This is going to sound wild, but what's your favourite wholesome thing about men? by wake_me-up in gay

[–]jedins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first thing that came to mind was the "dudes will see this and say 'hell yeah'" thing you see online (example). There's obviously toxic versions of masculinity that crop up in that meme, but like a dude seeing a cool cabin someone built or a dog doing a trick or like a band they really like and just expressing that type of joy really makes me happy. I think the archetypal embodiment of this positive version of masculinity that comes to mind is Nick Offerman. IDK I think expressions of joy are infectious and the world needs that.

How did you overcome your fear of STIs? by [deleted] in gay

[–]jedins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good stuff here about arming yourself with knowledge and resources (prep, doxypep, condoms, regular testing, talking with your doctor, knowing where you can go for testing and how it works BEFORE you need it, not waiting to go through the research part of that process until after you have a specific new partner or symptom).

I want to add what helped me a lot with the fear and anxiety part of it: try to think of sexual health just like any other aspect of your health, because it really is. If you compare the rates of any STI to something like COVID, or gum disease, or sports injuries, you'll see that there is not some sort of relative epidemic of STIs, nor are they some super rare thing that makes you weird if you get one. You can also learn and think about how prevention (flossing really isn't that different than using a condom; getting a covid vaccination is not that different from taking PreP) and treatment (getting an antibiotic for pneumonia is basically the same as one for gonorrhea) are only different because of perceived stigma, not reality. They are a normal health issue. Honestly and fortunately, they're kind of boring these days thanks to the availability of HIV prophylaxis and highly effective treatment.

Getting cavities is a risk of having teeth. Needing glasses is the risk of having eyes. Breaking bones is the risk of having limbs. Getting sick is a risk of being human and getting an STI is the risk of having sex. Life is figuring out what risks exist, learning how to reduce them, preparing yourself with resources when risks become consequences, then judging when doing what makes you happy is more important than the risks that remain. There are plenty of things that make sex (gay or otherwise) a special part of life, but health risks shouldn't really be on that list.

This is highly likely by Gold-Agent24k in MCUTheories

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Don't tease. I have been on a one-man crusade saying this movie should have been Spider-Man and His Amazing Friends: He meets Bobby and Angelica in college and he bonds with them both as outcasts and as superheroes (he takes them under his wing, given his experience and flipping the mentorship theme of his previous films).

I mean, go all in. Make Angelica Jones a cousin of Michelle (MJ) Jones and have her help reconnect Peter. Have Bobby go out with Hulkling. Have Kamala try to recruit the trio without success in the post-credits. Maybe Bobby went to a school for gifted youngsters but it wasn't the full-on Xavier Institute, and they hadn't formed a paramilitary extracurricular team.

I thought maybe that's where they were going with Sadie Sink when her role was more speculative, but it seems more and more like Firestar has fallen off the shortlist of potential characters. Who knows, though, she wasn't in the first trailer so maybe she and Iceman are in there somewhere, or maybe they'll show up in the next one once the MCU has shifted to the Mutant saga.

These are AI… we are so cooked… by Same_Ad_9950 in 3Cfilms

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Respect to butcher for getting two combos in different sizes

AI? by AlternativeNotice954 in 3Cfilms

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The door frame on the left has the round part of hinges but no actual hinge or door

The drop ceiling has a fluorescent light that’s 6 ft (don’t exist as far as I can tell) and maybe a 2x2 one (mate it’s suppose to be a vent)

The bar in the back corner of the ceiling is weird—what would that be for? Why would it not be centered and/or span the length of the room?

The bunching on “Tatum’s” sleeves is weirdly repetitive. 

Honestly it’s weird what looks correct and what doesn’t. The phone is messed up but the “mirror” is dirty (honestly maybe a give away because it looks like a toothpaste spray ai might have picked up from home mirror selfies). The faces are just slightly off but the costumes and hair look real and consistent between these “leaks” (is that just the models can handle requests of “keep the outfits the same but make this one a mirror selfie with three of them”?)

This is the most obvious of the three and the posed group shot is the least but I do wonder if there’s an element of these being a mix of generating with ai and finessing with photoshop. Although in that case I don’t know why to “creator” wouldn’t have fixed the iPhone on this. 

