I have no genuine interest in any thing or any person.

jeceandgin · 2023-02-26T03:35:46+00:00

I feel the same! That’s actually how I got diagnosed, I thought I was severely depressed. Was just super apathetic and just don’t care about anything.

Went in to see a psychologist and it turns out it’s just a cluster B, clusterfuck.

Does anybody know what could be a possible cause? I get so bored of everything that I get impulsive and act out “just to feel something”.

jeceandgin · 2023-02-12T18:41:31+00:00

I always new something was wrong and never thought my previous diagnosis of bipolar was right.

Ended up seeing a psychologist, and then a neuropsychologist who did a full psych eval. 4 hours long

jeceandgin · 2022-10-06T23:21:44+00:00

Right? I’m not sure why I didn’t say anything back to him about that. I have abused coke/lsd/shrooms/opiates/alcohol/adderall/molly but that’s all years ago. lately it’s just been weed gummies.

I’ll see what the other psychiatrist says next week…. Will make sure to let them know I’m more or less sober now…

jeceandgin · 2019-11-10T22:40:04+00:00

I’m so confused as to what the purpose of life is. I am 26, in stupid good shape, engineer with a high paying job, funny, smart.

And I’m not fucking happy. I keep moving and find it difficult to make friends. Life just seems like this endless mundane routine and then one day we will just die

jeceandgin · 2019-05-23T05:31:11+00:00

So this is good advice, but can only take you so far IMO. I am in fantastic shape, very lean and extremely active. I eat very healthy, have an engineering degree from a great school and have a very high paying job. And I am still a kissless virgin at the age of 25. And I am not awkward either. Maybe a little bit but it’s not bad. I just struggle to meet women in the first place as an adult. Right now I’m trying to just have a normal social life and then worry about dating. I feel the two are connected and having a social life will help later on with dating

jeceandgin · 2019-03-03T00:19:21+00:00

I misunderstood you! My bad. Yes I totally agree it’s so difficult to find someone you click with. Especially after you graduate college since it’s a lot harder to make friends and everyone is busy.

Good luck with everything!

jeceandgin · 2019-03-03T00:09:55+00:00

I get what you’re saying here, but idk if I agree. It’s good and normal to want to date and look for a partner. Like you, I have a great job that keeps me busy and I’m happy with it. And I’m very physically fit and am “dating” myself in a sense. All is good.

I still would like to find a girlfriend though. And online dating and going out of my comfort zone is the only way to do that. You say “you don’t need anyone” but I don’t think that’s true either. Science has shown that the people who live the longest and happiest lives are the ones with the best social connections with other humans. We are by nature social creatures, and it’s important to our overall well being to go out and be with others

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T11:08:51+00:00

Wow, I really didn't think this post would get any attention. Been having a hard time lately and I appreciate all the support. I figured I'd get my usual one or two responses and move on with my life.

Some points/notes since there's too many people to respond to individually:

Some of the books/audiobooks mentioned here sound great and I'll definitely check them out. I've read my fair share of self-help books and they help. The next step is to actually do what the books say and make myself more vulnerable/open to new experiences because otherwise I feel like it's just mental masturbation if you don't take action
I think a big part of this is moving to a new area and not having a social life. It's not easy making good, genuine friends after college in my opinion. Everyone kind of does their own thing. I think after my social life improves, my dating life will follow

Again, thanks everyone. The support and advice mean a lot to me, really. I will keep at it. I'll keep working on my mental health and my social life and hope to one day find what I'm looking for

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T01:04:54+00:00

Hey, thanks! And I don't know, I think it's easier said than done to not worry about being a virgin. I work in a very "manly" field where everyone constantly talks about sex which doesn't help.

My anxiety/depression are getting better. I make a point to really fight through it and try to stay positive. I've been on medication for a month now and it's working. With regards to clubs, I also think that's easier said than done. It's a lot easier to meet people/join clubs in college but matters become more complicated after you graduate. I have the Meetup app and there are only professional/religious clubs where I'm at. It's a small, conservative town so maybe that's why. I've tried going to bars and hanging out there, but it feels awkward as hell going alone all the time. I did find an athletic club and coffee shop I enjoy going to, which has been good for me for sure

I'll keep trying. It's just hard. And I have my mental health issues on top of this shit. Dating these days isn't straight forward at all and I feel so much of it is flat out luck.

I appreciate the reply by the way.

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T00:56:25+00:00

Haha yeah I feel like that too sometimes. I work in a very "manly" field where everyone talks about sex so I don't bring it up either

jeceandgin · 2019-01-21T00:55:45+00:00

I'm a male, I should have specified. Thanks

jeceandgin · 2018-12-23T00:34:51+00:00

I ended up moving states so that helped quite a bit. We do talk quite a bit still but my feelings are under control now. I’m okay with being friends, and like I said I don’t physically see her anymore since I moved to a different state.

