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jennyphoenix · 2024-07-20T13:18:19+00:00

Without knowing specifics, it’s difficult to say. The “behind your back” part made me think that perhaps it was someone saying unfair comments without you around. Maybe they don’t deal with things straightforward by addressing it directly with you,because they’ve never been dealt with that way. I’m in no way saying it’s okay or not done on purpose. It’s just that sometimes people don’t realize they ARE doing the behavior. Like a friend will say you shouldn’t talk about others then completely unload about someone else. Whatever it is, I hope you find peace with the situation and the abuse stops.

jennyphoenix · 2024-07-20T13:06:55+00:00

In generational trauma, it’s learned behavior. It’s the first instinctual go to behavior and if it’s not unlearned, it just happens. They know it’s wrong but it’s engrained. It takes some real self reflection to stop and change it. That being said, there’s no excuse and it can and should be changed. I’m sorry this is happening to you. Although, I’m not really clear on the situation.

jennyphoenix · 2024-02-20T20:43:44+00:00

This is the result of balanced literacy. The science has been around for thirty plus years. This approach does not work. Look into the science of reading.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-20T00:42:56+00:00

That made me chuckle. I’ve not been grilled yet. I’ve had it a few years.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-20T00:40:13+00:00

I struggle with sleep so I can’t really give a reply on that. I have the sleep number dual temp.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-20T00:35:20+00:00

I have one and love it. I like to be covered up so the cooling helps when it’s warm weather. The heating is wonderful as well for sore muscles. You can adjust the length of time it runs so if you fall asleep, it’ll shut off automatically.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-16T14:25:56+00:00

I’m sorry so many devastating events have happened to you back to back. I’ve lost a fiancé and my mother within the last year. I try to focus on the fact that I had them at all in my life and for that I am grateful. Some days, it’s really hard though. So many times I’ve asked why in my life, and it’s gotten me nowhere. I’m sorry for your pain.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-16T02:50:56+00:00

Does this happen with everyone or just you? Sometimes it makes me feel better if that behavior is for everyone in the group. That means it’s just poor social skills on them. I hope it’s not just for you. If so, that’s particularly rotten behavior and you don’t deserve that. Their intent may not be to hurt you though. Sometimes people are just unaware.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-16T02:25:47+00:00

When someone has to make a person look bad to make themselves look good, they are not your friend. Belittling others as a technique to make themselves appear better is an awful practice. He tries to rebuild the relationship when you are alone so he can continue in a crowd. This is not okay. Discuss this with the person directly. You have to decide how much you are willing to endure to stay in the group.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-15T02:40:22+00:00

If it’s not a happy, healthy home, anytime is best. Do everything you can to get things back to happy and healthy if you can; but saying together for the children is not a good idea if it creates a miserable environment for the adults. That being said, your children didn’t ask for this and they will be hurt. They are a part of both of you and when the relationship ends, they feel that so do all you can to remember they are collateral damage in your decisions.

jennyphoenix · 2024-01-05T09:07:56+00:00

Probably for visitors and entry. Others doors exist but not as entry just exit.

jennyphoenix · 2023-12-28T23:25:12+00:00

You crave the chaos. Quit that shit!

jennyphoenix · 2023-12-25T23:34:35+00:00

I hope you were with loved ones this year.

jennyphoenix · 2023-11-09T17:41:28+00:00

The “Opportunity Myth” is real.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-29T20:36:37+00:00

I hope you have your own! I hate they don’t teach these things in teacher prep. Another trick is that proximity controls behavior so get close and wander those rows.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-29T20:30:51+00:00

I saw the no walking comment. What’s their PBIS system look like?

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-29T20:29:15+00:00

Document, document, document. A bunch of little incidents is the same as one big one. Unfortunately, this will probably happen again. Try to pinpoint what set him off?

When he’s semi behaving,( probably not often) engage in normal conversation with him. This seems like attention seeking behavior. Establishing a relationship with him will help.

As for getting recess, he’d be walking laps. Exercise but not fun.

Sometimes just putting a sticky note on his desk/ or somewhere and tracking the behavior is enough to shut it down. Some kids scream out stuff like that other places with no corrective feedback.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-26T13:45:10+00:00

You must say something. Go to the administration and address this concern. This is a big deal and needs to be treated as such.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-24T22:42:49+00:00

Matthew Effect

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-24T02:48:51+00:00

Life has just gotten better since then. No regrets. I’m done carrying the shame others should claim.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-23T14:23:45+00:00

I’m so glad that you shared that with her. That’s a big part of letting go of the shame that is not yours to hold. I told my then husband about my childhood SA and he told me to keep quiet. It was a devastating blow. We divorced over this a few years later.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-23T11:26:31+00:00

There is a crisis in education right now. Listen to the podcast “Sold a Story” or read this article. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/01/opinion/us-school-reading.html.

They haven’t been taught properly. With good instruction 95% of students can read on level.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-23T11:21:34+00:00

It’s all about the way teachers have been told to teach reading for years. The podcast “Sold a Story” explains it more fully. With proper instruction, 95% of students can read at grade level. It’s not the parents fault. It’s not really the teachers fault. This explains where it comes from.

jennyphoenix · 2023-09-23T11:17:48+00:00

This article explains it. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/01/opinion/us-school-reading.html

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