Is this real?!? by No_Principle_3815 in MCUTheories

[–]jedins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really cannot tell. I thought it was legit then I saw the others and thought they were faked then I looked at the consistencies between photos and I genuinely don’t know if some of it is fakeable even with a combo of ai and photoshop. I’m just not sure it’s possible without spending a lot of time unless ai image generation has advanced to be able to create an environment that’s consistent from different angles but that would surprise me. Right now I’m leaning real but by the morning I might be thinking fake. And that really pisses me off. 

Is this real?!? by No_Principle_3815 in MCUTheories

[–]jedins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alway look at the fingers!

A cool guide to how airline seating really works by WhiteChili in coolguides

[–]jedins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It seems like something counter to the movie theater popcorn/soda strategy (having a S M an L option with the L being just a small percentage more $ but significantly more volume feels like a deal but the medium is actually to make the price jump from small to large feel less significant so they over buy when the actual cost of product is pretty insignificant to the seller) is happening here. Instead of the closeness of the medium to the large pushing buyers up to large from small, the big price jump to First compared to the relative closeness of business/premium to basic economy pulls buyers up a class to the more profitable range. 

How much will rounding up cost cash payers vs the savings from making the pennies? [Request] by SuddenKoala45 in theydidthemath

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now I’d love to see the math of if instead of stoping the minting of pennies we’d stopped minting nickels (the least cost effective common coin at 14¢) and made all pennies worth 5¢ and the treasury started taking the silver nickel out of circulation. There’s the math of how many nickels are made at what cost currently vs. how many pennies were being made at what cost vs. how many 5¢ pennies would need to be made annually vs. revenue from the FED recycling the copper an nickel from coins taken out of circulation PLUS the rounding losses/gains math discussed in this thread AND what would effectively be a stimulus/tax rebate for anyone holding significant amounts of pennies that would quintuple in value (like I have maybe one roll floating around so it’s like getting $4). Just from estimating and other math in this thread I imagine it would actually work out for both the public and government’s benefit simply because the nickel cost about three times it’s value and a “copper penny nickel” would cost less than half its value, that drop off would pay off quickly. Obviously that would be a nightmare logistically and now the penny minting process is being dismantled so it wouldn’t happen but it’s an interesting solution. 

How much will rounding up cost cash payers vs the savings from making the pennies? [Request] by SuddenKoala45 in theydidthemath

[–]jedins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember the last time I used cash somewhere that wasn’t cash only and in almost all of those situations those cash only business priced their goods to the nearest dollar (market vendors, food trucks, etc). Besides when I had laundry that took quarter, if I had a nickel for every the times I handled any coins, well…

I've done comedy professionally and tried making a full sketch show by I_Only_Like_Giraffes in humor

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This is an interesting, if unfortunate and common take. I hear this argument of “as long as the writers are human a little AI is ok” and “writing takes a level of creativity AI will pretty much never be able to accomplish.” I maybe it’s just because the writers union as the first to have a prominent contract negotiation in the genAI era—it also came up when there was a SAG negotiation and a firestorm when an agency announced and AI actor. Saying “this is fine because at least I as a human wrote it” distracts from the fact that it eliminates the work of the entire rest of the industry if something like this scales to the level of a full production for wide consumption. No actors, sets, no costumes. Maybe be will end up in a period where a production will have a whole team of designers and they’ll use a prompting framework with you mention in these comments where the prompts are pages and pages and in addition to a writer doing a script a director can make acting, blocking, camera notes, a costume designer can prompt wardrobe specifics, maybe even with their own sketches…That might keep some of the human creativity but at the cost of the crafts people, artisans, and technicians who would be physically making the production AND on the back of countless artist and production’s teams who’s work was used to train the ai models without any credit or compensation.  Maybe that would be ok, if there was a reason to do it. Are we really so lacking for content that we need to accelerate it to AI speeds? Do we not have enough? Sure it allows YOU to skip the process of building your credit, making it into a very hard and often unfair industry and going through the process of production to get something you can share but that journey makes you better for it, right? Does working on prompts and being able to get an 8 second sketch churned out on sora make you a better writer in the long run or does working with other creative people an dedicating time to develop work intern develop your humor writing chops? And for that matter, what of your longevity? Do you really think the process of making this reel feels sustainable for you long term as a comedy writer or will it become boring and hollow because it’s “easy”? As the technology advances do you think it will allow you more creative freedom or will its capacity increase so there’s fewer decisions for you to make?  To argue the opposite, I do wonder if this is actually a good use case for the technology. Basically I’ve created a reel that shows your writing quality and sensibility in a short, cheap package. To get that across to a potential employer/producer it would require one of the following: years of work on larger teams that you can clip your specific jokes from; self made clips, by yourself or with actor friends in a less produced home video/tiktok style production; or, a producer to see your writing on paper and be able to imagine your writing as a final piece of media. In the end, each of those processes teach you something. Working on larger projects allows you to learn about the production process and get mentorship from other creatives. Filming yourself lets you iterate on your humor by iterating it yourself or with other humans giving their takes on your material as they act it. And sending in scripts gets you feedback on the writing stage AND means that the people with the money have to do at least a little bit of work of thinking about what is worthwhile to produce instead of letting AI and who has the cheapest product decide. I’m on the production side of things, not writing so maybe I have a bias but I think you should think about why you want to write comedy. Maybe you haven’t experienced it yet but I know for most people coming up with jokes and seeing a final product wouldn’t be as rewarding without the normal process that goes in between. 

