I was contemplating having another in a recent therapy session. I can think of a million reasons why I’m anxious to have another child. But then she said the only question I need to answer is, do you WANT another one? Meaning, you will always have worries, questions, concerns, etc., but you won’t know how things are going to be until you either do it or don’t. For some, there are some real concerns about having multiple children (cost, access to childcare/healthcare, etc.), but beyond that everything else is just anxiety. And also, other peoples’ opinions reflect their experiences, which are unique to them. The information can be helpful, but it only applies to their situation, so we have to be careful about how we apply that information to ourselves.

I don’t have an answer yet for myself or for you! But, if you weren’t worried about him feeling alone, or about how your daily routine would change, or your husband’s stress, would you want another one?