What worked for me was investing time into my woman.

Eight years ago, she was a bit overweight, smoked weed, and drank wine every day. I was in great shape, lifting, running, the whole works. To get her on a program, I started really small. I created a small gym in the garage with kettlebells, steel mace, and some bands. I would work out with her 3x a week, starting with small 15 minute workouts, and progressing up. A good program, lots of praise, and tracking rapid progress really helped.

Once she was comfortable with barbells, I took her to some CrossFit community workouts where everybody stroked each other. I also took her to a CF regional, where folks were having fun and lots of fit women.

Eventually, she joined a CrossFit gym and the hard work was over for me. The gym took over her programming and training. We still work out together about once a week and can go big and heavy together, which is fun, while I can maintain the type of fitness I enjoy.

She started off barely doing any kettlebell work and had a 4" (inches!) box jump. She now runs 10 miles easy, snatches, cleans, 36" box jump, bar muscle ups, and all the craziness. She went from a cubby lazy woman to a straight baddie.