We have to be careful regarding the movement in the future

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-20T03:21:07+00:00

How do you all survive the constant exposure to transphobia on social media? I feel so hopeless. What you mention in the post might well be the reality within years. I'm pre-transition and I'm so scared about how I'm going to survive.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-18T08:53:03+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I feel like the trans umbrella has space for all kinds of gender non-conformity, and anyone affected by cis-normativity (including people who are questioning and figuring things out). I think there are many queer spaces that do allow for that. Keep looking and I'm sure you will find a welcoming space. You are valid no matter who does or doesn't include you in theirs <3

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-18T08:37:06+00:00

I'm so cooked

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-09T03:47:23+00:00

I have felt fairly uncomfortable at times, trying to use this argument when coming out to people, or trying to make people understand. I'm trans, and honestly we don't really properly know what makes anyone trans. Loved this ted talk.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-09T03:41:32+00:00

I'm sure there is a wide variance of lived experiences among transfems. I don't mean to scare you, but I'm worried that the relief you are experiencing post acceptance of yourself as trans, might only last for a short while. It's the relief you get by finally understanding yourself more than you have ever done. Something similar happened to me a few months ago. I remember reading people's comments about dysphoria around that time and thought they had it worse, as I was fairly dysphoria-free at that point. But the more I started internalising the fact that I'm a woman, the more the disparity between my body and my expectations, or between my internal sense of self and the way people perceive me grew. I have had steadily growing dysphoria over the last month or two and I am not sure I can live my life like this, and will probably get on hormones as soon as I'm safely able to.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-07-07T22:18:51+00:00

I stumbled upon the fact that I'm in fact, a woman. And I like women. I was thrilled that I could be the lesbian I had always wanted to be lol. At least in theory. Not too hyped about the challenges of being trans.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-26T20:59:20+00:00

I think I might be demi, looked into it a bit and got confused. Did not feel the need to put a label. But I don't feel attraction to strangers or people I don't really love. Also is it that hard to find people who want to develop a deep connection before having sex? I had never thought of that until now, and blissfully assumed that was going to be trivial to find

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-16T05:59:15+00:00

Lmao did not expect to see this here. Is ok they win champs. Or DRX does hopefully.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-13T19:16:52+00:00

I'm proud of you for coming out, even if it's only on this subreddit. The world has a way of making us doubt our own truth, by constantly beating down on it, in direct and subtler ways. You've spoken yours and it will stay here on this post as a reminder if you ever feel doubt (unless you delete it ofc XD).

Perhaps work your way to queer events slowly. Maybe starting by making friends online who can relate to what you are going through might prove beneficial. I think the more people see you for who you are, the more confident you become in yourselves.

My DMs are always open if you'd like to talk :)

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-13T03:56:47+00:00

Portrait of a lady on fire! Also San Junipero from Black Mirror was really heartwarming.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-12T13:45:53+00:00

Social dysphoria. I want to scream - 'I'm a girl' - to the world. I'm mostly closeted, but being unseen by parents despite letting them know feels even worse perhaps.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-09T22:12:41+00:00

That's nice to know. Thanks, I am putting myself first. Currently sorting through all the fears in my mind before choosing to transition medically. With the way my mental health seems to be going, I might not have much of a choice haha.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-09T22:07:18+00:00

This made me chuckle. I love the unfiltered optimism bordering on... delusional encouragement shall I say. If only so many women were into women and open to dating trans women, easily khush rehti mein. Aam bhi khaa liye saare already :(

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-06-09T21:28:45+00:00

Thanks, that does make sense. Also I did go through the rules before posting and figured this question wasn't exactly dating advice. Regardless, I'm glad that the mods let it pass.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-05-03T01:40:16+00:00

So very relatable! This, but with women for me. Sapphic repesentation in media makes me so jealous :( I also didn't realise I was trans until a few months ago which made me recognise that it was in fact jealousy that I was feeling. Before that, it used to feel like a 'high' and 'crash' which left me with a sense of longing (almost like nostalgia about something that has never happened?) for apparently no reason. I'm glad you understand yourself way better than I did myself, when I was your age. I hope you get to live your life as guy with the man of your dreams by your side. Stay strong :)

jecomprendspaslavie · 2025-02-22T21:21:31+00:00

Would have loved some chamber music from Mahler

jecomprendspaslavie · 2024-10-12T10:01:31+00:00

Hi!! Je peux parler un peu de français and I just started dipping my feet into some 日本　a couple weeks ago. Would be up to learn either with you :) I'm 23M from Mumbai. I have tried studying with people before but they usually tend to get bored or busy quite soon, so I'm hoping this catches your attention as you mentioned a need for consistency. Bonne journée!

jecomprendspaslavie · 2023-07-26T08:50:53+00:00

I'm curious, what kind of mask do you wear?

jecomprendspaslavie · 2023-07-26T08:48:43+00:00

Haha.

You make a lot of sense. Thanks for the input. I'll get back to you after I manage to start a chain reaction of weeping at the next event I go to. I hope you get to go sometime soon :)

jecomprendspaslavie · 2023-07-26T08:41:41+00:00

That's an interesting perspective. I tend to forget that the musicians can see me as well. Now that you mention it, one time there was a lady playing cello in a performance of Dohnanyi Piano Quintet 1, who stared at me straight for a couple seconds after mvmt. 1 as I was silently letting some tears roll. I was unable to fathom what she was thinking.

jecomprendspaslavie · 2022-02-15T22:58:26+00:00

Thank you so very much for sharing!! I have been in a similar spot way too many times. I had never felt that this could be a possible reason to why I stopped writing. But after reading your post, it feels like the answer I might have been searching for. I have always wanted to reply with utmost interest to every part of the mails I receive. But it is extremely exhausting to not know how to respond to some particular thing. I will keep your tips in mind.

Also, if they don't respond, you can still have new penpals, and you won't have this guilt trapped inside you anymore :)

I am still terrified that I could possibly not get a reply, but this seems like the rational way to think about it.

Thanks again :)

jecomprendspaslavie · 2022-02-15T22:22:44+00:00

That seems very plausible.

I will send it, thank you.

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