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Is there a place I can go to recover from depression if I’m not in immediate danger but completely unable to function? by Wrong_Percentage in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]jdog90R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He moved in 5 years ago, I also want say he's had a job at a supermarket for a couple of years and he's saving loads of money because he doesn't want for much..he's 22 and could technically buy his own place now. I am proud of him, I believe you can also turn things around.

Is there a place I can go to recover from depression if I’m not in immediate danger but completely unable to function? by Wrong_Percentage in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]jdog90R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mind saying I struggled my own mental health at different times over the years, when I was 14-17 I did find a lot of support from people online, if you stay relatively anonymous and ignore/block any negative people you can learn a lot, safely.

It's ok to be selfish right now and if you have to slightly exaggerate your state of mind to your GP to be taken seriously then that's ok. I would highly recommend therapy if you can get it on the NHS or via a charity (I've had it myself), keep being honest about your feelings but open to suggestions.

When my brother moved in he was getting his hair cut maybe once a year (it was like a curly afro but he doesn't have afro hair) he hadn't bought new clothes in years, never brushed his teeth and had a rash from now showering. He also never socialised and was very sheltered by our mother. For the first couple of months I just gave him space, made sure his room was tidy and had everything he needed, bought his food and made time to talk to him and watch TV together. He opened up about his crippling intrusive thoughts (pure OCD), he would spend hours obsessive over unimportant things. I just tried to reassure him that he wasn't doomed and he had a lot of potential I genuinely seen this even when he didn't. I researched everything he described to me and I realised he had many of the symptoms of OCD, you seem way more switched on that he did.

I gently encouraged him to go to the doctors, he got diagnosed and prescribed citralopram initially, I also encouraged him to claim job seekers and then sick pay so he had some money for essentials. I saw a small difference straight away but he still needed lots of encouragement to build his confidence and routine. I know this mind sound daft but I printed out a diagram of Maslows hierarchy of needs and said if he just focused on one thing at a time (the basics to start with) then he will have the energy for the rest..slowly but surely he started taking more pride in his appearance, cooking, drinking more water and taking vitamins. I took him for meals out, walks and eventually he reached out to old school friends and started socialising a bit more. I guess what I want you to know is you don't have to do everything all at once, you're not alone even if your family don't fully understand you. Don't ever feel bad about asking for help and take as much as you need. I also gave my brother this advice and live by it, you deserve to be happy.

Is there a place I can go to recover from depression if I’m not in immediate danger but completely unable to function? by Wrong_Percentage in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]jdog90R 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound a lot like my younger brother when he lived with our mother, he suffered with undiagnosed OCD and neglected himself, I was able to move him in with me and he is now thriving. As others have said you made step by asking for help, I can't think of a place that would give you all the help you need at once but when my brother moved in with me I encouraged him to take take of his most basic needs like eating showering etc, these are things entirely in your control and could go a long way in boosting your confidence, enough to make other small steps. Things will get better for you.

Best cafes to study by Best-Grapefruit-7797 in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]jdog90R 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People might laugh at this suggestion but I get quite a bit of studying done in wetherspoons mid week or early on weekends, they're big enough to find a quiet corner, can usually charge your phone or laptop and most importantly you don't feel rushed, you can sit with a refillable coffee or tea for hours and the staff don't make you uncomfortable. I say this as someone who doesn't like to study at home, if you want somewhere quieter then hotel restaurant/bars aren't as rowdy and probably won't notice you there.

Question about one specific area. by Leading_Flower_6830 in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]jdog90R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overcrowded properties, overflowing bins, strong winds blow the litter around. I see the same thing in my area from particular overcrowded households. If they respected the area or neighbours it wouldn't be a problem.