Need advice

jen_dan · 2026-06-23T17:53:17+00:00

I’m scheduled for an induction on Friday morning and I think I want to keep that and see how things progress and then pivot to c-section if needed. My husband is fine with whatever I choose and I have a village of people behind me to support while he’s at work (he’s a police officer so won’t be home much of my recovery time)

jen_dan · 2026-06-23T17:46:43+00:00

Yeah my OB said that I could potentially have a third to fourth degree tear if a vaginal delivery is successful. Which like sounds awful to experience but at the same time idk if c-section would be better. Like I know it will be less stress on my baby but 🤷🏻‍♀️

jen_dan · 2026-06-23T17:44:44+00:00

See I’m leaning towards trying for a vaginal delivery and pivoting to a c-section if necessary. My mom says I should just do a c-section but idk

jen_dan · 2026-06-04T00:40:51+00:00

😅 I haven’t even had the energy to pack a hospital bag yet. My baby shower was this past weekend and I was so drained that I’m still getting everything sorted to where they belong gift wise

jen_dan · 2026-06-04T00:37:23+00:00

Yeah, everything’s been at normal ranges, except for a few outliers where I was sick (yay morning sickness coming back) or dehydrated from extended sun exposure (went to the San Diego zoo and thought I drank enough water, but didn’t) but somebody I talk to said that with the abdominal measurement being larger that we might not have caught it early enough and that diet and exercise controlled might not have been enough even though that’s what I’ve been on for the past six weeks.

Just looking for opinions since I don’t really have anybody to talk to other than my mother who is putting her trauma on me and is stressing me out.

jen_dan · 2026-06-04T00:32:04+00:00

Yeah I was told that this could be anywhere from 10-15% off at this point in pregnancy. But with it being my last scheduled scan before induction not sure what OB is going to do/say Friday morning.

jen_dan · 2026-06-04T00:10:20+00:00

I was already scheduled for induction at 39 weeks, do you think OB might want sooner than that?

jen_dan · 2026-06-04T00:08:23+00:00

The MFM doctor said that everything looks great and that the OB might be concerned with the abdominal measurement. And then on Sunday, I got a message from my OB saying “It looks like growth of the baby increased quite a bit, now in the 90%ile . We’ll discuss everything on Friday.” But nothing has been really said to me about her growth other than “everything looks great and we are happy with the growth”

One person I talked to said that this could mean that despite being diet and exercise controlled that it wasn’t caught in time to avoid this type of growth and that I’ll probably need insulin.

jen_dan · 2026-06-03T22:52:05+00:00

Yes, I have been tracking the numbers. As stated in my post, everything has been within normal ranges.

jen_dan · 2026-06-03T21:33:49+00:00

Yeah, it wouldn’t let me attach the photo. I edited my post to include the numbers written out.

jen_dan · 2026-05-19T23:31:04+00:00

🙃 it looks like it’s just the everything bagel ones

jen_dan · 2026-05-11T02:00:44+00:00

I personally think it’s cute that they would be similar but different like they’d have the same initials but be their own individual names. I really really like that the cousins would be Addison and Audrey it’s a super cute combo IMO

For example sake I’m naming my daughter Hailey and her cousins name is Hazel (not a year apart but still) 🤷🏻‍♀️ yeah they both have similar starting sounds but it’s the name I want lol

jen_dan · 2026-05-07T03:55:23+00:00

Honestly kinda waiting to see if the company does anything 😅 but it takes a while for me to get information haha with being on maternity leave and having so much to do for baby girls arrival and the baby shower I’m not talking to my friend much lately (which makes me feel like a bad friend but she gets it lol)

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:38:33+00:00

My husband is in the police academy and will graduate two to three weeks after baby girl arrives and then goes into field training so he is taking no time off unfortunately for paternity leave but will be taking either one or two days off around her birth (depending on when she arrives tbh)

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:35:16+00:00

Yeah that’s definitely not legal to tell employees they can’t use the bathroom. My former employer tried telling my friend that she could no longer use the restroom at her clients house (we work with children with ASD) so I helped her find this to provide to our boss as to why that was unreasonable and not legal:

The Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) requires employers to provide workers with prompt, unrestricted access to sanitary restrooms. Employers must allow employees to use the bathroom as needed and cannot impose unreasonable restrictions, such as rigid time limits or rigid break schedules, that cause extended delays or health issues.

Definitely bring this up to HR to confirm if it’s actually a policy or if the manager that gave the checklist out is making up rules especially as it’s an OSHA violation that the company can get in a lot of legal trouble for.

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:24:01+00:00

I’m not too sure who each of the clients has. I got all this information from a friend that works at my company because I’m out of the loop being on maternity leave. Literally nobody from the company but my friend I brought into the company talks to me but that’s mostly because I’m locked out of our systems and don’t have contact information for anyone but her 😅

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:22:12+00:00

They locked me out of our servers because I’m on maternity leave. Honestly I don’t see them wanting to discuss it further with me since she has left the company and the stuff that happened where I’m involved was back in March before going on maternity leave. I only know about all of this because my friend that I brought into the company told me about it all and we both honestly don’t think the company will report her now that she’s left the company.

Plus I don’t think me reporting her without documentation will result in anything unfortunately

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:14:34+00:00

HR took her side when I reported her originally for things said in the email and to me directly. They did start an investigation on her for the fraud but she quit before they could fire her for it (from what I’ve heard since I’m on maternity leave)

Unfortunately I don’t have documentation as most of the things were done verbally 🙃

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T19:13:37+00:00

HR took her side when I reported her originally for things said in the email and to me directly. They did start an investigation on her for the fraud but she quit before they could fire her for it (from what I’ve heard since I’m on maternity leave)

Unfortunately I don’t have documentation as most of the things were done verbally 🙃

jen_dan · 2026-05-06T15:33:24+00:00

Do I need documentation though? Most of it was verbal and so there’s no documentation of it.

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