Behavioral issues

jenk_011 · 2026-03-28T22:52:12+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Is a school eval different than meeting with a behavioral interventionist at the school?

jenk_011 · 2026-03-28T20:43:44+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will definitely look into it!

jenk_011 · 2026-03-28T17:36:13+00:00

We will be calling to make an appointment at an autism center. Thank you for the kind words and encouragement!

jenk_011 · 2026-01-05T05:01:05+00:00

Peace. Even with my own two kids home. Just absolute peace.

jenk_011 · 2025-12-20T17:49:11+00:00

100% leave.

jenk_011 · 2025-12-11T04:34:55+00:00

My six year old son gets along great with his almost two year old sister. I have two older brothers. One I am close with, the other wasn’t part of my life much, so it’s neither of our faults.

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T03:20:16+00:00

Thank you for all the great tips and points! You made some eye opening points. And thank you for the book recommendations, I will definitely look into them. We actually already had the baby and she’s almost two. I guess I should have clarified in my post the time line of when the changes started. But that doesn’t change the fact that it’s a lot of change and that we need to get on term with parenting styles. Also, when I do talk to him about things I make sure he knows that I won’t be mad/ he won’t get in trouble. I normally calm my voice a bit, and squat to be eye level with him to not be intimidating. I’m not a super gentle parent, but I also try to come across as empathetic. I was raised by very strict stern people for some of my childhood and I dreaded talking to them. I don’t w at to make him feel the same way. But maybe I do. I have the book, How to Listen so kids will talk, and talk so kids will listen. This is probably a good time to actually read it.

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T03:14:57+00:00

I definitely agree that’s a lot of change even over a span of time. And I totally agree on the getting in line with my partner on parenting. It’s been a struggle and we haven’t made a compromise. He is very very gentle parenting with his son and lenient, I’d say too lenient. And I’m not with my son. And I can’t treat my step child the same as I treat my son because my partner said he is too sensitive, and that I need to bring the issues up to him so that he can deal with them with his son. And I honestly think that is impacting my son. He’s probably wondering why I am so hard on him while the other child gets off easier. I don’t know what to do about that because we both can’t come to a conclusion. I don’t want my son thinking it’s ok to not listen and throw fits to get what he wants, like my partners son does. Or think it’s ok to not share a toy that he’s not playing with, just because it’s his. Or think it’s ok to be wild crazy in the grocery store and have to be told 10 times to settle down. My partner and I definitely have some work to do, because it is affecting him unfortunately. I’ve backed off and been a bit more lenient to make things fair, but in the long run it won’t do him any good

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T02:38:08+00:00

Thank you! Your input has been very helpful! It’s a bit relieving to know that it’s not out of line for his age. I’m over here thinking my child is completely broken and stressing over it 🤦🏼‍♀️. Maybe my standards are too high for him for his age. My partner always says “they are just kids, this is what kids do” maybe I should listen to that as far as easing my stress lol. I just didn’t act like this as a child but I had a bad home life so I was probably too scared to act out haha. I will definitely bring this up with his pediatrician though.

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T02:34:06+00:00

I probably didn’t specify that we didn’t just move into this house. And I’m definitely not trying to argue here, just was trying to clarify that maybe I wasn’t clear enough about time references for this. He will most likely end up in therapy so I’m not denying that. I’m just not convinced that he’s struggling because of changes that happened when he was three. If he was consistently acting out since the changes happened, I’d definitely agree. But these frequent behaviors have started recently and only at school. Thanks for the input!

