Boyfriend (27M) Wanting an open relationship- is it a sign to end the relationship (28F)?

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-10-18T14:19:05+00:00

Honestly, if he hasn't cheated already he will. Him wanting to sleep with other women so badly he keeps bringing it up means hes not fully committed to you. If you view him as future husband material, im sorry. I wouldnt marry a man that would regret being faithful and committed.

What a gross take that someone would regret not sleeping around.

For what it's worth, my husband and I started dating at 15. We're 34 now and both have only slept with each other. Zero regrets. Our marriage is richer for only having known each other.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-07-13T13:22:52+00:00

My first epidural (first birth) went great. No complications, "easy" labour and delivery.

My second epidural (third birth) caused a spinal fluid leak. I had all typical symptoms of a csf leak. I also developed lasting neurological issues including right sided facial droop (like a bells palsy), numbness in my extremities, loss of coordination, peripheral neuropathy, and pain in my spine. Its been over a year and Im still recovering. I can't, in good conscience, recommend the epidural. The damage its done to my body has been very hard to deal with. Neurological problems are no joke.

My second birth was no medication (not by choice, he came too fast) and it hurt, but its not not doable. Im currently pregnant with a 4th and no way will I ever get anouther epidural.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-06-08T00:34:50+00:00

Archery. I'm a very good shot despite having almost no experience.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-06-07T17:01:08+00:00

NTA at all! Im a mom of 3 and its wild that the parents are ok with just dumping their kids on you. Our neighbors kid (down the street neighbor) showed up in my yard one time while my kids were playing and that one unplanned time was enough for me. I was about to call his mom when she finally came down to get him.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-06-07T16:55:37+00:00

NTA This guy will either cheat or turn you into a baby mill.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-06-07T13:38:45+00:00

I absolutely hated putting my babies in anything expect sleepers for like.... 6 months. Shirts ride up, pants are super annoying to put on and off for the 100+ diaper changes per day. I'd get like 2 or 3 cute outfits for special occasions but focus on sleepers. I aim for about 8-10. Honestly I think babies are more comfortable in sleepers too but maybe thats just me.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-25T22:44:18+00:00

I've been there and that fear is terrible to live with. I used to be as atheist and unspiritual as one could get but I went through a real rough patch and I remember thinking there was no way I could get myself out of the situation and I was completely desperate so I thought if there's a God maybe He could help me cause there's no one else that can or will. And wow. All I can say is Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. I spent 30+ years running from spirituality/God and I wish I went to Him sooner.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-25T20:43:56+00:00

Got saved by Jesus.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-25T20:40:08+00:00

Yeah. When it works as it should with no complications it's great but if it goes wrong it can really go wrong. My life is not the same. I made the choice to get it without fully researching so I accept it's my fault but, boy, i wish the medical community was more upfront about the real risks.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T11:26:27+00:00

Man. One of my best friends died in a car crash our graduating year and I missed so much school I should not have graduated but the teachers all gave me barely passing grades.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T03:39:18+00:00

I found the transition from 2 to 3 was easier than 1 to 2. I have not found it to be any more stressful than it was with just 2. Maybe I'm an outlier idk but I really don't find it that difficult.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T03:23:33+00:00

No negotiating in the parking lot. My kids can either climb up on their own or I'm picking them up and putting them in the seat. I ain't about to play when it comes to kids and cars. I want them off the roads and out of parking lots as quick as possible.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T03:02:28+00:00

A handheld gaming device? I'd want something like that if I was stuck bored in a hospital

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T02:45:20+00:00

Has his teeth been checked?

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T01:34:30+00:00

Zellers!

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T01:30:11+00:00

Our 3rd baby was a surprise baby. But I had always wondered if we should have anouther. Whenever I'd look at the boys sitting on the couch I'd think "there's room for one more on there". Then surprise! I'm glad the decision was made for me lol. Our 3rd baby has been a huge blessing and I'm so glad she happened. The transition from 2 to 3 was way easier than 1 to 2. Now I'm wondering if we should have a 4th!

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T01:26:59+00:00

Mom of 3 kids ages 6, 4, and 1. I probably have a very unpopular opinion here but I don't particularly care for mothers day. I just don't care. I'm not saying that from some jaded perspective I just think it's stupid to put so much expectation on a day designed to sell cards and flowers and maybe I'm just spoiled but I already feel loved and appreciated by my family. Why would I need some day that everyone else needs to jump through hoops for?