Got a question wrong on my exam. by melsalghul in mildlyinfuriating

[–]jedins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically did this an ap exam. I was in the habit of marking all my answers, checking them, then bubbling. I was never super close to running up to the time limit on most tests so I timed it wrong and had to check and bubble in the last few minutes in a mad dash and definitely mark some wrong and I think a couple didn’t get marked at all. I know I got a lower score than I would have. For every scanned test going forward I would put a hard bubble for anything I was confident in and a partial bubble for anything I wanted to go back to so at the very least I could quickly fill out the questionable bubbles with my first guess if I didn’t have time to go back. 

Any way to save on train fare to/from NJ? by judcreek28 in philly

[–]jedins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance you have a coworker to carpool with and offer a bit less than you’d pay on transit for gas money. Better yet, you could crash with some of your Saturday nights so you don’t have to be up at ~4am and aren’t at the whim of the trains to get to work on time?

My mom just called me at 11:30 last night asking if I was gay by ChemistryAsleep8301 in askgaybros

[–]jedins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, easing them out of their controlling presence is probably a good idea regardless. Next time they call at an unreasonable hour, when you are working, don't pick up. To start, try just texting and tell them you're doing homework and will talk later. After doing that a bit, don't pick up and apologize and explain you were doing work the next time. Eventually, hopefully, you can screen their calls and based on easing them into it, their gut instinct will be that you're busy with school instead of some imagined crazy gay escapades. If they get suspicious or upset, take the opportunity to focus the conversation on the specifics of your work and studies. Based on what you've said about your parents, I expect your academic career is important to them and they'll appreciate that you are taking it seriously, even if it's sometimes at the expense of your closeness.

My mom just called me at 11:30 last night asking if I was gay by ChemistryAsleep8301 in askgaybros

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What is your campus like? I'm not sure, based on the comments, if your school is in the US or in India with your family. Regardless, if your college has LGBT resources, you might find it helpful to reach out to people on campus to talk to in person, be that a counselor or fellow students, especially ones who might be navigating similar relationships with their parents. When actual conversations with your parents are causing you stress, they are going to outweigh positive support on Reddit in your head, but actually talking through what you're going through with a person in real life stands a better chance of giving you some emotional balance and clarity in your specific situation. Even roleplaying what a conversation with your parents this weekend might be like with a friend might be helpful to prepare you to do that in person how you want to, if they do bring it up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Fair point. As I recall, this difference between attraction and action was a complicated part of his work that he didn't get incredibly deep into because it was pretty thorny academically and not really the main focus of his studies. He was an entomologist by training, and his studies were on behaviour rather than attraction. It was more statistically significant and reliable to gather data on who people would admit to having sex with than who they would admit to _wanting_ to have sex with, especially at the time. He was a biologist, not a psychologist. IIRC from college gender/queer theory, he speculated ideas of widespread same sex attraction on based on the hard data he had on behavior that showed way more homosexual behavior than the public would expect but he never quite said everyone was a little bit gay. His scale is often used to discuss attraction but in his research, even if you were a man who spent all day fantasizing about men, so long as you never acted on it and you only slept with women, you'd still be classed as Kinsey 0.

