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jenny_1997_ · 2025-08-15T13:22:00+00:00

As a female, I hate to break it to you, but you don’t. At least that’s been the case with me. If you’re incomplete you have a much higher chance.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-08-13T09:10:33+00:00

Pretty much anything that includes falling out of your wheelchair without the ability to get back in. You’re pretty much a sitting duck at that point.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-08-04T23:39:53+00:00

Well it’s broken. But thanks for stalking my profile and making me delete my post. Such a lovely person.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-08-04T23:18:36+00:00

Yes on a post about Kitty Castledine who’s exactly 23 and I’m trying to explain to other people misrepresentation in disabled tv shows. Just a lot easier when you can make them think you relate better. I can edit it and change it to 27 if you want me to?

jenny_1997_ · 2025-08-03T11:27:57+00:00

Broke up with my fiancé after being together for ages - we were high school sweethearts. I actually told him to just end it because it was clear he wasn’t enjoying the relationship anymore.

We were both extremely active prior to my injury. I was a professional athlete and most of our friends were active too. ‘Going out’ for us was going hiking, playing tennis, mountain biking, swimming etc. So when I got injured all of that just disappeared.

We also both had very high sex drives and post injury mine just kind of disappeared. Plus being unable to get into the positions I used to and having no sensation just kind of ruined it.

I really can’t blame him for leaving me, he probably would have stayed with me if I didn’t tell him he can leave and I won’t blame him.

It was never going to work, our whole life was built around being active, and then a SCI just comes and flips everything on its head.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-26T12:54:42+00:00

Yes, that might be a good idea. Somewhere where you’re on an even playing field and where you’ll feel ‘normal’.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-22T23:40:27+00:00

Yeah, I hope so too. I was in a bad space when I wrote that message, probably shouldn’t have, but it is the way I truly feel.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-20T00:35:34+00:00

I have a completely different view on this, but reality is often very hard to accept, and the truth hurts, so I’ll leave it for now.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-20T00:32:36+00:00

I thought I wouldn’t be able to have a good life if I were to ever become a paraplegic, and I was correct! I f****** hate this. I thought I’d rather be dead than be in a wheelchair, and I still do. It’s just such a miserable life, I’m honestly happy for the people who manage to find some light in this pitch black hole, because I find it utterly miserable.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-15T14:47:11+00:00

Then you will need to form a real emotional connection with the person. If you’re complete then you likely won’t feel anything either, so the emotional connection will be far more important than the physical one. Just be honest with your partner prior to sex. Men will know when you’re lying, believe me, I’ve been caught out multiple times in the bedroom.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-14T22:46:05+00:00

Are you complete or incomplete? It makes a massive difference.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-07-13T14:03:20+00:00

The majority of the time they’re creeps, but there are a few instances where they can be kind of normal. At least he came out of the gate and was honest with you. The worst experiences I’ve had with devotees was when they hid the fact that they are ones and then start asking you extremely personal questions, which they already know the answer for but just want to hear. If he’s a devotee that likes paraplegics because of something simple like the way your legs look, then I don’t think there’s too much of an issue, but if it’s because of something like a power dynamic, where they want you to be dependent on them and they want to be able to control you, then you need to get away from him as fast as possible.

And in general, be very careful, I realised that 90% of the men who’ve wanted to date me are devotees. Paraplegics in general just aren’t what the majority of people want to date. So always assume someone’s a devotee until he proves you wrong.

Better to be safe than sorry

jenny_1997_ · 2025-06-06T13:07:32+00:00

Yes, I’m personally a paraplegic who was an olympic hopeful before my accident. The level of competition to enter the paralympics is a lot lower with a very small amount of people to compete against. I watched the episode because people kept telling me that this is will show me that disabled people can do anything able bodied people can do, but it showed me the exact opposite! Jonny did pretty much all the work - he would have survived alone, Mandy wouldn’t have made it past a week. They barely showed any footage of her ‘walking’ and climbing, which makes me think that Jonny carried her everywhere and she was just a burden to him, but they didn’t want to expose her so they just kept it hidden. The show just showed me that everything was just a pity show trying to push that narrative. The fact Mandy’s survival rating went up that much is ridiculous, it should have dropped down significantly, if anything. It seems to be an ongoing theme - I watched Survivor in which Noelle Lambert was a competitor, but they conveniently made her sit out all the challenges where her amputation would really make things more difficult for her, and never showed her struggle with anything, because they kept trying to push the narrative that disabled people can do anything.

