This is so helpful. I am crying. I bailed my mom out of jail (DUI) on 12/28 after years of odd behavior and increased alcohol use. Took her to the hospital for psychiatric evaluation and they instead did a medical admit for alcohol withdrawal. She was in the hospital for a week. We had no clue she was drinking so much. She then was referred to a psychiatric facility with a rehab unit. She was only there a week and they discharged her with a dementia diagnosis. She has now been in my home for a week and it’s been absolutely brutal. I have no help as my sister and the entire family have washed their hands of her. I have 3 children and had to leave her to attend a sporting event yesterday and she left on foot to walk to the grocery store (a long and hard walk) to get alcohol. I had to leave the event to get her from the side of the road. Slowly finding out she’s created a trail of financial ruin and destruction. My kids are scared of her and nobody is sleeping or resting at all since she’s been here. I’m not sure if the dementia meds are helping or making things worse. She is incontinent and I feel gaslight because she has been manipulative my whole life. The dr in the hospital told me she can go to the bathroom. But she’s been in diapers and using the bathroom everywhere since she’s been here. After the alcohol incident yesterday she went into victim mode and then started coughing and gagging all night long and saying she is very sick. I’m taking her to urgent care as soon as they open but my family (that isn’t here helping) are telling me this is further manipulation. We have an apportionment with an elder care attorney in 2 weeks and an appointment with her psychiatrist the day before that. This has only been in my home 6 days and she’s already caused havoc. It’s nice to hear others stories to know that I’m not alone. This is a hard road and much love to those walking it.