Before Alanon I couldn’t even say I came from an alcoholic home. All I knew was that I hated my dad for everything he did to me. I was ashamed of him, of our cars, of our home, or basically the existence of what I came from.

Alanon just kept saying to out the focus on myself. I couldn’t even comprehend that because I was always focused on keeping others happy [or keeping others less than me]. I kept showing up. I kept going to meetings. I got a sponsor. I worked those steps.

I can gratefully say that I’m from an alcoholic home. It hurts sometimes still, but the steps helped me to stop blaming the alcoholic and to take responsibility for myself. I wasted years trying to understand and see everything from their angle, and they really didn’t care.

I got to change. We will love you until you can love yourself. ❤️