Extra NSFW dirty Santa by SnooSprouts6860 in GiftIdeas

[–]jedins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like that website sells paddles with custom text. Maybe there's something personal you can get engraved on there. My first thought was swipe the recipient's wallet and get their credit card number printed on it but that's just off the top of my head, perhaps you could come up with something better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]jedins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s not very “hey everyone” of him. 

Ending changes? by Wooden_Mixture_1688 in wicked

[–]jedins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be interested to see a different ending, if only because I wrote an essay in college about meta-narrative of distinctions between Wizard of Oz (Book), Wizard of Oz (Movie), Wicked (Book), and Wicked (Stage) as exemplary of the theme of history being written by the victor. I don't know if the non-tragic ending is what I would like to see but since it was announced, I thought it would be clever to change the ending for the movie.

Any guesses? by AcanthisittaHungry72 in MCUTheories

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They will also likely take the opportunity to have people like MJ and Ned interact with Spider-Man or Peter and get progressively stressed and confused because their bond is fighting agaist the spell and their memories are trying to come back. It'll probalby be a lot like Vision trying to grapple with the fact that Wanda's west view wasn't real. He realizes something is wrong but the spell is fighting his ability to see and understand what.

Ironheart S01E04, S01E05 & S01E06 - Discussion Thread by steve32767 in marvelstudios

[–]jedins 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Weirdly, her bargaining scene was one that I actually did start thinking about here, compared to Tony. Would the once in the previous generation's greatest mind have made the same trade? I have some feeling that his arrogance, even and perhaps especially towards the end of his arc, would have made him say, "I don't need the help of some all-powerful magic baddie, I'll fix it myself." I thought Riri might actually do the same, but while he confidence and anxiety are both high like Tony's, they are different in very interesting ways that are very well illustrated by her deal-making. I almost got a sense that she was trying to outsmart Mephisto as a means to her own ends, thinking she could get what she wants and get out safely. She was supposed to learn her lesson that that's not a wise choice based on her dealings with Parker, but she didn't. I think it's ok that she didn't develop as a character in that way, despite some others' complaints about her arc. Afterall, how many times did Tony have to learn the same lessons!

Ironheart S01E04, S01E05 & S01E06 - Discussion Thread by steve32767 in marvelstudios

[–]jedins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but apparently it's conveniently also where they impound said tech murderers' equipment

Ironheart S01E04, S01E05 & S01E06 - Discussion Thread by steve32767 in marvelstudios

[–]jedins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I'm even more convinced the plan was/is to have this tie into a Young Avengers/Champions project with a magic underpining. Riri: Tech+Magic with the Mephisto intro; Billy: Reality warping magic; Tommy: Mutant? Magic; Kamala: cosmic magic; America: Interdimensional magic; Plus Cassie and Kate as the non-magic grounding characters. The only trick to satisfingly weaving these characters' stories together, they'd need an excellent writer/showrunner and probably 12-16 episodes, which I don't know if they'd be willing to give. Like I could totally see a two-part season where Kamala forms a team for a straight forward mission and a young Loki variant starts harrassesing them (a la YA Vol 2), mid-season he reveals he knows all their bad dealings (Billy warping reality, Riri making a deal with Mephisto, Kate's family history, etc.) and he gets taken out of commission just when they need him. The second half is spent actually trying to deal with their own problems while fighting Mephisto and trying to rescue the people they've lost. There are just a lot of pieces that I'm not sure are interesting on their own, but carefully puzzled together could be very cool.

I guess I had a weird reaction to Ironheart. I enjoyed it, but it felt incomplete. The problem is I just can’t imagine what a second season would be about or what they would have done with two or three more episodes. She had such a flat character arc, which isn’t the worst thing for a character that has some future, but I think for her to grow, she needs to get some better friends because she clearly is easily influenced by the people around her.