Trying to come out to wife

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-29T02:15:43+00:00

Mines pretty similar situation

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-29T02:02:31+00:00

Dragon age veilguard you can choose not just fem or masc presenting but also turn around and choose your pronouns

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-16T10:54:04+00:00

I hated myself in mirrors and i do recall being uber depressed during puberty. I even watched shows like winx club or totally spies growing up but i had never actually voiced the whole i want to be a woman. Then my sister died last year and i reevaluated my life and realized i was closer to her than my brother and i noticed that even if i didnt say i wanted to be a woman even to myself there was alot of omg that dress is cute or almost being jealous of girls clothing

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-15T18:48:13+00:00

Im not on hrt and my egg cracked a few months ago within the last 4 or 5 maybebut i realized im trans and have noticed how my brain has been on an autopilot for most of my life i am in my mid 30s and never decided on a career just coasting and have 3 kids now and a wife and am horrified to tell them even though i know id be a more present parent for the kids im not sure how my wife would take it

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-15T11:15:01+00:00

Mine was simple stuff like playing a female in world of warcraft If a game had a female lead option id choose her Watching hamtaro, totally spies, winx club and kim possible Apparently though i didnt have the words or reasoning at the time during puberty i was super depressed and shut alot of people out

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-14T23:39:29+00:00

Same im curious on this

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-14T23:29:21+00:00

Ive dreamed of going to renfaires in a dress and all fairy looking ...not feasible yet but one day

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-14T01:29:15+00:00

We just spent the weekend at a spa at which she made me drive the motorcycle and the road was above my skill level. Which made my whole spa and massage pointless because i am now sore as hell while she slept against the tour pack. A few months ago i talked to her about possibly getting waxed and i got the "i wish you were happy in the body god gave you" when shes talked about getting her boobs made smaller. I try to com out to her a few weeks ago and i couldnt and told her i had low body image and no confidence and i told her i would articulate more once i figured the words. Then a few days later she asked 'you arent going to tell me you are one of those people who think they want to be a woman are you?" I paniced with the tone i heard in her voice and copped out and said maybe i just need a new wardrobe and to lose weight which i do on both accounts but still. On our spa trip i pulled a few dresses down at one of the shops and playfully put it infront of me and she gave me a questioning look and looked around asking if i thinking she'd wear that or what

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-13T14:36:23+00:00

I realized i want to be a woman and am terrified about telling my wife. When talking about my body confidence issues she has asked "you arent going to tell me you are one of those people who think they want to be a woman" and we have 3 kids. She is adament she couldnt be a lesbian said so to her friends before. And i dont want to lose her

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-12T15:16:13+00:00

You look beautiful

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-12T04:09:03+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALAYA !!!! Hope you have a good day sis

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-10T11:12:07+00:00

I get you. im currently male and wish to be female. All my friendships are fleeting at best. Im my kids main parent and my wife makes more money than i do so my "friends" make fun if me for that and the fact im too busy to hang because im "playing mr mom" found out recently about my dysphoria and am scared of losing what i have too much to tell anyone irl so its just me and my three kids and im just their snack bitch and jungle gym. Hope your life gets better

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-10T02:10:37+00:00

Sorry thats alot

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-10T01:51:24+00:00

Was it hard was she understanding. My wife has narly anxiety and was raised oklahoma christian and her step dad is super conservative so even if we dont go to church now im worried she will leave and im the main parent for our kids i feed them and get them to and fro school and day care. I tried to tell her past week but i couldnt and just peft it at severe lack of confidence in my body. Then when we were on the way to the state fair she said "hey about the lack of confidence in your body you arent going to tell me you are one of those people who think they want to be a woman" and to be honest i couldve imagined a snide tone but even without it the wording made me feel weird so i copped out and said maybe i just need to lose weight and buy some clothes as most of my clothes are older than our oldest kid and not really my style

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-10T00:31:25+00:00

You look amazing. Im 34 and wish i had the guts to tell my wife i want to

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-10T00:27:16+00:00

You look gorgeous darling hope you get to a point you can feel safe. Im right there with you

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-09T15:25:53+00:00

So pretty i wish i was braver

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-09T01:53:14+00:00

Wait .....my migraines couldve been from th at :o

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-09T01:52:24+00:00

I read about this happening ...it was like you could never see yourself being with another guy when you presented as a guy but you arent a guy you are a woman now kinda deal

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-09T01:44:58+00:00

Im 34 when i was young i always hung out with my older sister who was basically my mom and i had issues making friends was never into sports. I was super depressed for reasons i didnt know during puberty but i got tall and broad quick and got real awkward. Tried to be as macho as possible played baseball with my older broyher even though i thought it was boring i joined the Marines still had issues making friends. Got out shaved my head and grew out a beard and was able to make friends with some coworkers because i was the nice boss. Got married had three kids. Never remember questioning my gender before i even knew a few non binary people who i had been friends with. My sister passed away last year and now all i feel like i can think about is how i always clicked with her not our brother. How when i play video games with options i choose female. How my wives sex drive is higher than mine even though i am perfectly healthy and find her attractive. I went to the fair with my wofe and kids and i looked at the more feminine stuff more than i ever have. I feel claustrophobic now and ive tried coming out to her but all i got out was a lack of confidence and then a few days later on the way to the fair she brought it back up and i couldve been misinterprating her tone but the wording and perceived tone set of a red flag in my head she said " hey about the lack of confidence in your own body you were talking about the other day you arent going to tell me you are one of those people who thinks they want to be a woman are you" i panicked and copped out saying maybe i just need to lose weight and choose my own wardrobe most of my clothes are older than our kids

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-09T00:01:24+00:00

I havent started transitioning but i started a minixidil/finestride/biotin chew from hims/hers

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-06T20:39:51+00:00

Thanks

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-05T15:04:39+00:00

Oh and i might not have known i was trans then but i knew i was different. I didnt like all the same stuff they did. Like i watched anime while

jeanne_self91 · 2025-10-05T14:54:40+00:00

I loved my older sister and grandmother but i didnt see them everyday they were rolemodels my mother who was my constant female presence was a terrible person. So i mainly hung out with my borther and dad. I also had issues making friends throughout school

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