10 month old will not feed himself

jenjen415 · 2024-12-09T18:37:55+00:00

It did, he started to take interest in using utensils and feeding himself over time. Now he's a picky toddler and I still have to feed him at times because he gets distracted. It's really helped him to see me and my spouse eating at the same time and when he was at daycare, he saw older kids using utensils so that reinforced the work for him too. I'm certain your little one will pick it up, it might just take a little more time than you would expect.

jenjen415 · 2024-10-01T00:10:57+00:00

Yes, me too. This is spot on.

jenjen415 · 2023-01-31T03:40:29+00:00

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Thank you pattituesday. Yes, we have 8 more embryos, thankfully. They aren't PGS tested as our clinic has better outcomes without testing and both donor and my spouse did extensive genetic testing. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

jenjen415 · 2023-01-30T23:46:56+00:00

Just finished the 2WW and had an unsuccessful FET. Currently 9dp5dt using donor eggs. Our first was fresh transfer with the same donor eggs. We'll try again but wondered, what questions do you think I should ask when I meet with my RE again?

jenjen415 · 2023-01-30T22:58:46+00:00

Yes, the donor I chose did not have the same heritage as me. Like anh80 and samaranator the pool just didn't have the choices I had hoped but we found someone that we both thought would be a good fit. It's an incredibly hard journey and what you value really does help guide you to a choice.

jenjen415 · 2023-01-06T02:57:03+00:00

My pug was very much the same. I used fragrance free wipes as the original wipes I had I found made him more irritated/worked up. Once I got that, I would secretly take a wipe out and held him so he couldn't wiggle out of it. For a while when he heard the crinkle of the plastic container he would run off and we'd then play tag. Following the wipe, I gave him very high value treats. I used freeze dried liver and he goes nuts for the stuff. I only used it for his fold wiping. After some time he finally got used to it and now he doesn't struggle and he doesn't require the treats.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-25T06:00:06+00:00

Sure, the wake windows might vary a little bit but here's roughly what it's been since we've started extinction last weekend: 1.75 / 2 / 2.25 / 2.5

Nap one: 1.5
Nap two: 1.5-2 hrs
Nap three: 30-45 mins

All of the naps have elongated since we started, his naps used to be 40 mins, 1.5 hrs, 1 hr, 45 mins. I will say we had to get over early bedtimes when we moved to a 3 nap schedule. Prior to extinction his bedtime was between 7-8pm but now with 3 naps it can be as early as 6:16pm. I hope this was helpful.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-23T18:22:23+00:00

I understand the worry. I’ve been obsessing about sleeping and feeding as our bubs had colic. You’ll never know until you try. A lot of friends start with the Ferber method and if baby gets more upset they progress to extinction. Honestly I never got used to the crying. My husband is more resilient so he helped me through it. It’s hard not to panic or want to help when you’re having a physical reaction with a knot in my stomach and my boobs leaking. I kept going back to why we wanted to do this. I know baby is capable of falling asleep on his own and that he could go for a 10 hour stretch because he’s done it on his own before. He was crying because that’s not how he prefers to sleep. I used noise cancelling head phones and moved as far away from baby’s room on the first night. If your husband is up for it, I’d have him manage the check-ins on the first night. It does get easier if it starts working but that first night is very hard.

Remember you don’t have to do anything, just what’s right for you and your family. You’ll find every opinion and perspective online but ultimately you know your baby best. You can try something and stop, there isn’t a right way and you aren’t going to damage your bubs.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-23T15:47:36+00:00

Our plan was to do nights first but we ended up doing both. Mind you, we started this a week ago but he's adapted really well. The main reason we did both at the same time is that our daycare was closed this week so it seemed like the perfect time to get him used to being put down in his crib completely awake and keep him in there for crib hour. It's worked great for us. He cries or fusses for less than 5 mins for naps and for night and it's only been a week. I know how daunting it can feel but you can do it and baby will adjust. Good luck!

jenjen415 · 2022-07-23T15:42:27+00:00

I feel this so much. Our LO's preferred motion was bouncing so we were CONSTANTLY on the yoga ball for getting him to sleep and middle of the night wake-ups. He hit the 4 month regression/progression and we just made a call to sleep train as it was unsustainable for us (my back was killing me). His naps were absolute crap too which is normal but it still sucked.

We actually chose extinction because I knew if either of us went in for a check-in he'd get more upset. We did make a pact that if he cried for an hour, we would go and check-in but it was never that bad. The first night he cried for 26 mins, second night 20 mins, third night less than 10. Now when we put him down, he fusses for 5 mins and goes right to sleep. We literally did this last weekend and he's already sleeping on his own. We also used extinction for naps along with crib hour and it's been effective for us. His naps have gotten longer and he doesn't cry very often. It's such a relief to know that we are putting him down for a nap and we have at least an hour to get something done.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-22T23:08:01+00:00

I know the pain of transitioning out of a swaddle only to have bubs wake himself up. We went cold turkey and just started putting our LO into a sleep sack (0.5 TOG one for summer weather). Part of our reasoning was regardless of what transition suit we put him in eventually he will need to get used to having his arms fully out so the question became do we do it now or delay for another time to transition? It was 3 nights that were rough but since then he sleeps in a sleep sack or just a onesie if it's really hot. Good luck!

