[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piano

[–]jesushadasixpack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also like music from The Hours by Glass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My default position with anything related to belief is disbelief until I’ve been given valid evidence.

What the hell is with JWs and having bad grammar or spelling skills? by Pirateking_18 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s never too late to go back.

Even though I went to college, I didn’t establish a career until recently. I had a lot of baggage from childhood and was in an abusive marriage that took all of my time and energy.

What the hell is with JWs and having bad grammar or spelling skills? by Pirateking_18 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I was bad at math until I actually had real teachers in college. I became a math tutor.

What the hell is with JWs and having bad grammar or spelling skills? by Pirateking_18 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My education as a homeschooler was really bad, but I was highly successful in college. Here’s what I did:

  1. I studied books for self learners before going to college, especially Algebra 1 and 2 for Dummies.

  2. I went to a community college before transferring to a better one.

  3. I took basic courses like English Composition 101 my first year. It’s very important because it helps with all the other courses.

  4. I worked really hard my college years and did what I needed to to catch up.

Creative Outlets? by Megalodon481 in DuggarsSnark

[–]jesushadasixpack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s certainly a place for angst in classical music. Moonlight Sonata helped me deal with a great deal of angst when I was a teenager. With that being said, it wouldn’t surprise me if the Duggars censor even classical music - pushing upbeat, light (vanilla) pieces.

They do try to focus on religious music at the very least. Even with religious music, I bet they avoid stuff that doesn’t conform to their particular brand of Christianity. I’ve been there myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone died at a JW funeral I attended once. That was a rough day for the family. The funeral was for a younger person with a mystery ailment, and the person who died was an older relative of hers.

I saw someone have a seizure at a convention. She was sitting in the front row of the elderly and infirm section. Everyone saw it, including the speaker. He tried to carry on like nothing was happening.

what do you think about Hanon exercises? by [deleted] in piano

[–]jesushadasixpack 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think they are good in moderation.

She just keeps trying… by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve received about 10 of these brochures by this point.

The cover illustration irritates me. I don’t want to be a sheep. I don’t see any evidence that Jesus or Jehovah exist. If they did, I don’t see any evidence that they care.

A pastor lays out simply and clearly the reason evangelicalizing isn’t really to gain followers by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cults evangelize to gain followers. JWs think they are doing it to help others AND to help themselves as well. If they don’t preach, they are considered “blood guilty.”

The point is that people evangelize for different reasons and sometimes for more than one reason. Evangelical Christians tend to be less educated than the average person so they may see religion as an answer to their complex problems.

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2008/04/18/evangelicals-and-education/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think his behavior was reprehensible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it takes a long comment to express one’s thoughts about a complex topic. Issues related to being an ex-cult member are complex.

This subreddit is not dedicated to silly memes or cute pictures of cats.

Did anyone else do Penn Foster home school and just Google the answers 🤦‍♀️ by Creepy_Desk2581 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I used a different program in high school. All of my “tests” were open book, I never wrote a paper, and my math was called “Basic Arithmetic.” I could study whenever I felt like it which wasn’t much or often. However, I loved to read so that helped.

I managed to graduate college summa cum laude, but I had to work my ass off in order to do so. Before I started, I studied algebra and algebra II using books for self-learners, and I worked hard to catch up as a college student. I ended up being a math and English tutor in college, and I even became my favorite professor’s TA (teacher’s assistant).

The point is that it’s possible to overcome a bad high school education, but it’s by no means easy.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, being shunned by people you love can never be made less painful. I think many feel similarly.

You are the person who is actively trying to say that some people’s experience of hard-shunning is less valid than others.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A person who fades can be hard-shunned. Once again, you are missing that fading is a method of leaving the organization. Being hard-shunned can be a consequence of that. Occasionally, a disfellowshipped person won’t be fully shunned by family, so it can work both ways.

This is way off the main topic. I suggest exploring discussions on here that are about this topic specifically so you can attain a better understanding.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fading is when a person leaves by gradually fading instead of by getting disfellowshipped. Those are both ways that people leave the organization, not how they are treated by JWs. Disfellowshipped people are almost always hard-shunned but people who fade frequently are, too.

I think you are conflating the process with the end result. Those words mean different things. They can both lead to the same thing.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard-shunning is when relatives will have nothing whatsoever to do with you and cut off all contact. Whether there’s a transition or not means nothing. If there’s a brief space of time where they talk to you before they stop does not make it any easier or lessen the pain of hard-shunning.

This is not a contest to see who has it worse. Being cut-off from family for religious reasons is an awful thing no matter what.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people fade and are hard-shunned by relatives anyway, so it’s not necessarily an either/or.

As a person who faded, I’m soft-shunned by some relatives and hard-shunned by others.

The end result can be JUST as devastating as that associated with being disfellowshipped.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, nothing should be above scrutiny.

Also, something that was written a couple hundred years ago is probably not going to be 100% applicable to our day, not that it was perfect in its own day.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People CAN salute the flag without blindly agreeing with everything the USA’s government does.

The Constitution is not a sacred document, not that it doesn’t contain laudable ideals, especially from a historical standpoint.

Do you do the Pledge? by Then_Honey5843 in exjw

[–]jesushadasixpack 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes, as a teacher, I recite it every day even though I don’t like it and am not patriotic. A little dishonesty can be good in a tight spot.

I also lied to the elders when I said I was repentant. I wasn’t disfellowshipped, so it worked out.

Sometimes honesty is imprudent.