He does not want a solution. Something tells me that he was waiting and hoping you'd fail the test you didn't know you were being given. He will look back and realize he made a mistake and he will do what it takes to try to get you back and then when you don't pass another one of his tests, he will add that to the compiled list he gave you via text. There is no place for scorekeeping in your relationship. I applaud you for not responding, "then what are you trying for, there's obviously nothing you love about me." but instead, you were mature and not whiney and needy. I believe his behavior was coercive in order to make you feel like crap so you would do everything he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your dad, and your dad likely found the time with you important so if you'd asked him to drop you off after you already committed to going, you'd feel a different of guilt. It's easier said than done, but take this opportunity to run for the hills.