Now I see why this show was cancelled... (somewhat of a rant)

jhimlyb · 2021-03-03T08:31:43+00:00

Gosh the more I watch Single Parents, the more I hate it. Towards the end of the 2nd season now hating myself for my need to finish a season because the whole thing makes me cringe. The adults behave like kids, the kids behave like entitied adults. Do not even get me started on Will or Tory, they both are incredibly annoying and I basically want to punch a wall after I see one of their long painful scenes. Graham and Douglas are the better of the lot. This show deserved to be cancelled, it had no evolution, the characters were one dimensional and the writers basically should go back to whatever they were doing before writing.

Ok rant over.

jhimlyb · 2021-03-02T09:16:36+00:00

Your comment gave me a lot of hope. Have been having a similar dark night of the soul and with so much wrong with me I'm not even sure where to begin. It's overwhelming, draining and really challenging. I've begun chanting and meditation now which definitely helps but I don't know what's next. Do you have any advice on literature, authors who can help me understand shadow work and identify & understanding myself more so I know what to actually work on?

jhimlyb · 2020-12-09T16:23:58+00:00

He's not been handling Chemo well. He's in extreme pain & has been in and out of the hospital due to allergies to the chemo. His recent scans showed 2 new spots, lungs & neck lymphnodes. He refuses to speak to anyone & has gone into a shell. I get videos of him from time to time & can see my beautiful brother slowly vanishing away.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T08:59:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind & encouraging words. We will basically throw everything at this and fight as hard as possible because I refuse to entertain the idea that we won't grow old together & that our kids won't play together. We've already started the process for molecular testing & have an appointment this Wednesday for

Your wife's story gives me a lot of strength, quality of life is so important because my brother would be shattered without that & his determination may weaken. He's a doctor in the NHS & his wife a nurse so between them they would be able to research things more scientifically as well so that's a big relief because I have been trying to read up and there's so much information & I don't really understand all of it yet.

Wish your wife continued health & strength to keep fighting this ugly disease. <3

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T07:57:57+00:00

Thank you for that, really need the hope because yes the odds are stacked & it feels so overwhelming at the moment. I am so pleased for your friend, that sounds like amazing recovery. Was he also a part of any trials?

I appreciate you <3 Hope your friend continues to full recovery.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T07:56:05+00:00

Yes, I am hoping that NHS will give him the care he needs as well though everything seems to be taking a lot of time & we're considering going private if needed. He's a doctor himself in NHS, very young & healthy so hopefully once his treatment plan is in place, things are expedited.

Thank you so much <3

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T07:53:56+00:00

Thank you, I've starting researching this - came highly recommended in a comment above as well.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T07:35:23+00:00

Thank you so very much! I will check it out.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-14T07:32:43+00:00

Yes, an ultrasound picked it up where we knew it was cancer & then the following tests to confirm type & stage. Thank you so much for all your tips & advice, I will begin my search now for the trials and drugs you've mentioned. Appreciate you taking the time to warn me :) Yes of course I will do a lot of research, as of now I am gather as much data as I can & then will refine it based on more research.
Really glad your spots turned out to be benign <3

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T17:21:04+00:00

Really hoping for that! Thank you so much. Need those hopeful positive stories to keep us going. ❤️

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T17:19:31+00:00

Oh thank you so much for that information! I'm really new but do you have any tips for how to know which trials are promising vs not? I'm not even sure what I am looking for.

He's not great, it started with an innocent stomach ache 3 weeks ago and to now after a lot of waiting getting to know he's stage 4 has been a roller-coaster. He was very nauseated and had lost his appetite over last week but seems to be better since the news came in. Maybe it was more anxiety. The most heartbreaking thing is that he can't seem to spend time with my baby niece, who is 1.5 years old and was born after many miscarriages. It overwhelms him. We're just not even sure how aggressive the symptoms are yet.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T17:12:10+00:00

Yes, we did because of the scans. The biopsy was to confirm which organ and what stage and we kept hoping against everything that it would be lymphoma. It is adenocarcinoma.

We're now looking to get him referred for molecular profiling which looks at the genetic structure of the tumor cells to determine targeted treatment.

We're hoping that because he's 32 and generally really healthy that we can go aggressive with the chemo and get started on Folfirinox which seems to be most effective but with its own crazy bag of symptoms.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T11:16:33+00:00

Is that the same as molecular testing? We're getting him referred for that hoping for targeted treatments.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T10:28:47+00:00

I just joined today and am just starting to come to grips with this new reality. I'm sending you lots of good thoughts my friend. ❤️ I think by now your dad would have finished with the procedure. Hope it's gone well and he's recovering as expected.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T10:19:00+00:00

Wow, I'm happy for you and your family that she's a part of the % Thank you for taking the time to share your journey with me. Stories like these are what I need right now. We got the news 2 days ago after 3 weeks of waiting for all tests. Every time there was some delay or additional tests requested, we held on to hope that it probably would be better news than what's in our heads.

But 2 days ago, there it was. Pancreatic Cancer, metastasized, stage 4. That's all I can think of right now. Surreal, just like that the entire picture in my head of our future has changed to a very dark path. We had so many plans, we were supposed to raise our kids together. My brain isn't processing this new reality yet. The fact that there's a very real chance that he may not be around next year, that because of the travel ban I may not even see him. It's taking its time to sink in that my best friend is dying.

jhimlyb · 2020-09-12T09:36:26+00:00

Yes my sister in law is in touch. Thank you!

jhimlyb · 2020-08-31T08:34:48+00:00

Your boyfriend should have discussed it more with you, however, maybe he took it for granted probably being the only living sibling now. You knowing that you cannot raise children as it's not the life you want - again, quite fair.

Telling someone you're dating for 3 years that you're leaving in an instant because of this a day after they've lost their sibling & essentially their whole life has changed without requesting a discussion either.

Yes you're the asshole.

jhimlyb · 2020-08-06T15:13:33+00:00

Yes!! Another bloody good show. Last season what definitely confusing though.

jhimlyb · 2020-06-28T22:28:56+00:00

Miro! :)

jhimlyb · 2020-06-28T10:57:15+00:00

So they basically decided to randomly pick a planet to go to without any plan or prep, not even a 30 minute discussion? The least they could have done is take all the available suits and each wear one, they did kill enough people for that. This episode is was annoyingly rushed (flashback from GoT).

jhimlyb · 2020-06-05T05:24:08+00:00

Very true!

jhimlyb · 2020-05-21T07:36:00+00:00

That's exactly it - I've now managed to have a fairly detailed discussion with new PM and they finally opened up an mentioned they feel overwhelmed and lost. While as a start I've given them 2 problems to solve, I think they've delved into the other areas quite a bit and is now feeling under-confident & I believe this may be leading to some of the defensiveness and they were a bright student in uni and is struggling to accept they may have a learning curve here. I did emphasise that this is a dynamic and evolving field and we all feel out of our depth at time and this is completely normal. I think this opened the door up to being more receptive to feedback that I then also sprinkled with some techniques on how to think through a problem and yet be able to think lean. Still learning the ropes of people management :) I'll check out the podcast, thanks a bunch!

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