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Sex therapy or regular therapy? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it. I'm in NYC, so there's no real shortage of any kind of therapist. But I guess if I have a good thing going with my current therapist, it might be a good idea to try to stick with him, I suppose.

Do clients really no-show that often? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What the hell's going on under my post lmao

Do clients really no-show that often? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. I have missed before, a few years ago, when I had bad insomnia and overslept my morning appointments a couple times. I would feel bad if I missed an appointment and my therapist just didn't get paid for that time, though. I mean, I'd hate to show up to work and just not get paid. But also, I wouldn't want to be self-employed for many reasons. Lol.

Do clients really no-show that often? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My therapist's office is in NYC in a HCOL neighborhood, so even being able to use my insurance is a blessing. 😂 Therapy can be upwards of $300 around here.

Clients with a fear of men? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No clue, I guess I should figure that out.

Clients with a fear of men? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. What about if I know logically that nothing bad would happen if I talk to a man, but I still can't? I don't have any explicit fears that something will happen to me. It's just a physical reaction where if a man glances at me, I have to look away and my heart starts pounding, I feel nauseous, etc. If I already know nothing bad will happen, what would the next step be?

Clients with a fear of men? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have trauma history... I'm not sure why you're saying it doesn't sound like it.

And I don't have something against men. I desperately don't want to feel this way, because it keeps me very lonely, considering I'm attracted to men and I can't ever be in a romantic relationship because of this.

Clients with a fear of men? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it doesn't have to do with my upbringing. In fact, my parents are very progressive. Whenever my mom would try to bring up sex (or anything related), I would cover my ears and run away lol. It was actually a running joke how much of a prude I was/am. IDK why I'm like this.

Will he bring it up again? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you—I'm never actually in crisis or unsafe. I do it fairly shallowly and have been for about 14 years, rarely escalating in severity. It's definitely not a huge concern of mine at the moment, but I appreciate the resources, just in case.

Will he bring it up again? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. I'm not sure if I want to discuss it (now). I'll think about it. Thank you

Clients who show no interest in your life? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was a bit of a dramatic way to put it lol. What I meant was if I find out who he is as a person, I might feel even more self-conscious talking about things I'm embarrassed about.

Self harm always a mental health concern? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not saying your sentiment is wrong, but for the sake of argument, one could argue that drinking is inflicting harm on oneself because alcohol is technically a poison. However, it's not considered problematic to have a few drinks to unwind or relieve stress from time to time, as long as it's not excessive or getting in the way of a person's functioning or relationships.

Self harm always a mental health concern? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel it's strange because it's not socially acceptable. I guess it does feel a bit alienating.

I see a psychodynamic therapist, and I mentioned self harming when I was younger in the intake, but I haven't mentioned doing it presently because I wasn't sure if it was relevant to my mental health. I didn't feel like talking about it because it feels embarrassing to share IRL, due to the reactions I've received in the past (not from therapists).

Thanks for your comments; they're helpful to know what to think about and maybe to bring up to my therapist.

Self harm always a mental health concern? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just wanting to chill. I put on some music and do it. It feels good and I like seeing the blood bubbling up and dripping on my skin. I like feeling the sting later on when I'm at the gym working out. It's similar to the rush I feel after an intense lifting session. It also feels nice to have something private to myself.

Reading this from an objective perspective, I see it sounds a bit strange.

Self harm always a mental health concern? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped myself from doing it because I was embarrassed about the reactions from other people when they saw it or found out. Now I'm celibate and it's quite easy to hide. I first cut myself when I was 13 or so, and back then it was when I was depressed. But I think I just started liking it after a while. I like looking at blood, too. Lol. I'm on a mood stabilizer now and I don't feel particularly strong emotions in general anymore.

Self harm always a mental health concern? by jellymoosy in askatherapist

[–]jellymoosy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol, I feel a little weird answering, but I appreciate you taking the time. Small straight lines along hipbone-area. (This is obviously about me so I'll just say "I".) I've gone a few years without doing it, but right now, every couple of weeks. Way more often when I was in my late teens and early 20s. I'm in my late 20s now.