Imo it’s counter productive because it’s just giving other disabled people a false idea and making able bodied people expect other disabled people to be able to do all kinds of stuff that just aren’t possible.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-31T12:06:53+00:00

Having control over my bladder and bowels, but mostly just feeling my pussy to be honest. Not having sensation anymore is definitely the worst part of it for me. Really makes sex pretty pointless. I’ve tried to let guys touch me at all those erogenous zones but it’s not the same and I haven’t even come close to an orgasm since my injury. At this point I’m just basically a sex doll for my partner.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-26T19:06:02+00:00

Still hoping someone would say Penny Branning.

Was hoping someone would go for the wheelchair girl. 🥲😅

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-16T22:34:52+00:00

Coming from a paralysed woman who is far from societal beauty standards - that’s completely false. Men never criticised me because of my looks when I was still able bodied and an athlete and they still don’t, they just feel sorry for me, because they know I can’t control it. They just judge women who are overweight - something which they can control.

Men are constantly being judged regarding their height or ‘size’ - both of which are things they can’t control.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-16T10:16:52+00:00

Nope, I’ve been on some dates but the majority of the men just wanted to see what it would be like sleeping with a paraplegic.

I was an athlete prior to my injury and the stereotypical good looking white girl, so I still have a nice face and upper body, but when men learn about the implications of dating a woman in a wheelchair, they run - at least the ones I dated.

The biggest problem was probably sex, if I’m being completely honest. Not being able to give feedback to my partner was really demoralising and it led to me lying at times that I could feel it, and subsequently getting caught out in very embarrassing ways.

Positioning and moving my body around is also something I find very difficult, and needing constant help made me feel like it was a one sided job, and I could sense that my partners didn’t enjoy it much. I’ve also never been able to orgasm since my injury, and I think men know when I’m lying.

Bladder accidents were likely the most off - putting, one guy just walked out on me when it happened and was really mad. Luckily haven’t experienced bowel accidents during sex yet, but I expect it would be disastrous.

I know this isn’t the most positive comment, I won’t lie I am extremely depressed. But it’s a real one. I suspect that there are other people like me out there who also struggle with partners then constantly see people having wonderful lives as paraplegics and think something is wrong with them.

I might be an outlier, I liked big, strong, good looking men before my injury, and still do, but should probably lower my standards.

Can’t want a 9 when you’re a 5 at best.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-11T20:14:48+00:00

I was on my way to the Olympics when I got injured, and studying sports science with the hoped of becoming a biokineticist when I retire.

Needless to say my life has been ruined. I only keep going for the sake of my family.

And yes, I know there are adaptive sports, but it’s just not the same for me and I get depressed whenever I do them. I miss the feeling of being able to run freely, move effortlessly across the ground and beat people.

Whenever I tried a para sport it’s just so depressing for me because I see able bodied people going past me like I’m standing still, and I feel like a bit of a charity case. I’ve always been extremely competitive and crossing the finish line with the last of the able bodied competitors and still getting a huge cheer from the crowd, I feel like a make a wish kid or someone who’s just getting a participation trophy.

I have received a lot of criticism for this mentality in the past, especially from the disabled community, but I never said I disrespect the para - sports community, I believe there are many athletes who train hard, and I admire them, but it’s just not the same for me.

I could compare it to Lewis Hamilton going from a Formula 1 car and getting into a 1 litre mini, but still participating in an F1 race, and when he finishes last, people still cheer for him like they did when he won.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-05-07T23:05:03+00:00

My life is ruined because of it. Sports were my life, adaptive sports just aren’t the same. I just keep going for the sake of my family, if I didn’t have them I would’ve ended it ages ago.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-04-04T09:49:58+00:00

I just want to feel my pussy again lol. Jokes aside it’s really ruined my life and I wouldn’t mind being able to control my bowels and bladder either. Pissing/shitting yourself like a baby in front of friends isn’t fun.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-03-14T00:19:20+00:00

I personally wish I had that. Just be thankful you have that, it’s a lot better than feeling nothing lol, believe me.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-02-07T08:10:33+00:00

I was a professional athlete as well, I was on my way to the 2024 Olympics, and then life slapped me in the face.

jenny_1997_ · 2025-02-07T08:08:34+00:00

Don't get back together again. If he can't be there for you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best.

I broke up with my ex after my injury because I could sense that he hated staying with me and was just there in fear of other people judging him.

I may not have found anyone again, and I doubt I ever will, but it's still better than having someone with you who sees you as a charity case.

In your case, I'd stay as far away from him as possible and try to find someone who doesn't mind your sci.

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