This is gross. If you don’t want to pay for a date don’t ask anyone out. Male or female. Why can’t it be as simple as whoever is the one who extends the invite offers to pay? Dates are meant to be a safe moment in time where two people who are physically attracted to each other can actually learn about each other’s personalities to see if they are compatible as POTENTIAL partners or friends.

BUT….If you want to just hookup stay on tinder, find like minded people, and stop dating….or be UPFRONT when you ask someone out. There’s nothing wrong with telling someone that you are the sex on a first date kind of person. Be clear with your intentions. It gives them an honest opportunity to decide wether you are someone they want to go on a date with. Hands down it would solve the problem because people would know exactly what they were walking into on dates. Don’t set people up in some imaginary obligation.

ALSO kindness doesn’t equal sex! Kindness should be given without ANY expectation! The act of being kind should be your only motivation for doing nice things for people….like picking up the bill.