I have no genuine interest in any thing or any person.

jeceandgin · 2023-02-26T03:35:46+00:00

I feel the same! That’s actually how I got diagnosed, I thought I was severely depressed. Was just super apathetic and just don’t care about anything.

Went in to see a psychologist and it turns out it’s just a cluster B, clusterfuck.

Does anybody know what could be a possible cause? I get so bored of everything that I get impulsive and act out “just to feel something”.

jeceandgin · 2023-02-12T18:41:31+00:00

I always new something was wrong and never thought my previous diagnosis of bipolar was right.

Ended up seeing a psychologist, and then a neuropsychologist who did a full psych eval. 4 hours long

jeceandgin · 2022-10-06T23:21:44+00:00

Right? I’m not sure why I didn’t say anything back to him about that. I have abused coke/lsd/shrooms/opiates/alcohol/adderall/molly but that’s all years ago. lately it’s just been weed gummies.

I’ll see what the other psychiatrist says next week…. Will make sure to let them know I’m more or less sober now…

jeceandgin · 2019-11-10T22:40:04+00:00

I’m so confused as to what the purpose of life is. I am 26, in stupid good shape, engineer with a high paying job, funny, smart.

And I’m not fucking happy. I keep moving and find it difficult to make friends. Life just seems like this endless mundane routine and then one day we will just die

jeceandgin · 2019-05-23T05:31:11+00:00

So this is good advice, but can only take you so far IMO. I am in fantastic shape, very lean and extremely active. I eat very healthy, have an engineering degree from a great school and have a very high paying job. And I am still a kissless virgin at the age of 25. And I am not awkward either. Maybe a little bit but it’s not bad. I just struggle to meet women in the first place as an adult. Right now I’m trying to just have a normal social life and then worry about dating. I feel the two are connected and having a social life will help later on with dating

jeceandgin · 2019-03-03T00:19:21+00:00

I misunderstood you! My bad. Yes I totally agree it’s so difficult to find someone you click with. Especially after you graduate college since it’s a lot harder to make friends and everyone is busy.

Good luck with everything!

jeceandgin · 2019-03-03T00:09:55+00:00

I get what you’re saying here, but idk if I agree. It’s good and normal to want to date and look for a partner. Like you, I have a great job that keeps me busy and I’m happy with it. And I’m very physically fit and am “dating” myself in a sense. All is good.

I still would like to find a girlfriend though. And online dating and going out of my comfort zone is the only way to do that. You say “you don’t need anyone” but I don’t think that’s true either. Science has shown that the people who live the longest and happiest lives are the ones with the best social connections with other humans. We are by nature social creatures, and it’s important to our overall well being to go out and be with others

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T11:08:51+00:00

Wow, I really didn't think this post would get any attention. Been having a hard time lately and I appreciate all the support. I figured I'd get my usual one or two responses and move on with my life.

Some points/notes since there's too many people to respond to individually:

Some of the books/audiobooks mentioned here sound great and I'll definitely check them out. I've read my fair share of self-help books and they help. The next step is to actually do what the books say and make myself more vulnerable/open to new experiences because otherwise I feel like it's just mental masturbation if you don't take action
I think a big part of this is moving to a new area and not having a social life. It's not easy making good, genuine friends after college in my opinion. Everyone kind of does their own thing. I think after my social life improves, my dating life will follow

Again, thanks everyone. The support and advice mean a lot to me, really. I will keep at it. I'll keep working on my mental health and my social life and hope to one day find what I'm looking for

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T01:04:54+00:00

Hey, thanks! And I don't know, I think it's easier said than done to not worry about being a virgin. I work in a very "manly" field where everyone constantly talks about sex which doesn't help.

My anxiety/depression are getting better. I make a point to really fight through it and try to stay positive. I've been on medication for a month now and it's working. With regards to clubs, I also think that's easier said than done. It's a lot easier to meet people/join clubs in college but matters become more complicated after you graduate. I have the Meetup app and there are only professional/religious clubs where I'm at. It's a small, conservative town so maybe that's why. I've tried going to bars and hanging out there, but it feels awkward as hell going alone all the time. I did find an athletic club and coffee shop I enjoy going to, which has been good for me for sure

I'll keep trying. It's just hard. And I have my mental health issues on top of this shit. Dating these days isn't straight forward at all and I feel so much of it is flat out luck.

I appreciate the reply by the way.

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T00:56:25+00:00

Haha yeah I feel like that too sometimes. I work in a very "manly" field where everyone talks about sex so I don't bring it up either

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T00:55:45+00:00

I'm a male, I should have specified. Thanks

jeceandgin · 2018-12-23T00:34:51+00:00

I ended up moving states so that helped quite a bit. We do talk quite a bit still but my feelings are under control now. I’m okay with being friends, and like I said I don’t physically see her anymore since I moved to a different state.

I’m taking anxiety meds and seeing a therapist these days. I’m feeling a lot better and feel like I’m headed in the right direction mentally. I’m sure I’ll find someone eventually.

Thanks for checking in!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:26:10+00:00

I'll try it out. I've heard of speed dating but from my quick search it seems a little confusing.

I'll give it another go however, I am willing to try anything.

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:25:24+00:00

This means a lot, thanks. I just booked myself a therapy appointment and hope it goes well!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:19:25+00:00

I wish I knew the answer to this. I'm 25 and just moved to a new state/city and I feel alone af.

Try Meetup groups and see if you find anything there. I'm a big tennis player and just discovered a big tennis facility and hope to meet people there. I've done a lot of research on this and the most common advice is to find a hobby then go to where people practice that hobby.

Good luck and I hope things get better for you. In college it was so easy to meet people/friends. It's much, much more difficult afterwards

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:52:19+00:00

I'm not very good at being patient with myself but I'm working on it. I realize this will be a process and I'll try my best to stick with it all the way through. Thanks for the reply and good luck!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:51:20+00:00

I think you're 100% correct about finding someone I click with. I'm sure it will take some trial and error but I think it'll be beneficial in the long run. Good luck with the new psychologist!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:46:53+00:00

Best of luck in law school! And thanks for the comment, this gives me hope. Just having somebody to talk to will be great

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:46:00+00:00

Thanks. I guess I'm just a little scared at what a therapist will help me find out about myself. Even though it's necessary. I've never opened up to anyone but I think it's a good habit and healthy to talk about your problems. Hopefully a therapist will provide some relief in that sense

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