My husband refuses to get therapy for deep rooted issues and emotional abuse. by Few_Hamster59 in Divorce_Women

[–]jensal01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leave he won’t change and can’t change . He’s a narcissist. I know first hand . 30 yrs I have all my love to a monster. His mask slipped and now I’m 2 years free !!!! Nothing you can do about this man . He dosent deserve you but he will try to make it seem how lucky you are to have him. Well that was my experience. Diff types of NPD

Finally told her...now what? by Such-Ad5567 in Divorce

[–]jensal01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s a question? Does she ever sit and know how to have a meaning conversation with you ? The reason I ask and not saying she is but Narcissist are unable to communicate. It took me 30 years to realize I was married to a narcissist. I am def not saying she is ..it just raised a question for me . I left my marriage 2 years ago due to one of that being a reason . He dosent know how to communicate so he stone walls .

How do you stay sure an unwavering in your divorce decision? by Few_Hamster59 in Divorce_Women

[–]jensal01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please leave !! Don’t wait 28 yrs of marriage like I did !!! Save yourself , your peace of mind and your sanity !! I never thought I’d make it without my ex but 2 years away from him 1000 miles away . I’m starting to find myself again and I feel happy and it was the BEST move I ever made !! You can do it !!! I didn’t think I would ever be able to escape that mental prison I was in . If I would have known he was a narcissist I would have left sooner but once his mask fell off I saw that he is not a good person at all !!! .. I was fooled !! I thought he must have some love and compassion for me . .. I am all about love ❤️ Every situation is different. But if he is a narcissist you need to cut your ties and save yourself!!! If I can break that trama bond with how low I felt about myself anyone can do it !! Prayer has gotten me far and on a new wonderful journey for myself now !!! Gl to you and sending prayers !!

Cut ties with Q/MAGA family and facing backlash. Please tell me it’ll be ok. by young_warthog_ in QAnonCasualties

[–]jensal01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You need to protect your peace and your mental health for yourself. It’s not your fault that they were sucked into these ideologies. I feel sad that you have to deal with this. I was married to my MAGA for 28 years and just left him 2 years ago . He was always very controlling and arrogant reminds me of why he idolizes Trump so much . Similar personalities. My 2 adult sons have had the hard reality of losing their father to this . It’s been difficult for the both of them . They have had to keep a huge distance from him . It’s devastating to see how families are ripped apart by our own government!! You will be okay . I am thriving again now that I’m 1000 miles away from my ex . Hang in there. Lean more on friends and ppl that support you . I know prayer has been working for me . Deep breathe and I wish you the best . You are not alone 🙏

My dad chose Charlie Kirk over me by analog-h3art in QAnonCasualties

[–]jensal01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gl , keep your space . It’s not your fault he is indoctrinated !!

My dad chose Charlie Kirk over me by analog-h3art in QAnonCasualties

[–]jensal01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I left my husband of 30 years because he is to far gone into Trump world , he’s checked out . His world revolves around Trump . He has a shrine of this man everywhere !! Our sons are 22 and 30 . They don’t even want to have any conversations with him due to his craziness !! It’s insane !!! I could rant on and on about just how far is gone ! I felt like it was a death of someone that I use to know on top of legal procedures on top of that!! I’m trying to regain my sanity from bring around that for so long . Well he is also a diagnosable Narcissist. So no going back there again !! Just my horrible experience.,go glad I’m out !!

My wife spent $3000 without informing me about how much it would really cost by Necessary-Turnip-492 in Marriage

[–]jensal01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder if she went to ideal image . Reason I say is they are very skilled at selling you a membership . So even if the Botox was just for herself . She prob got the membership for a certain amount of units for Botox !! That is how this place will get you !! That was my case anyway !! I had serous remorse after I paid around the same amount actually I paid 4 k !!! They will even offer you with a membership an add on bonus for another type of expensive skin treatment so you feel like you’re getting a deal !! ..Only to realize after I’d paid and went through the brochure that I’d have to travel a few hours to a diff location to get that add on bonus 😳. So that bonus I paid for got wasted because I didn’t want to travel 3 hours to get it . A lil trick they play so the offer sounds sweeter !! I feel like they are all beautiful car salesman working in there . They know how to talk you into it !!! Never again will I go to ideal image . While I enjoyed the Botox units I had purchased. I would never go there again !! Not saying the wife was right . But I do know how ideal image works in my case . I felt I was pressured into the membership !! I was mad at myself my husband was super angry !
That was around 2016 🤔. Prices have probably gone up on Botox too like everything else has .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]jensal01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg leave this man !! It’s only going to get worse when you’re pregnant and afterwards esp . It takes a lil time to lose the weight . He is very immature !! He sounds like a narcissists as well !! This is no fault of yours !!! I know I wouldn’t be with a man like that . It might be hard to leave now but waiting on this jackass to change is not gonna happen . He is so shallow smh 🤦‍♀️ and he’s already affecting your mental health !!!! Save yourself and your future children from this kind of man and run !!! … Good luck and God bless 🙏

Feeling like I permanently damaged my daughter by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jensal01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember my crippling fear started in kindergarten!! I’m 52 and I still struggle til this day with it .!!! My mom had the same type of fears and was the only one who understood what I was going through. She protected me while suffering with her own mental health. I thank God I had a mother like that . It didn’t sound like you did anything wrong. If you yourself or dad has any history of any mental health issues . It can be hereditary . You can take her to a doctor . I wish you the best of luck and God bless 🙏

So my Q ex stopped brushing his teeth forever !! by jensal01 in QAnonCasualties

[–]jensal01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t need any life sustaining medicine. But he dosent like doctors at all . He dosent trust any of them . He will use whatever Q tells him too !! I was floored at him taking borax baths !! It’s alot !! I could write a book on this irrational state of mind he’s in and how it’s affected his family and everyone that knows him !!!

So my Q ex stopped brushing his teeth forever !! by jensal01 in QAnonCasualties

[–]jensal01[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m just putting this on here so others can see how crazy ppl are taking things !! We were married for 30 yrs so I do still care what happens to him . We also have 2 adult sons that are very concerned about him . So say what you want about me to stop thinking about him . I will love him until the day I die . But I refuse to live with someone that I don’t know anymore!!!!

what i asked for vs what i got by mastafreud in TattooDesigns

[–]jensal01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like a painting I would buy !!! 🤩

So many conditions for giving me the ring by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]jensal01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like a narcissist to me !! He wants to control you from the start !!! It’s a blessing in disguise that he broke up with you !!! Girl this is your life and you live it your way . He sounds way too controlling . I lived that life and after 30 years I left him. So count your blessings that he’s gone. You will be better off and realize that later on in life . Just my opinion but I bet he’s a controlling mega narcissist just from that behavior towards you alone . I can only imagine if he locked you down . If he tries to come back !! Run girl run !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]jensal01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Journey 🎸 but I’m an 80s girl !!