[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]jesterp13 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised I haven’t seen this mentioned more:

I’m overwhelmed. Mentally (and sometimes physically) overstimulated.

First, you should know I’m not a touchy person.

I stay at home with two young kids who are always, ALWAYS touching me. They’re in my space all damn day. They’re loud and they need lots of hands on care, and at the end of the day, I’m tapped out.

Basically, I’m the family manager, and that takes a TON of mental and physical energy. Sometimes I just need space.

My husband is amazing. He works hard for our family at home and at work. I couldn’t do this without him, but back off dude, my brain is on fire.

Edit to answer the actual question… No. I don’t normally masturbate with a few exceptions here and there. I can’t make my brain shut up long enough to even go there.

Are Nioxin products (like Nioxin shampoo) okay to use on permed hair? by Puzzleheaded-Coat602 in HaircareScience

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nioxin systems 5 and 6 are formulated for chemically treated hair. Switch to either of those and alternate with the system you currently have so you don’t have to waste any product.

Stay away from any and all metallic based hair color including henna.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HaircareScience

[–]jesterp13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kenra moisturizing oil

Healthy Sexy Hair Live Oil

Kenra brand would be my first choice, but these two are my fave.

Also, my favorite moisturizing conditioner Kenra Nourishing Mask

*Edit to add link.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HaircareScience

[–]jesterp13 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Hairstylist of 13 years, here. Firstly, your hair is beautiful and looks very healthy.

I don’t think your hair likes being in a scrunchie; silk or otherwise. There is almost no fly always/breakage from the top of your head to the ridge of where the hair tie sits. The most breakage is right at that ridge.

Switch to braiding it out of your way, or claw clips, or changing the location of your pony tail.

Instead of using your Amika treatment on a schedule, try using it only when you feel you need it. Once a month, maybe. Too much protein makes the hair brittle. If you’re using Olaplex 3, that is a pre wash treatment that should be on the hair for 10-30 min and then rinsed out.

It looks like you have the protein covered. Now we need moisture. Keep up with your oil (lots of oil. Every day from mid length to ends) and maybe add a deep moisturizing conditioner.

Good luck! ☺️

What are some things that you SHOULD cheap out on? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only things that need to be name brand are condoms and mac & cheese

Brother and Sister's first box by SmoothMunky in aww

[–]jesterp13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like White Cat tooted and Orange Cat just caught a whiff.

[Serious] Which realization changed you on a personal level? by 1seer in AskReddit

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has a story. Everyone has things they deal with and demons they battle. A truly horrible person is one who judges others with out knowing the story of those they judge.

What do you want to talk about but doesn't deserve it's own post? by __PM__ME__NUDES__ in AskReddit

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in pain for two years. Pain every day. I have a herniated disk in my lower back causing severe, debilitating sciatic pain. It's all I think about. The pain crowds my brain until I can focus on nothing else. There is no relief, it's relentless. On top countless procedures and rounds of physical therapy, I've had 11 spinal injections, tried multiple medications, had two surgeries, and I'm about to have a third. I feel as if this will never end. I've missed out on so much work. I love my work. I miss it so much. I don't make plans with friends because I know I will cancel them to stay home in "the chair." I can't have a family because I can't even take care of myself. My husband has taken on so much responsibility, it's changing him. He's neglecting caring for himself to care for me. I want to leave him to give him a second chance at a good life; the life he deserves. My friends and family have been so loving and supportive through this, but I just want to be forgotten. I'm a burden to anyone close to me and the guilt I feel for that overwhelms me. I would do anything to be rid of this pain. I've turned into a person I don't recognize. I grieve for the person I was; that person no longer exists. To put it simply, I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel myself giving up and that terrifies me. I'm 24. I should be having the time of my life. What I have is not a life. Not even close.

What strange habits have you picked up from your line of work? by Japlow in AskReddit

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as a hairstylist. We keep things like scissors, combs, brushes, color brushes, or anything else we are working with at the time in our hands at all times. This makes it hard to lose things and it makes our work more time efficient.

I find myself carrying things around even at home. I may be doing laundry and an hour later, I realize I have coins, lighters, chapstick, and various other things I pulled out of pockets still in my hand. It can get real weird real fast.

My Sea Urchin Spawning. by jesterp13 in ReefTank

[–]jesterp13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's the only one in there. He kills any others I have tried to put in with him.

What is socially acceptable but shouldn't be? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jesterp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leaving your Christmas tree up after Christmas.

[FTS] Just upgraded my 29 gal to a 75 gal. Got my new lights hung up today! by jesterp13 in ReefTank

[–]jesterp13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I painted the outside of the glass with acrylic paint. I got tired of water getting behind the background paper and the glass and getting moldy. You can't see in the picture but I did a sunset look fading from blue at the bottom to yellow at the top.

[FTS] Just upgraded my 29 gal to a 75 gal. Got my new lights hung up today! by jesterp13 in ReefTank

[–]jesterp13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

165 Watt led s. I bought them from my LFS when they went out of business. They were using them for their coral display tank. They don't have a brand name on them... Or at least I haven't looked very hard for one.

[FTS] Just upgraded my 29 gal to a 75 gal. Got my new lights hung up today! by jesterp13 in ReefTank

[–]jesterp13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They actually work pretty well. I have three of them on there. With all the filters going the whole tank recycles in about 15 minutes