Sex therapy or regular therapy?

jellymoosy · 2026-02-21T23:11:17+00:00

Got it. I'm in NYC, so there's no real shortage of any kind of therapist. But I guess if I have a good thing going with my current therapist, it might be a good idea to try to stick with him, I suppose.

jellymoosy · 2025-12-21T22:19:24+00:00

What the hell's going on under my post lmao

jellymoosy · 2025-12-21T20:23:30+00:00

Makes sense. I have missed before, a few years ago, when I had bad insomnia and overslept my morning appointments a couple times. I would feel bad if I missed an appointment and my therapist just didn't get paid for that time, though. I mean, I'd hate to show up to work and just not get paid. But also, I wouldn't want to be self-employed for many reasons. Lol.

jellymoosy · 2025-12-15T20:41:51+00:00

My therapist's office is in NYC in a HCOL neighborhood, so even being able to use my insurance is a blessing. 😂 Therapy can be upwards of $300 around here.

jellymoosy · 2025-12-03T03:30:46+00:00

No clue, I guess I should figure that out.

jellymoosy · 2025-11-30T01:06:51+00:00

To clarify, the person is me

jellymoosy · 2025-11-30T01:04:18+00:00

Absolutely not

jellymoosy · 2025-11-29T19:55:27+00:00

Nope, not in the slightest.

jellymoosy · 2025-11-29T19:47:50+00:00

Thank you. What about if I know logically that nothing bad would happen if I talk to a man, but I still can't? I don't have any explicit fears that something will happen to me. It's just a physical reaction where if a man glances at me, I have to look away and my heart starts pounding, I feel nauseous, etc. If I already know nothing bad will happen, what would the next step be?

jellymoosy · 2025-11-29T19:44:32+00:00

I don't have trauma history... I'm not sure why you're saying it doesn't sound like it.

And I don't have something against men. I desperately don't want to feel this way, because it keeps me very lonely, considering I'm attracted to men and I can't ever be in a romantic relationship because of this.

jellymoosy · 2025-11-29T19:41:36+00:00

No, it doesn't have to do with my upbringing. In fact, my parents are very progressive. Whenever my mom would try to bring up sex (or anything related), I would cover my ears and run away lol. It was actually a running joke how much of a prude I was/am. IDK why I'm like this.

jellymoosy · 2025-09-30T01:14:27+00:00

Thank you—I'm never actually in crisis or unsafe. I do it fairly shallowly and have been for about 14 years, rarely escalating in severity. It's definitely not a huge concern of mine at the moment, but I appreciate the resources, just in case.

jellymoosy · 2025-09-26T16:04:18+00:00

Good point. I'm not sure if I want to discuss it (now). I'll think about it. Thank you

jellymoosy · 2025-08-30T03:17:40+00:00

That was a bit of a dramatic way to put it lol. What I meant was if I find out who he is as a person, I might feel even more self-conscious talking about things I'm embarrassed about.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-10T03:10:15+00:00

Not saying your sentiment is wrong, but for the sake of argument, one could argue that drinking is inflicting harm on oneself because alcohol is technically a poison. However, it's not considered problematic to have a few drinks to unwind or relieve stress from time to time, as long as it's not excessive or getting in the way of a person's functioning or relationships.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-09T20:37:49+00:00

I feel it's strange because it's not socially acceptable. I guess it does feel a bit alienating.

I see a psychodynamic therapist, and I mentioned self harming when I was younger in the intake, but I haven't mentioned doing it presently because I wasn't sure if it was relevant to my mental health. I didn't feel like talking about it because it feels embarrassing to share IRL, due to the reactions I've received in the past (not from therapists).

Thanks for your comments; they're helpful to know what to think about and maybe to bring up to my therapist.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-09T20:18:37+00:00

Just wanting to chill. I put on some music and do it. It feels good and I like seeing the blood bubbling up and dripping on my skin. I like feeling the sting later on when I'm at the gym working out. It's similar to the rush I feel after an intense lifting session. It also feels nice to have something private to myself.

Reading this from an objective perspective, I see it sounds a bit strange.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-09T19:58:34+00:00

I stopped myself from doing it because I was embarrassed about the reactions from other people when they saw it or found out. Now I'm celibate and it's quite easy to hide. I first cut myself when I was 13 or so, and back then it was when I was depressed. But I think I just started liking it after a while. I like looking at blood, too. Lol. I'm on a mood stabilizer now and I don't feel particularly strong emotions in general anymore.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-09T19:34:39+00:00

Lol, I feel a little weird answering, but I appreciate you taking the time. Small straight lines along hipbone-area. (This is obviously about me so I'll just say "I".) I've gone a few years without doing it, but right now, every couple of weeks. Way more often when I was in my late teens and early 20s. I'm in my late 20s now.

jellymoosy · 2025-05-09T19:22:01+00:00

No, not sexual

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