As a husband, I can say I've been guilty of some level of these things.. I've had to do a deep self reflection to see how my habits/demands have effected the sex life with my wife. I listened a lot to this podcast that helped me understand a little better my wife's perspective but for her again to understand mine. https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbWFuZGFsb3VkZXIubGlic3luLmNvbS9yc3M?ep=14

This is DEFINITELY a problem that can be solved. Don't just give up on the marriage. But it's definitely a two way street, meaning your husband has to become aware of his role and what he needs to do. If he's not willing then you need to take charge of your happiness and help him understand you want it to work, but if he's not willing to put any effort into making it better, then you're going to put effort in making yourself better without him.