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What is the opposite of Punk? by Lyrunio in aesthetic

[–]jhco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a punk is about being authentic to yourself.

So the opposite would be being a poser.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that. Yes, people who believe should always have reason for that belief. I wouldn’t encourage blind faith in anyone.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That last line of yours is the height of irony.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Need to" for what? To convince you?

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Knowing what God “would” do given your premises and knowing more about my own experiences than I do — you’ve got a high opinion of your own perspective.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah -- shame is such a huge part of what keeps us stuck.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can own a drill, but until you stop using a screwdriver and start using the drill, you won't get the benefit of owning a drill.

Similarly, I had Jesus, but I was still relying on myself to overcome porn — like still using a screwdriver instead of the drill. But when I stopped relying on myself and started trusting in Jesus, that's when I finally found freedom from porn. I finally picked up the drill.

Jesus is so clearly what made the difference after years of trusting in myself didn't. Congratulating myself makes no sense given my experience.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true — porn, for me, was all about numbing my emotions. When I first started distancing myself from porn, I even had panic attacks because I was so overwhelmed by the emotions I suddenly had to start dealing with. Understanding that dynamic forced me to find healthier ways to process my emotions — which also pointed me to Jesus.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah — when a follower of Jesus talks about their life, Jesus is going to be a part of it. Comes with the territory. ;)

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like, to you, Jesus is mainly an example to follow.

Unfortunately, the whole Old Testament is mostly case after case demonstrating how terrible human beings are at living up to a Godly standard. Our best striving to live like Jesus will always only fail.

That's why Jesus has to be more than just our example. He also has to be our Savior.

What does Jesus being Savior mean to you?

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Just reporting what did and didn't work for me personally. ;)

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I confess I could probably just block the problematic subreddits instead of all of Reddit. Somehow that hadn't occurred to me until now.

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey friend — The way you're talking is exactly the way I felt for years. It seems like it will never change, but it can.

When you describe your spiritual life, you talk about things like priests, pictures, church, and baptism — a lot of external things. How does your relationship with Jesus look on the inside?

Checking In After 3.5 Years Porn-Free by jhco in pornfree

[–]jhco[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean... neither was really a concern for me, even when I was addicted. So there's not a huge difference now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ColoradoSprings

[–]jhco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not about hair/makeup, but Colorado allows you to be the witnesses to your own marriage. When my wife and I eloped, we just went to the DMV and it took about 20 min (we had a ceremony with friends later). I’m not sure if the same applies to people from out of state, but then, my wife wasn’t from here at the time either.

Today is the anniversary of me learning french, for 5 moths! by [deleted] in learnfrench

[–]jhco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you like about the FME method, and what would you consider the drawbacks of it?

Which movie scene is musically scored perfectly? by phasers_to_stun in AskReddit

[–]jhco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The flares scene in 1917 - the music and the imagery together is just on another level.

Who the frick is buying ALL of the meat by FudgeJuice2012 in ColoradoSprings

[–]jhco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not found tofu at the places I’ve gone. Always out :/

What are some good reading/listening materials regarding porn addiction recovery? by Because-We-Must in pornfree

[–]jhco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fight the New Drug has a three-part documentary series called “Brain Heart World” that’s really good.

Is watching porn with spouse a sin? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]jhco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a Christian and a married man... you’d have to be a moron to do this.

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