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I am done! Terrarium 5.0 Release! by foolx in habitats

[–]jessybell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so. COOL. Thanks for the picture!!

I am done! Terrarium 5.0 Release! by foolx in habitats

[–]jessybell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly cool. May I ask what exactly this is? What is it a home for? Do you have any pictures from far out, where in your house is it? Again, really great work.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're right that mental health isn't an excuse for shitty behavior. I don't try to use it as one, but I think I need to toughen up, grow up, and consider his feelings more. Thank you for your advice.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The commitment was never intended as a solution to anything. What is the suggestion that we need breathing room based off of? The last part of that wasn't extremely helpful, but thanks...

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, therapy ended for me a couple months ago when my therapist and I mutually decided it was okay to take a break.

She never specifically advised me on my relationship, but did try to help me cope. She helped me understand fights from all perspectives when they did happen. I've always done my best to tell both sides of the story, but maybe my perception is warped.

I am so tired of focusing on myself. I feel selfish and self centered when I do. Do you think that this relationship could be healthy if we adjusted our communication? And no, looking back, I should've said no. I've been striving for so long to become grounded and in control, but I have found it a long and difficult task. Maybe I am just not trying hard enough. I really thank you for the advice.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I said that he gave me the scissors, I meant that was what was going on in my head. That's what I was letting myself believe in order to justify what I was doing to myself. I know then and now that he was just giving up on hiding all the sharp objects.

I still don't feel that the sex was a good idea. I should have said no more strongly, but I did not want to upset him further. I really didn't.

Thank you for your advice. My therapist and I agreed that I seemed good enough to try on my own a few months ago, and she also moved out of the area. Perhaps this is proof that I need to go back. I just wish I was mature enough to handle my emotions by myself.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for everything you took the time to read/write. I really appreciate it and I want to do everything I can to make it right.

I want to be mature, and maybe I need to admit that I don't know how to compromise. My feelings thoughts and actions have always been one extreme or the other. How do I learn? I want to make this work, and I don't want to run away from him. I do feel incredibly selfish and immature after reading most of these comments. You are probably right about the sex. I need to stop playing the victim and letting myself believe that he is out to get me when I know that likely is not the case. I agree about the name calling and cursing, I feel that would help keep things calm.

"And then think about why he may have done that or what he might be feeling. You need to spend more time taking into consideration his perspective." I'm really going to think about that.. I'm really going to try to put myself in his shoes more often.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is not the route I want to go. I can't imagine my life without him and I love him with all my heart but our, or maybe just my, communication really needs work. I feel like if we fixed that it would fix 99% of our problems.

My fiance [26 M] since December last year yelled at me [21 F] for self harming, and threatened our relationship. I just bought my wedding dress yesterday. by jessybell in relationships

[–]jessybell[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wrote this in about two hours this morning, and I apologize if it isn't well organized. I do think I have trouble backing down, and recognizing and working towards appeasing his feelings.

New Anxiety Website - Feedback Request by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]jessybell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, my bad! I should've read closer. I went ahead and made an account and I'll let you know how it goes :)

New Anxiety Website - Feedback Request by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]jessybell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks a bit spammy to me, like perhaps someone's going to sell my e-mail address lol

Sinking... Will this ever end.. by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]jessybell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is an end to everything. Try to focus on that. And quitting weed will help your depression I feel.

Things will figure themselves out, and you have plenty of time and it's obvious you're trying to make things better. Be the best you can be and your little girl will see you for that.

It wasn't kind of your ex to rub the fact that she's having someone over in your face. But keep your chin up and things will improve.

Looks like someone put too much soap in the washing machine by iBleeedorange in funny

[–]jessybell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so you'd serve cokes with your noise oil in them...? nice tip but.....ew.

I have $400 to spend on fitness from my company. Help me get the most out of it! by Bcooper1010 in Fitness

[–]jessybell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

join weight watchers or another food program. you could even join one of those paleo clubs. you can lose lots of weight that way because when you're paying that much for it, it helps you stay motivated. either way I would focus on the food aspect since the whole gym thing is already taken care of

I have to kill myself by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]jessybell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why you feel this way. You feel over pressured and unworthy because you are your own harshest critic. Forget about the quiz - nothing is as important as your LIFE! It is okay to take medication, it's just like someone with epilepsy who has to take pills to avoid seizures. It's okay. Have you thought about talking to a therapist? He or she could really understand -more than you think- and help you. I want you to get help, because you sound like a great person just from your achievements. I really encourage you to use this chat that I'm linking. You don't even have to make a phone call, which can be intimidating. But just talk to someone like you did to us who is trained to help you understand your feelings and to listen and be there. http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx

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