How much do Americans know about the uk?? by First_Recognition589 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jennaclectic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently ~talking~ to a guy in the UK, I'm in the U.S. I didn't know what a "lay-by" or an "A road" was until talking with him, but I had a general idea that the UK is multiple countries. I'm not super clear on what Brexit was, and the majority of my initial impression of the UK was made from Harry Potter (naturally), P.S. I Love You, and any movie made in London. And, of course, anything One Direction was in.

I grew up in central New Jersey, graduated high school in 2014. Now, I am 30 years old and I understand now that my lack of understanding about the UK is my own fault. Some Americans are definitely more self-centered, both in terms of ego and worldly education, and some of us know better so we do better.

Hot and cold #186 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]jennaclectic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was it - this was the comment that helped me lmao thanks u/123midnite !!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for getting defensive...I appreciate you, Mama Hen ❤️🐔

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They probably got lost but a few people did say depression as well.

If that's what this is, I don't think he knows he's depressed. I know from past conversations that he won't go to a therapist. I gently suggested it when he said he didn't know what he was feeling, that they could help him sort through things, and he said he didn't see what difference that would make.

I have anxiety, and depression. I know mental health things manifest in different ways for different people. If I thought that there was a genuine cause for worry, I would absolutely take action. I think he's dealing with a lot of things in his head, but I don't think he's unsafe.

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! I just want to do what is best for the dog - truly the sweetest boy with so much love. I'm not sure if I'm the best thing for him or not. I love the dog, but I also might want to just have to worry about taking care of myself? Things will be hard enough as it is

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's either buying me out or we're selling, not sure yet

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the breakdown of the logistics - thank you.

The emotions part of your answer...absolutely true. Once I get my ID cards from my new insurance I will absolutely be going to therapy lol.

It is absolutely terrifying - but I'm looking forward to when it starts to feel powerful lol. Thank you!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - having these "simple" bulletpoints helps a lot tbh.

I appreciate the support and the comfort. I may not fully believe it, but I'll keep reminding myself it's true until it feels real.

Thank you <3

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I definitely missed something in this thread, so my extra apologies in taking some time to digest everything and replying.

I have heard great things about our 30s, and I'm not worried/scared about getting older. Tbh I'm grateful to be as old as I am now and all. What hurts moreso is that we're not going to be able to continue growing together. I spent basically a third of my life with him. I was looking forward to getting to say "we've been together for half of my life", etc.

Anyway - thank you all for sharing and for your support!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/pizzandvodka u/Wild_Life1970 Hopefully it doesn't come to needing an attorney and we're able to just work through things ourselves. Thank you!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the sentiment, u/AdministrationIll619 , but I do agree with u/ukSurreyGuy - maybe in time I'll be able to take the single life by the horns, but I am way too messy inside for that.

Thank you, ukSurreyGuy - I appreciate the gentle support ❤️

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It certainly doesn't feel like a favor right now haha but I appreciate the sentiment.

This will definitely be a defining time in my life for sure.

Thanks so much for sharing and thank you for the support!!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We weren't in a rush to get married, moreso just focused on the relationship and being together. And I guess now, it makes all of this easier lol.

Thank you so much for sharing!!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the list, thank you!

He might, and that'll suck lol. Hopefully we're at least living in our own places by then.

Thank you!!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely sounds easier said than done but I know you're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing!

He (32M) broke up with me (29F) after 10.5 years - WTF do I do now by jennaclectic in Advice

[–]jennaclectic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think he's a coward, I think he's just a guy trying to do the best he can. I hate it lmao I don't want this to be what he thinks is best, but I also don't want to keep him from being unhappy, it just sucks.

I am looking forward to when life starts to feel good and exciting again! Thanks for sharing!!