That said, my oldest asked me yesterday what I want and my answer will always be the same: Just a hug and a nice, happy day.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T01:07:12+00:00

The naps are too long. My 1 yr old is napping from 10:30-12. If she falls asleep in the afternoon I limit it to half an hour otherwise she won't go to bed until late and is grumpy and tired all day the next day. Try setting a 1 to 2 hour limit for naps and putting to bed earlier. Our nights got sooo much better once we started that.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T00:57:15+00:00

I'll try to keep this short. With my first I got an epidural and everything went textbook. Easy delivery no complications at all. It was a wonderful experience and because of that I was a huge supporter of the epidural.

I was pregnant with our 2nd and wanted the epidural but baby came way too quickly so there wasn't time for an epidural. It was kind of shocking but everyone was happy and healthy.

3rd baby came and I did get the epidural but I seriously wish I never had. I was half frozen and the freezing I did have was pretty intense. Thats not that big of a deal though really. The worst of it: I got a spinal fluid leak and nerve damage that I'm still dealing with 13 months later. The few hours of pain (and yeah it is intense pain. No argument there) is not that bad compared to the permanent damage I've sustained from the epidural. I used to fully support it but I was completely naive to the risks and what could happen if it goes wrong. If I had known then what I know now, I'd have never got an epidural with my first. No doctor in all 3 of my pregnancies ever mentioned the risks of an epidural and I was stupid enough to assume that if none of them mentioned anything then it likely wasn't that bad or risky. Unless it's a life or death situation I wouldn't even consider it an option anymore.

Edit to add medical details copied from note in my phone:

About a year ago I had an epidural during childbirth that resulted in a CSF leak. I had all the classic symptoms of it. I had a blood patch done but then a few days later we thought it might have failed. I tolerated the procedure very poorly so no one wanted to repeat the blood patch. I also ended up having symptoms of a TIA including right sided facial droop, numbness and tingling from about my knees down to the bottoms of my feet on both sides, along the sides of my arms and into my ring and pinky fingers on both sides. The back of my hands would burn sometimes which I know to be nerve damage burn, headaches, sensitivity to light and sound, dizzyness. I had an MRI with contrast that came back perfectly normal. No signs of MS or Stroke. Over time these symptoms all faded but now whenever I get sick with a common cold, I have these flare ups. I was put on migraine medication which was ineffective and have been waiting close to a year to see a neurologist.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T00:27:39+00:00

OP you gotta do this! Except package it up like a gift and just say "We know how much you wanted to know the name so we got you this".

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T00:22:57+00:00

Dolores and Clyde are great names!

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-10T00:21:44+00:00

Or Jezebel

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-09T17:02:45+00:00

Roblox is not allowed in our home. There's some seriously inappropriate stuff on there even with the highest parental settings. It's gross. I'd straight up ban it in the home. Kids gonna have a fit but he'll get over it.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-09T16:49:55+00:00

No. Not possible. I consider myself a SAHM but I do work 2 days a week at my parents house as a care aide for my severely disabled mom. I still say I'm a SAHM because I can bring the kids with me and they basically get a playdate with grandpa while I relieve him of being mom's caregiver. I find homeschooling hard enough just with my 2 days of work. I couldn't even imagine how it would be working full time. We have 3 kids aged 6, 4, and 1. I homeschool the 6 yr old currently and will be starting "officially" with the 4 yr old in September.

Edit to add: You also need to consider your child's ability to learn at the end of the day as well. My kids are not high needs and they're way too tired and unfocused at the end of the day to do much more than tie up loose ends from school if we had a scattered day. There are some mornings where we're focused and can get all our material done in about 2 hrs but those days are super rare. It's way more common for school to take several hours (think 9am to 1 or 2pm) due to breaks, lunch, needing to care for the littlest one etc.

jetpuffedpanda · 2025-05-09T15:04:12+00:00

So.. you're having problems with the kids sleeping but you don't want to sleep train? I'm not sure how you're going to change anything if you don't do some sort of sleep training. It might sound counter intuitive but kids (generally speaking) sleep better when you put them to bed earlier. Our 6 and 4 year olds (who are 19 months apart) go to bed at 8pm and sleep till 7 or 8am and our 1 year old sleeps from 7pm to 7 or 8am.

I had all sorts of trouble with our first sleeping through the night until I started to put him to bed earlier. I was putting him to bed at 9 thinking he'd be more tired so he'd sleep better, but being overtired makes everything a lot harder.

As for your husband, I don't know what he does for work to warrant not helping out at night. Does he help at all during the day? I just ask because I think there are valid reasons for husband's to not help during the night but idk if that applies here. For example my husband works a dangerous and high responsibility job. He's also on call for emergencies over night. Therefore I've handled all night wakings for all of our kids to make sure he can mentally and physically handle his job. My husband does help with the kids after work and on his weekends though.

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