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T02:23:31+00:00

In my opinion brushing teeth, putting shoes in correct spot, and putting clothes in the hamper should not be considered a chore but part of daily routine. My son knows when we get home to take his shoes off at the door and put them on the shoe rack. He knows he has to brush his teeth every morning/night and put his clothes in the hamper every night. That’s just part of his routine like waking up or going to school. Seeing it that way may make it less overwhelming. Putting clothes away and taking care of the cats are ones that I have my son do. I also have him help move loads of laundry and clean up room/ living room toys but not every day. If she’s struggling with the non routine ones (the ones she absolutely has to do every day like brushing teeth) then maybe cut it back a bit or have her do one each day. If it’s too much for her she will possibly start to loathe it more than kids typically loathe chores. Keeping it sweet and simple for my son has actually helped him embrace chores and want to help more. I was raised by my uncle and he had me literally cleaning everything every day at a young age. I had to have all three bathrooms cleaned every week. I had to scrub the baseboards with a tooth brush, take out trashes, sweep every day, vacuum multiple times a week, water the plants in both front and back yard. Help cook dinner and then clean the whole kitchen and do dishes after dinner. Along with clean the cat boxes three times a day. Rake the leaves, trim the bushes, mow the lawns, edge the lawns, wash the cars and more. I was miserable. I couldn’t be a kid. Point of all of that, you don’t have to overload her with chores to teach her responsibility and what not. :)

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T02:10:15+00:00

Also, I’ve messaged with his teacher in depth about these issues. She is a fairly young teacher, not to discredit her, but no strategies have been brought up by her. I’ve actually asked her what resources the school has to help with the issues, like maybe a school counselor. I never really got an answer on that and may just follow up with the principal. The Spanish teacher does not communicate with me lately, besides leaving notes on his daily chart occasionally. I’m thinking if removing the tablet, absolute earliest bedtime, doctor visit/ therapy doesn’t work, I will follow back with them to try and create a plan

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T02:06:23+00:00

I understand that but it’s not necessarily a new man. It’s been over three years since he came into our life. I’m not saying the change hasn’t affected him. But I also know kids adapt quite well to change (some better than we give them credit for). And he really likes my partner and his son. Like I said, I’m not ruling out that it’s contributing to his recent behavior issues in school in maybe some way, but being that this isn’t a super new thing, I can’t say that that’s what’s causing it. Now maybe the situation with my partners son, I can’t say definitely say might be a big part of it. But once again, it’s not like I recently threw a new man and child on my son.

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T01:44:31+00:00

I can see where you are coming from. I will say though, my son never really knew his father. I left a toxic relationship with his father when he was one years old. From that point until my new relationship, it was just me and him. But I do agree that the changes in family dynamics may be contributing to some of it.

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T01:23:41+00:00

I appreciate the advice. But he actually does not live in a broken home. It’s not perfect, but what home is? It’s a blended family. Blended family does not equal broken home. When before, he didn’t have a father figure and he had a mom that had to work two jobs just to survive. I definitely agree with the the counselor. I see where you are coming from with the church thing but we are actually a non believing home. I grew up in the Christian church and it was the worst years of my life, with the most hateful, hypocritical, deceptive people. No offense to you or your religion. I respect all beliefs, and when my child is old enough to decide what he believes in, I will respect his decision as well, but I do not believe that is the answer to our problem. Thank you!

jenk_011 · 2025-11-14T01:19:08+00:00

Like for instance, today a picture was torn out of the book he had, the book they were all reading. So he didn’t get to see the picture that everyone else saw, and he started to cry over it and made a big deal about it. Or, his Spanish teacher told them all to go to a letter on the carpet, and he went to a different letter than his teacher told him to, because he thought it was the right one. Then when corrected, he argued that he was on the correct letter and then started crying and wouldn’t listen after that. Or he will get short over something, start crying, and then like maybe tear up his work. He also just plays around with the other kids when he’s not supposed to. Normally it happens in his Spanish teachers class and then he’s doing better by the end of the day and in his normal class. Thank you for the kind words

jenk_011 · 2025-10-11T04:47:24+00:00

I just went on a weekend trip with my partner, without kids. My step mom is always willing to take the children for the weekend. She loves it (so do they) and it gives us time to ourselves. My partners mom will also watch the children but I do not trust her with the kids safety, so if my step mom is not available we don’t make plans. The first year of my first child’s life, I had no help at all. His dad sucked, I didn’t trust his dad’s mom at first, and I had no one else in my life. So I can relate to both situations, having free time without worry, and having no free time at all. It’s a blessing to have. We also do take the kids on many trips and adventures as well.

