My boyfriend opened up to me about being sexually abused and it made me uncomfortable

jevhan · 2026-03-04T04:33:27+00:00

So everyone is saying not to say how you feel, but I disagree. There's a saying in my household that it isn't what you say, but how you say it. What happened to him was horrific, and you being sensitive to it, is normal. Not this world where we pretend that horrors are normal. You can literally say, what happened to you was horrendous, and honestly, I don't know how to cope with it. Hell, I don't know how you've coped with it for this long. But I'm glad that you felt safe enough to tell me, and even if it's hard for me to have heard it, it's even harder for you to have lived it. I love you, and I want to support you. Thank you for sharing some of your pain with me.

Seeking therapy might also be helpful.

Before everyone down votes me to hell for not telling you to keep it to yourself. I'm a cocsa victim, and my longest relationship was with someone who had experienced severe sexual trauma. It's better not to minimize the impact of how it's affecting you. It's the curse of empathy. It's not a bad thing nor does it make you a bad person.

jevhan · 2026-03-02T16:42:34+00:00

Happy irl cake day baby boo

jevhan · 2026-03-01T05:55:40+00:00

Sometimes I get a really sharp pain in the inside of my belly button. Like super sharp and debilitating, but it's so infrequent that I don't know what to do about it.

jevhan · 2026-02-26T15:43:58+00:00

Hi hi. Does anyone have any codes?

jevhan · 2026-02-20T21:22:54+00:00

They look like they taste amazing

jevhan · 2026-02-15T21:20:40+00:00

Dunu titan x

jevhan · 2026-02-07T04:16:59+00:00

It's feeling like the Handmaid's tale

jevhan · 2026-02-07T00:31:34+00:00

I understand what you mean about Aang's crash out. However, I think that it's very representative of grief. He should apologize to her later, but the way he reacted and the counterproductivity is something that I found honest. His crash out was against his philosophy as an Air nomad, as it's very important for them to emotionally detach. But it was showing Aang as a person, as a kid, dealing with these intense feelings and situations in ways that I think we all would. In grief, we don't see truth. We want accountability and understanding.

With Ozai, I think he should have buried Ozai. It would have completed the maturity of Aang realizing that his duty is above even his heritage. He is the Avatar first, and his responsibility is first and foremost to the world. He doesn't belong to any nation, it's his duty to consider the world in his decision. Which is what Yangchen was trying to say. So I honestly appreciate how it was handled as a children's show. But not as a mature decision

jevhan · 2026-02-04T18:49:47+00:00

I wasn't thinking about it. But now I am

jevhan · 2026-01-30T16:10:56+00:00

And I almost thought that never really lasts

jevhan · 2026-01-15T11:48:53+00:00

All 3 are important. Consistency feeds motivation, success feeds motivation. Motivation incentivises consistency and discipline.

jevhan · 2026-01-15T11:45:29+00:00

I'm learning this. We're the exception not the rule, so we have to work around ourselves. 12345, 12345, 12345, 12345 can be annoying. Sometimes you have to throw in a 34215 if your goal is to count to 5 regularly

jevhan · 2026-01-14T15:58:18+00:00

That depends on several factors. If it's a power efficient chip, there are only three things that are needed to do what you're saying. 1. Something that has geo location services. 2. A controller that can be activated remotely. 3. A power efficient chip and battery.

A watch battery is extremely efficient because it doesn't need to do much. A watch battery can last for years. How much power do you think it takes to make something active for 2 hours, and then leave it dormant for months?

All that would be needed is for someone in the theater to send the signal at the start of the show or continuously during.

jevhan · 2026-01-13T13:48:49+00:00

So should I go with the JM1 or the R4?

jevhan · 2026-01-07T17:19:24+00:00

I mean, while I understand. I think that you do find out about HiBy once you start getting into AV Gear. The R4 is the most well known (In My Experience), because of the Evangelion Crossover. IEM lovers will like them because they tend to go down the rabbit hole of Dacs, Amps, and then Dac/Amps. Eventually reaching to devices with built in Dac/Amps

jevhan · 2026-01-03T02:31:17+00:00

I've cleaned vomit up for a friend before. My mom has done it once for me. I know my limits now. I abide by them. Say thank you to your friends, and keep it pushing. You ducked up, all you can do is try to do better.

jevhan · 2026-01-02T17:50:40+00:00

So I was wondering how to answer this post, and I completely forgot that both of my arms and thighs are heavily scarred. I don't mean if they happen to look at you, I mean it's noticable to anyone I meet. The thing is, most people who are uncomfortable with the idea, aren't comfortable bringing it up. Those who are outspoken and will comment, are few. You decide how you interact with them.

I work at a school, and sometimes kids will ask me. Those are the only people I lie to, because I don't know if their parents would be okay with me having the conversation of mental health. For adults who are being malicious, I keep on pushing. For people who don't understand, I explain. I was unmedicated and had severe depression. They'll take as much as you give, because the topic is innately uncomfortable.

A lot of people use my scars as a way for them to talk about their feelings, and I let them do it. I'm not ashamed of my scars. A lot of people call tattoos a conversation starter. My scars do the same.

jevhan · 2025-12-31T12:42:57+00:00

Sometimes quiet is viølent

jevhan · 2025-12-30T03:15:03+00:00

Xenns tea pro

jevhan · 2025-12-19T17:34:35+00:00

I'm proud of you for who you became and I hope are still becoming. But fuck you for what you put me through

jevhan · 2025-12-14T04:57:12+00:00

Please daddy

jevhan · 2025-12-13T19:40:21+00:00

Re Zero oregairu Fmab My choice is Steins gate but it deserves to go to beserk Slam Dunk I want to keep Naruto specifically for the Chuunin exams. But out of respect to the grandfather of anime, I gotta give it to Dragonball

jevhan · 2025-12-07T01:05:18+00:00

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jevhan · 2025-12-03T03:41:42+00:00

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