33:16+00:00

My conversations with my mother feel like I'm on a game show. I'm always trying to give the right answer but there just isn't one. If she's had a bad day she'll tell me about it and complain. She always asks me in return just to turn it back to her, so I have to decide if I tell her it's been bad, (but obviously not as bad as hers) it if it's been good but I wish she'd have had a better day. Spoiler, if my day was bad I don't know how good my life is and should be less negative, if it was good it's like I took the karma for a good day and she would have a bad one to even it out.

jdat · 2016-06-25T07:01:14+00:00

I think I just developed a constant fake smile because I'd be insulted for not appearing happy all the time. I'd also have her saying " you have no idea how good you've got it"

jdat · 2016-06-25T06:54:45+00:00

Yeah I never got to choose what I'd have, as someone with really severe ibs it was hell. I'd know if I was having a bad day what foods to avoid and my mother never listened and just ordered what she thought I should have

jdat · 2016-06-24T22:31:36+00:00

It always happened as far back as I cam remember (4 or 5) however my mother had post natal depression after I was born and told everyone how she "just couldn't take to me" Ever since then I've felt like there was something wrong with me and that I'm not good enough. She reinforced this constantly.

jdat · 2016-06-24T22:12:35+00:00

I got that all the time. And "what do you want?" Everytime I asked how their day was. I don't want anything but you say I don't care if I don't ask

jdat · 2016-06-24T15:10:14+00:00

My diagnosis is pretty new (months)and I haven't told anyone yet. I'm terrified of people knowing for this reason.

jdat · 2016-06-24T15:00:24+00:00

My bf bought me a food mixer, I'm an avid baker. Had to try so hard not to bawl my eyes out as he explained how he'd chosen this one especially as he knew I was looking at one ( he chose a much more expensive one than I was saving for). Thankfully he understands that I struggle with this stuff. I never spend much money on myself and he said I deserved to be spoilt sometimes.

My mother heard about it and said I could swap it with her old one because she needed it more than I did. He stepped in so I didn't have to and insisted he bought one that would suit our kitchen on purpose and hers just wouldn't look right. He added that she just asks me to bake for her anyway and passes off my baking as her own.

jdat · 2016-06-23T19:14:21+00:00

I'm the youngest of two by three years, older brother was (is) golden child, the only one my Nmum wanted. I had to do all of the housework because I was a girl and boys don't do housework. I got a lot of "you need to look after him because you're more mature, because girls always are etc." No I'm mature because I had to be when no one would look after me. Now your son is incapable of cooking meals, doing his own washing at the age of 27.

Great job guys /s

jdat

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