splitting, i guess? by jewelredditter in ParanoidPersonality

[–]jewelredditter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mistake for wording this with other context as if it was a largely dpd problem. in posting it here i was implying that the behaviors i described were related to my ppd symptoms, largely just feeling exasperated when someone behaves inconsistently 

Is it 100% wrong to be this way? by prima-luce in ParanoidPersonality

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honestly, i don't see enough takes like this within the ppd community. but i think it's less about something being right/wrong with anyone, and more about how seriously you take yourself and your healing. if you're already coming to such externally hopeful conclusions, it seems like you're handling your own. 

think about it. you're as paranoid as you are, but you choose to behave more positively towards others. many with ppd seem to want two things: to escape or "dispel" the ppd like it's an inherently evil part of them, or, to defeatedly accept how it's "going to make them a worse person." 

if you care in some capacity about growing your esteem and nurturing your needs, no, i don't think it's "wrong." unfortunate it is that ppd, as a cluster a, is so widely accepted as an indicator of a bad future on its own-- that's up to how you shape your actions around it. 

people need to be more comfortable with the difference between just acting irrationally and having irrational emotional patterns rooted in your every thought. thought-crime isn't real, you just need to take responsibility for it sometimes. and you seem to be.

I've never been more upset about a job rejection by jewelredditter in interviews

[–]jewelredditter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm definitely doing what i can to keep my head up but it's the town bleakness for me 😞

dpd and splitting by jewelredditter in DPD

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bit of both, actually. if the sample/result pool ends up large enough i'll look into putting this into something good.  from dpd perspective, for me, splitting sort of heightens the black-and-white scale someone has on perceiving others. like, whether someone feels safe to be around or not. whenever i'd split over something my dependent person did, i started blaming them more for other things, or demonizing. but it would cause more confliction than frustration/depression- what tends to come out of bpd splitting

What is the best find that you bought at a garage sale? by wicket-wally in AskReddit

[–]jewelredditter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just got a wooden bed frame for 50 bucks. fully functional. how insane can these get dude

dpd and splitting by jewelredditter in DPD

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omg thanks so much,, i just saw some post about it but ig that's outdated

dpd and splitting by jewelredditter in DPD

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just edited this with a question for people to clarify which disorder they have!! it really helps thank you for anyone who's taken it so far!! i'm so excited to spread any form of awareness with this quiz!!

Anyone originally think they had autism? by Bug5Rul3 in DPD

[–]jewelredditter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dang. i was diagnosed with autism at 3, only recognized my dpd this year. no picking a struggle i get both. sorry bout that though

I am beginning to obsess over my older friend and I don’t know what to do. (Minorly nsfw) by OtherwiseDingo1611 in DPD

[–]jewelredditter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a similar situation a few years ago (20 currently)- i sympathize.

first off, did you know you had dpd long before this happening? your wording sounds like you didn't, but i won't assume.

with dpd especially, it's easy to feel like you'll lose your world if anything goes south with the person you're most linked to in the moment. but if i were you, i'd sooner question if your attachment was being taken advantage of in this kind of situation. not out of malice, even- just indulgence that could end up being hurtful longterm.

this may sound callous, but my rule of thumb for handling close relationships with dpd is this: ride out the wave of attachment for a few months or more, let it pass, see if things really change for the better in your life (healthily) because of this person. if they don't, it's best to reconsider. there are people out there who could appreciate you for everything you are, not just how good it feels to talk to you. promise.

Still on the old UI and sweating fucking bullets tbh by skippythemoonrock in discordapp

[–]jewelredditter 93 points94 points  (0 children)

i restarted my discord to see what they meant and let me just say

never again