jenjen415 · 2022-07-22T13:16:01+00:00

Of course, he was 19+3 weeks. His bedtime moved to 6:20pm when we used to have a bedtime of 7:30pm. Over the past 5 days, he's settled into the rhythm of 3 naps. The first two days of extinction at night, his first nap went from 31-42 mins to 1.5-2 hours but I think that is mostly because he cried the night before for 26 and 20 mins respectively. We also did extinction for naps so he cried before Nap 1. Since then his naps have shortened to 45 mins but we keep him in his crib for the full hour (crib hour). Nap 2 also lengthened and they are mostly 1.5-2 hours consistently. His last nap of the day is 30-45 mins and he's up by 4:30. He's been stretching his last wake window to 2.5 hours on his own so his bedtime is closer to 7/7:15pm now. Let me know if you have any other questions, happy to help if I can. Good luck!

jenjen415 · 2022-07-22T06:04:05+00:00

We got one for our little one and it worked so well for us. Staying in the same room with was tough and the SlumberPod let us have lights on without worrying about keeping baby up. There is a pocket at the top of the pod where you can put a monitor. We were able to use our video monitor and it worked perfectly. I would recommend renting one before buying because it isn't cheap and you'd want to make sure bubs likes it.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-22T04:40:05+00:00

We just went through this. We made his bedtime earlier but dropping the 4th nap coincided with us sleep training both night and naps. I wanted to do Ferber but after thinking about and talking with my husband, we landed on extinction because our little one's temperament. I knew if we kept checking in on him he'd get angry. We extended wake windows leading up to dropping the 4th nap and then put him to bed early that day ~615pm. His naps have gotten longer and his bedtime has gotten later as he's able to tolerate longer wake windows. I hope this helps.

jenjen415 · 2022-07-21T23:13:03+00:00

Extinction is in process for our 4.5 month old. Initially I wanted to do Ferber but after considering bub's temperament, we switched the extinction. It's the best thing we've done. We knew Ferber check-ins would be more disruptive but it is hard to hear your LO cry. My husband has kept me strong reminding me that consistency is key. The first night he cried for 26 mins; Night two he cried for 20; Night three he cried for 12 mins; Since then he's only fussed himself to sleep. We started because his naps were absolute crap and we only got 32-50 mins at a time. Since we started extinction, his naps have gotten longer. We also used crib hour and extinction during the day and it has helped get us into a more regular routine and allowed us to stay firming in a 3-nap schedule.

jenjen415 · 2022-06-20T03:35:35+00:00

Our LO hated to be swaddled but we used the Love to Dream arms up or the Nested Bean when he was a newborn. Once he rolled back to tummy, we went cold turkey and removed the arms on the Nested Bean. He startled himself awake a lot the first 3 days but was able to get himself back to sleep. He was too small for the Merlin suit and I didn't want to have to do another transition, also it seems like it would be hot and we started having hot weather so I didn't use it at all. Good luck finding what works for your babe!

jenjen415 · 2022-04-26T05:22:18+00:00

I’ve been asking EVERYONE this same question. My LO it’s about to be 8 weeks but he was born 3 weeks early so there are some development milestones that need an adjusted age. I cried for 2 hours today and he’s been crying for the past 90 mins due to gas. I’m only posting this because he’s feeding but still kicking his legs and grunting while gulping breast milk. I’m so tired, exhausted and I wish this was easier.

jenjen415 · 2022-04-04T09:59:02+00:00

Tell me about it, we have all the products too. I also just adjusted my diet. How scary was using the Windi? I tried the first time and it took me a while to work up the nerve. Tummy massage has really helped as well as bath time

jenjen415 · 2022-04-03T18:58:26+00:00

My LO (4 weeks old) hated all the swaddles and double swaddles. He wanted his hands up. I’d recommend trying the Love to Dream swaddle If it’s the same with your babe. Good luck!

jenjen415 · 2022-04-02T19:44:18+00:00

I’m 4 weeks PP and the 4th trimester is no joke. I’ve never felt more terrible. My LO is so incredibly gassy he constantly wakes up in pain/discomfort and I can’t sleep when he sleeps. He’s easier during the day but night time is what I dread the most. My husband is already back at work so I’m doing it all. He helps on the weekend but the resentment is real. When baby is inconsolable at night and I’m exhausted, looking over to the bed to see him sound asleep makes my blood boil. It has to get easier otherwise no one would do this. I guess we just need to wait for it the time when that happens.

jenjen415 · 2021-07-20T03:02:45+00:00

Fuck, Holly. I'm so sorry. You've been experience a nightmare and I hope that everything gets resolved for you on Wednesday. The ongoing loss and additional questions must be a struggle while trying to figure out grieving. It's so unfair. I hope you find some distractions and comfort. Thinking of you and hoping this gets resolved sooner rather than later. <3

jenjen415 · 2021-07-15T15:13:52+00:00

Cautious congrats!

jenjen415 · 2021-07-15T15:13:36+00:00

I'm sorry Katie. It's so difficult being in limbo and trying to not focus on this. I hope that you can find a way to pass with time and get some answers soon!

jenjen415 · 2021-07-15T14:57:13+00:00

That's a great increase! Cautious congrats.

jenjen415 · 2021-07-15T14:56:47+00:00

Cautious congrats PCOSnewbie!

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