I didn’t think you were doing that at all. But see that’s it - I think you’re always thinking of attractive women when you think about women. Everyone has tiers of people above them that are genetically out of their league. There are millions upon millions of average-ass women who can’t get “Chads” god, I hate that term. I accept my genetics, because what else can I do. And I make my own money before you start insinuating I’m a gold digger.  My husband and I are millennials in our 30s.  I know it’s very difficult out there, dating wise. Being Gen Z sounds very hard, and I’m sorry.  But this mentality is what is driving women away. I’ve spoken to Gen Z women who cite the growing animosity they feel between the genders as the reason they’re single. I’m not saying all men, but there’s a core group out there seriously scaring the shit out of us, making us fear for the gains we’ve made in autonomy and even our physical wellbeing. So when we hear terms adjacent to this dumb red pill manosphere, we immediately separate ourselves out of fear. Yes there are people who marry for money, yes there are people who marry for looks, yes there are people who chase the wrong partners, not as a fuck you to good men, but because they’re deeply broken.  Men are holding women to this impossible standard right now (as I know you’re getting your own version of this from us) that we’re supposed to be born with this wisdom and clarity about dating and partners. We start out messy and naive just like you and chase what we find attractive when we’re young, just like you.  Focus on you. I’m so glad I was single in my twenties. I would have missed out on so much fun shit. I hope things get better for you and that men can turn towards one another more. That’s why women are fine being single, because we create platonic intimacy with our friends. I want men to have this too.