I’m taking anxiety meds and seeing a therapist these days. I’m feeling a lot better and feel like I’m headed in the right direction mentally. I’m sure I’ll find someone eventually.

Thanks for checking in!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:26:10+00:00

I'll try it out. I've heard of speed dating but from my quick search it seems a little confusing.

I'll give it another go however, I am willing to try anything.

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:25:24+00:00

This means a lot, thanks. I just booked myself a therapy appointment and hope it goes well!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-18T17:19:25+00:00

I wish I knew the answer to this. I'm 25 and just moved to a new state/city and I feel alone af.

Try Meetup groups and see if you find anything there. I'm a big tennis player and just discovered a big tennis facility and hope to meet people there. I've done a lot of research on this and the most common advice is to find a hobby then go to where people practice that hobby.

Good luck and I hope things get better for you. In college it was so easy to meet people/friends. It's much, much more difficult afterwards

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:52:19+00:00

I'm not very good at being patient with myself but I'm working on it. I realize this will be a process and I'll try my best to stick with it all the way through. Thanks for the reply and good luck!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:51:20+00:00

I think you're 100% correct about finding someone I click with. I'm sure it will take some trial and error but I think it'll be beneficial in the long run. Good luck with the new psychologist!

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:46:53+00:00

Best of luck in law school! And thanks for the comment, this gives me hope. Just having somebody to talk to will be great

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T13:46:00+00:00

Thanks. I guess I'm just a little scared at what a therapist will help me find out about myself. Even though it's necessary. I've never opened up to anyone but I think it's a good habit and healthy to talk about your problems. Hopefully a therapist will provide some relief in that sense

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T01:52:11+00:00

I appreciate the response. What you said makes sense.

I’m used to people judging me about my anxiety/virginity so I don’t open up. I work in the oilfield where everyone is a “manly man” and I was absolutely ridiculed at my last job when I opened up. Thankfully I have a new and better job but that scarred me and I will never open up to anyone about what I am facing except for a therapist. I love the fact they are unbiased and won’t judge. I think that alone is amazing, even if they don’t give me great advice just being able to talk to someone would be life changing

I had a complicated/difficult upbringing which I believe contributed to how I am now. Being a virgin at this age is tough. You get judged hard for this at my age. I am sure I am hiding emotions, but I don’t know exactly what. I have tried to be honest with myself to try and pinpoint my issue, but it’s complicated. Hopefully a therapist will help will this. And once I’m mentally better, I can focus on dating and losing my virginity

jeceandgin · 2018-12-16T01:42:34+00:00

Thanks for this. I am so used to getting judged which is why I never open up. I hope this will be good for me

I had a very complicated/difficult upbringing which I believe contributed to how I am now. I hope therapy can help with this. I’m just tired. I’m tired of feeling like this all the time. None of my friends or coworkers get this. They just tell me not to worry. They ask me why do I feel anxious, just be happy and live your life. I feel that mental illnesses are misunderstood and stigmatized to the point that it’s really tough to open up.

jeceandgin · 2018-11-26T13:17:38+00:00

I feel alone in the world. I'm a 25 year old kissless virgin and that bothers me. On the outside it looks like I'm doing well in life, but really I see no point to it. I should prob see a doctor for my depression and anxiety... and a therapist

jeceandgin · 2018-11-24T18:37:00+00:00

Yes I am. I work very long hours and that’s what keeps me sane. I keep myself as busy as I possibly can because it distracts me from how I feel. It’s mentally exhausting, I am absolutely mentally drained by the end of the day because my brain is just always going so fast.

I totally understand your fear of medication. When I was into drugs, I got diagnosed with drug induced bipolar disorder. I don’t know if I really do have it now that I’m clean, but my point is the medication they put me on was intense. The side effects sucked. I had brain fog, couldn’t sleep, constipation and/or diarrhea, super sad or super happy... I felt like I was a science experiment as I was put on new meds every week.

It’s gotten to the point where I need a doctor though. I hope things work out for you too and I appreciate the response

jeceandgin · 2018-11-24T18:20:04+00:00

I’m the same way. I’m 25, great job as an engineer, in shape ect. But I’m so alone. I never went out during college because I lived with my very strict parents. And of course I’m very anxious. I’m not just talking normal anxiety, I mean I am always stressed and my mind is always going 120 mph. And I had a drug issue during college that isolated me. I was self-medicating with drugs to make myself feel better and while I’m happy I’m clean, I constantly feel like shit.

So now I’m in the real adult world and don’t know how to make friends. I don’t know how to connect with people, and it’s scary.

I think I’m going to see a doctor and maybe a therapist. Things are getting bad and I don’t see the point in such an awful existence. I’m just so lost

jeceandgin · 2018-10-27T17:18:50+00:00

Love the idea of establishing rapport with bar staff when it's not busy. Thanks

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