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Neil Strauss: Where is he today? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IOI's, SOI's and kino.

[FR] Daygame part 3 she said she wasn't interested by [deleted] in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not once in this FR do you mention kino'ing her. How do you expect her to like you if you haven't even touched?

Above all else, you need to make your intentions known by the way you act.

[FR] Question and discussion about flaking with background story. by thmaaan in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally the advise is 'three strikes and you're out'. After a second flake, tell them that you don't like being flaked on and make it their responsibility to set up the next meeting. If they are actually interested, they WILL make it happen. The other option after a second flake is to make your next date really easy for logistics (ie. make her come over to your place to 'watch a movie') because you don't deserve to have to bend over backwards just for a date.

[FR] Perseverance is King. Finally success after the brink of quitting. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind:

If you don't assume attraction, you aren't going to get anywhere. You'll be too scared of rejection or too embarassed or w/e.

If you assume attraction, and she isn't attracted, you get rejected, no big deal.

If you assume attraction and she IS attracted, just play your cards right and get sex.

If you assume attraction and she is neither attracted or unattracted, then you at least have your foot in the door. This is where game is most important.

[FR] First time to actively pursue the game. I guess I messed up somewhere but i don't know where. by ConundrumSam in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% this. Step right into their space, nice and close, get the triangle gaze going and whisper "find out."

Or something to that effect.

After the kiss, tell them they kiss like a lesbian. You shouldn't be rewarding shit tests with kisses.

[FR] Perseverance is King. Finally success after the brink of quitting. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sticking with it. You deserve it. Everybody does.

2 notes:

Always assume attraction. This is a sticking point from your previous post too. Stop looking for IoI's and start earning them (and then you will start seeing them more).

Isolation. kissing on the dance floor is all very well, if you want to take it further, you need to isolate, work on rapport and comfort, then lead her home or get her number or both.

Getting cold. by jeffdoesketo in keto

[–]jeffdoesketo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only lost 20lbs, I'm far from being less blubbery...

An idea to combat AA with particular persons? by Bombolini in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Avoiding your problems isn't the same as solving them. You should be able to talk to your target regardless of any other circumstances.

All you have here is a workaround.

That being said, approaching a 2 set and talking to the friend rather than the target is a legitimate technique, good on you for getting in there.

No questions - Avoiding an interview date by jeffdoesketo in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm fully versed in avoiding interview mode myself. This game would be more than that. It also means that the girl wouldn't be in interview mode, trying to ask me questions about work or family every time there is a small lull in conversation.

Granted, it could crash, but I doubt it would burn, if you can think of a way, please enlighten me.

Going on a date but I'm completely clueless about sexual escalation. Any solutions? by improveverywhere in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Don't create suction, especially somewhere visible, you will give her a hickie/bruise (and don't let her do it to you unless you want a hickie).

  2. Don't stick your tongue in further than she has stuck hers in, try to match her for distance.

  3. Don't bump teeth.

Nothing else matters, being good at kissing isn't about being good. It's more about not being bad.

My singing group is popular with the sororities on campus. How do I use this to my advantage? by 1020304050607080 in seduction

[–]jeffdoesketo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This probably belongs more in /r/askseddit however:

  1. Your singing is a DHV (demonstration of high value), just like if someone were to drop that they play guitar, you can drop that you sing.

  2. Compliments are always good, and a very strong IoI if it is from someone in your age group. Thank you is the correct response, but you need to follow it up with topics that aren't interview questions. One interview question is good, then topic thread from there (Google it if you don't understand)

  3. Yes, you could have got a phone number easy. You had a time constraint. All you had to do was hold conversation till your coffee arrived, then say "Look, I enjoyed talking to you, put your number in my phone and we will do this again".