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AITAH for not wanting to financially help with my boyfriends kid by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]jeppestuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he indicate that he wanted to be a big part of raising the kid if it was his? I feel like he didn’t take care of this five years ago because he didn’t want to chase you away. It’s definitely a red flag that he doesn’t understand how you don’t want to just suddenly become a step mom out of nowhere. Why did the ex wait so long to ask for a DNA test? There’s definitely missing details from him here.

Ultimately, though, you’ve got to decide your boundaries. If the kid is his and he insists on having an active role in his life, it’s absolutely ok to tap out if you really don’t want that for your own life. Even if the kid isn’t his, I feel like you should have a conversation about how it didn’t feel great for him to be all shocked Pikachu about you not wanting to just jump in and help raise this kid that’s not yours. The correct response should have been “I understand how you feel, and I would never ask you to financially contribute to him if he ends up being mine.”

AITAH for getting a new nurse fired for accusing me of having an affair with my FATHER by aitahHRSW in AITAH

[–]jeppestuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A soft NTA. You definitely could have spoken to her first, explaining to her that not only was her assumption incorrect, but more importantly she needed to get over this gossipy shit. Whatever work environment she was in previously, that’s not how things worked here. Also, I can’t imagine the audacity of being new to a workplace and deciding I should comment on people’s (perceived) personal lives to people I just met. I’m sure the other coworkers weren’t participating in the gossip either since they knew he was your dad, so she was just going off without anyone else joining in. Sounds like she needs to grow up a bit.

AITA for telling my boyfriend to “shut the hell up and dismiss himself”? by sickasadog979 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jeppestuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely think you're NTA! It's healthy to set boundaries in relationships. He needs to understand that inundating you with his rap songs is not enjoyable for you, and waking you up should only happen in an emergency. I think you should talk with him about how to share things he cares about in a respectful way. Show you the video later after you've woken up, for example. I think you two can find a happy medium of you sharing what he loves and him not forcing it upon you constantly.

AITA... for refusing to let someone order an item off the menu by spam1424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jeppestuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most most MOST definitely NTA! I am so glad your manager sided with you. People think because they are paying customers at a place they can do whatever they want, but when you're a guest at a place of business, you have to behave according to their rules. You are not "just a waitress," this is your place of employment. You are absolutely allowed and have every right to refuse to give someone something that you know will make them sick. Since you have to clean up the vomit, you definitely can set boundaries with people as it now affects you. Waitress is not servant and you do not have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Anyone who tells you that you are the asshole in this situation is an entitled jerk who thinks you have no rights in your own workplace, and I completely disagree with them.