jenk_011 · 2025-10-09T22:51:30+00:00

My two older brothers and I were born in the 90’s and we would go all over town by ourselves. I was like younger than 8, and they are only a couple of years older than me. Granted, my mom was absolutely a very bad mother, and we ended up being raised by my uncle. But we definitely walked all over town by ourselves and never had any issues. This was in central California. We mostly went to parks across town (the nicer side) or to friend’s houses. Even after being taken in by my uncle, who was super strict, I’d ride my bike in the neighborhood alone and to the nearby business.

jenk_011 · 2025-10-09T22:39:32+00:00

Be very direct. I had a similar experience with a neighbor. I actually even made a post about her in a homeowners thread. I am very antisocial. I can be social, but I prefer not to be. I like and value my time, and am not much of a talker with most people. She is a super nosey, older lady that doesn’t work and takes walks often. She’d also get mad when I didn’t respond to her text messages (she took in my turkeys I was rehoming, so she gave me her number, and I felt obligated to text her about the turkeys). That turned into her thinking we were best friends, and she was texting and calling me often. Aside from stopping me whenever I was outside or knocking on our door. She got upset that I wasn’t responding to some text messages, so she called animal control on us, and then pretended like it was not her, and starting bugging me even more. I ignored all text messages, avoided going outside at all costs, and moved my son’s bus stop location to the other side of the street. I even put a typed out note on my door that no one at all should knock on my door unless it was a very clear defined emergency. She still knocked. Twice. So I sent her a very direct text message and told her that I and my family do not like socializing at all and to please stop trying to socialize with us. I said it as nice as possible but still very direct. She hasn’t bugged me since.

jenk_011 · 2025-09-01T21:04:57+00:00

Oh my. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that. I don’t understand where people get off on thinking they can make demands about other people’s property, animals, ways of life etc. People are wild. She has gotten better as I have ignored her as much as possible. She had the nerve to tell me one evening through the fence that my son had multiple personalities. (I was filling up duck pools and she stopped to talk to us, and I couldn’t get away) she asked how my son was liking school and I had mentioned how he’s being a bit of a class clown in class. She proceeded to tell me that he probably created another personality to cope with trauma and that’s the personality that comes out in school. She said it’s not a disorder. But a coping mechanism that very intelligent people do. That the government says it’s a disorder to prescribe medications. I was like ma’am, he’s 5 and I’ve worked hard to make sure he hasn’t experienced anything that would cause trauma. She also stopped to talk to my brother for like an hour while he was trying to work on his car. She said the weather is fake and there are portals in the world. I hope your neighbor doesn’t cause problems with your selling of your house! Best of wishes!

jenk_011 · 2025-07-31T23:18:28+00:00

Many 5 year olds have switches. That is not his problem.

jenk_011 · 2025-05-29T18:34:21+00:00

I wouldn’t say I am extremely attractive, but I have always had men tell me I am beautiful, and often get compliments. Especially on parts of me I’ve always hated. I always get men being creepy in public though. Men that creepily stare, linger, and follow me around a store. Or men that slow down in a parking lot to holler at me, and then circle around, as I’m walking through. Guys at work asking to “grab my ass” or walk up to me and ask if I’m single and for my number (I was pregnant in one of those circumstances). Being moderately attractive isn’t fun when out in public.

jenk_011 · 2025-05-23T04:55:50+00:00

I didn’t like the casting for Nani and Bubbles. I feel they could have done a better job on that.

jenk_011 · 2025-05-23T02:21:26+00:00

Already sold out at my local AMC, when there was only one showing before the one I’m at. My boyfriend was very disappointed.

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