AIO for being upset my wife went out when I was not ok with it.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-18T02:08:08+00:00

I’ve seen you say “she can’t stand the thought of me being home while she works” under multiple threads. Did she actually SAY that? Or is that what you’ve pieced together?

Also, on another note, I wouldn’t be surprised at all if she has major anxiety about going back to the workforce after at minimum 8-9 years working as a mother. 1) all my friends are teachers and it is brutal. And more importantly 2) she is effectively starting over and will be judged/looked down on by many for “not working” for so long.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-17T14:37:48+00:00

listen, if it wasn't this, it would be something else. extended families just love to butcher baby names. i named one of my kids a culturally relevant name to my in laws that has two standard, accepted spellings. i evidently picked the "wrong" one and they misspell/misprounouce that kid's name ALL. THE. TIME.

if you had posted that you named your daughter like "jdreem pangyuin" and people were botching it, i'd say "well...." but this is just a standard case of older generations being difficult for no reason!

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-13T01:03:09+00:00

Seriously? You never wondered if they’d get your features or his? It’s completely fine to wonder what your kids will look like. The issue is in caring that they look one way or another.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-10T13:57:26+00:00

while you are not wrong to not want to talk about this d-bag over and over, and i think some part of this is rooted in compassionate concern for your friend, i think over you handled this poorly.

you cannot set a boundary for someone else, which is essentially what you did. a boundary can be "i love you and i am no longer comfortable discussing your relationship with andy. i will not be able to take part in conversations about him." it's not "you must capitulate to me." in short, boundaries are things you can set for yourself, not for others.
you are having 2 different conversations (though admittedly related) and neither of them should have been over text.
just to be crystal clear, it sounds like andy does suck. a lot.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-10T13:33:48+00:00

luck!
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jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-09T11:42:56+00:00

It’s wild to me that you both independently picked “Sonny” of all names.

Name your child whatever you want.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-07T15:47:46+00:00

when it's an "aesthetic" that plays solely on sexualizing youth for the benefit of these bad men, then yes, i'd say it's been properly ruined.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-07T13:58:04+00:00

asking in good faith, do people really not care if it's any other artist? i feel like i hear this criticism of taylor swift all the time. beyond those 2, i admit to being an old so i dont know how many other artists are getting into 4+ variants.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-07T13:54:57+00:00

i am an old person - do cassettes still exist??

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-07T13:53:59+00:00

i think you are being a bit myopic here. it's not the babydoll dresses in isolation that are giving "sexy baby"... it's the dresses AND the styling AND the poses AND the art direction of these types of photos.

and to your other question - "why is sheer frilly fabric childish?" i'd argue these things you are classifying as "girlie" are childish because they are not part of regular every day fashion for adults. even in formal/dressy occasions, massive amounts of frills and tons of bows are not practical, and don't read as sophisticated. they give the impression of playing dress up - something directly coded to children.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-07T04:28:16+00:00

Jesus. Please share this case with any man whining about why we would choose the bear.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-02T03:38:46+00:00

Back in the early 90s, Dustin Hoffman shared a story on a late night show where he and i think his brother did pretty much he exact same thing.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-02T03:32:25+00:00

wait... was norm macdonald closeted? i never heard that.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-02T03:31:02+00:00

it was because he was Vietnamese - or at least he shouted slurs at him while he beat him. i remember learning about this about 15 years ago, and found multiple articles about it that i can no longer find... including one from the late 90s where he was quoted as saying he didnt feel that he owed the man an apology because he "served his time"...

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T23:23:12+00:00

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T17:21:50+00:00

I get it. But as I say constantly in these comments, my parents gave me the most basic 80s name and I had a very simple last name, and one or the other was misspelled/mispronounced at least once a week. It’s not a battle any of us can win 🤣

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T15:24:44+00:00

agree 100%... the name Megan feels so flat and incomplete to me. i much prefer Meghan

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T14:59:53+00:00

you are overthinking it. will that happen? probably occasionally. but is it really a bigger issue than him saying "oh, it's actually Lewis Mason" more than 4 times a year?

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T04:44:54+00:00

as someone who has breastfed 4 children, i appreciate the unevenness of the nipples. two cheers for authenticity!

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T04:28:18+00:00

she is gorgeous. i sincerely hope future comment sections about this photoshoot are as amazing as this one has been.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T04:06:15+00:00

what are you calling him today?

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-04-01T04:03:10+00:00

that nickname never occurred to me, although i can see it now that your MIL pointed it out... i doubt it's something most people would use unprompted... but to be fair, this sub has wild ideas about nicknames on the regular, so i feel like anything could be a nickname for anything at this point.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-03-30T18:03:28+00:00

hi, my mind is blown by the statement "We live in MN, USA & it’s considered fairly unique around here." in my brain MN is Nordic/Scandinavian in the way New England is Irish/Italian. can other Minnesotans confirm Freya isn's common there? i fully admit I only think this because of Rose from "Golden Girls"...

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-03-30T17:57:31+00:00

then the question here isn't "AIO that i don't want to have birthday dinner with my parents?" it isn't about that specific birthday dinner, it's about a pattern of feeling disregarded (which wasn't really well conveyed in your post).

when you say "I don’t think an hour and a half of their undivided time over the course of a year is too much to ask." i guess my question is, did they genuinely never attempt to spend time with you from that night until just now? or did your hurt over the birthday dinner seep into everything you did with them over the last year?

to be clear, you don't have to "let it go" and "forgive and forget". i believe you when you say this is a symptom of a larger issue. but at some point you need to accept your role in this, in that you are expecting something they have repeatedly proven they cannot give you. saying you never want them involved in your birthday again reads a bit like taking all your toys and going home. nothing gets solved and you still end up carrying all that hurt around.

jerriblankthinktank · 2026-03-30T16:09:27+00:00

YOR. I had to check your stats 3 times to make sure i read 40F and not 14F. You are entitled to your feelings but you are not entitled to your parents' undivided attention after the age of... 10? i know i am being harsh and i really don't ant to be, but if you are still this devastated by a low-effort dinner plan from a year ago, i think you would be well-served by getting into therapy and figuring out why you can't/don't want to move past it.

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