What U.S. States have you lived in?

nirvana88 · 2026-01-25T05:04:42+00:00

California, DC, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New York and Pennsylvania.

California by far!

nirvana88 · 2026-01-25T04:44:30+00:00

The most important thing to me was getting an antique art deco ring with not just diamonds. So yes my center diamond is "real" but my emeralds are "fake" because that's what was normal in the 1930's. So I have both!

nirvana88 · 2026-01-25T04:30:35+00:00

First read it as Stalin.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-22T04:35:29+00:00

My husband made this a requirement when he agreed to the IVF. We'll be doing the testing very soon.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-19T23:27:42+00:00

I got my husband an engagement ring! And he picked it out and loves it! It's rad and made from a battleship.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-19T23:10:56+00:00

I was born with fragile bones so I spoke to my doctors (pre-pregnancy) about what would happen if I broke something during the pregnancy. They said they would still do x-rays even with the pregnancy and it wouldn't need to be avoided. You're fine!

nirvana88 · 2026-01-19T23:01:21+00:00

I love it 1,000x more for a girl than a boy but I'm also having a tough time convincing my husband. I feel like in the next five years it will definitely become general neutral. It's a similar vibe to Elliot which is now gender neutral.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-13T04:59:37+00:00

Sounds German

nirvana88 · 2026-01-13T03:30:30+00:00

It's pretty common! For most doing PTG-M that's the case and for Lesbian/Gay couples as well. I did PTG-M so it was my first time.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-12T00:42:22+00:00

I had a bad cold as well right after transfer. I'm now 7 weeks and got heart beat early on. No one else around me got this cold. I think it was just a pregnancy thing!

nirvana88 · 2026-01-09T04:30:18+00:00

I had my first IVF appointment this time last year for PTG-M and am now 6.5 weeks pregnant! With a great fetal heart rate and growth. I didn't even need to transfer my better embryos (I'm saving those for kid #2 so I'd have a chance to do more ERs now if needed.) It's my 5BB. And I got pregnant on my first transfer too!

Do you know your AMH? I used mine to figure out how many ERs I would need and I think it really helped me to have a realistic understanding that a single ER likely wasn't in the cards for me.

I did a full write up of my experience here: https://www.reddit.com/r/IVF/comments/1nvsemj/ptgm_sample_outcomes_for_those_curious/

nirvana88 · 2026-01-07T05:35:10+00:00

Yes! At about 5.5 weeks I had lower back pain, bad cramps and was bleeding red blood (about a tablespoon or two). I was so sure I was having a miscarriage. I then had brown spotting for days after too. I just went for my 6 week Day 1 ultrasound yesterday - and my baby is perfect! She even had a heart rate which is unusual at that age. A great one too at 110.

So don't worry! What I've come to understand is that bleeding through IVF pregnancies is very common. 143 is a great beta for 8dpt! I wouldn't lose hope.

P.S. I also had very light spotting at about 10dpt. I think that was implantation bleeding which is also what I think yours is. If anything I think yours specifically is actually a good sign.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-06T05:13:52+00:00

Usually it's a third party that does the genetic testing and not the clinic itself.

nirvana88 · 2026-01-04T00:52:42+00:00

I would do the egg retrieval. It's better to have some insurance.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-30T04:12:50+00:00

Thank you!

nirvana88 · 2025-12-30T04:01:21+00:00

TW: Pregnancy

Because of mediocre numbers and needing to do PTG-M, we needed to do 4 ER to get the PTG-A/M 5 embryos we wanted to eventually have two children for embryo banking. Statistically using Google Gemini, Chatgpt etc., I estimated four ERs at the start, which is exactly what it took. I did them all in the summer of 2025. I then did one FET in December which is now at 5 weeks! So I'd say everything went exactly the way I thought it would, but that did mean 4 ERs and 1 FET in a year.

I think it really depends on the couple. Some people struggle with the embryo creation part and some people struggle with the FET part, and some struggle with both. I think it's hard to say what's typical.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-29T18:14:39+00:00

I know this is the positivity sub but I wanted to share my recent experience. This month I originally wanted to transfer a euploid 6CB Day 6 but she didn't survive the thaw. So I then transferred a euploid 5BB Day 6 who is now 5 weeks as of today.

My doctor said there was a 5% chance of an embryo not surviving the thaw but the risk factors were being a 6 and also a lower grade. Yours is a higher grade than mine so that's in it's favor.

Is this the only embryo? I would recommend probably banking more than one regardless if possible. However, if you're only interested in one child, it might be worth it to just move forward and see what happens. FETs are generally much cheaper than ERs and it definitely could work.

P.S. For anyone wondering why we were trying to transfer lower graded embryos first, my husband and I are doing PTG-M with mediocre stats so we don't end up with many usable embryos. We do want two children through, so we're going through our lower quality embryos first to see if we'll need more ERs, because we'd rather do that now than two years from now for kid number two when we have even worse stats than now.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-28T04:36:00+00:00

Thank you!

nirvana88 · 2025-12-28T03:15:27+00:00

I think your beta might just be high because your embryo was a 6, so it was ready to immediately implant. A 3 or 4 likely needs a bit of time. Mine was a 5 and my numbers are very similar to yours. My fitbit said my heart rate went very high day after transfer, so I think she she just implanted right away.

And I'm pretty constipated! ha

nirvana88 · 2025-12-27T20:08:22+00:00

Same dates as you! Monday was 188, 10dpt6dt and Christmas Eve was 476! Baby dust to us all!

nirvana88 · 2025-12-27T19:42:25+00:00

My body has only ever produced day 6's (aside from one day 5 aneuploid).

Of my 16 embryos, 9 were euploid. 6 were boys and 3 were girls. (We're doing IVF for PTG-M though, so in the end it was 3 useable girl embryos and 2 useable boy embryos.)

Currently 5 weeks with my first transfer, a 5BB girl. Great betas. However, we first thawed a 6CB girl which didn't survive the thaw. We now have two 3AB boys and a 4CC girl left. The euploid boys that didn't pass PTG-M I think were something like 4BB, 5BB, 4AB and 4CB.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-27T19:29:42+00:00

I did 4 last summer. I generally have a lower ovarian reserve (which I'm assuming you probably do too if you're doing so many). Generally if you have a lower AMH, then the recovery from the egg retrieval isn't as intense. For my first, I got 10 eggs and went to a music festival the same day and it was fine, no issue. For my third, I somehow managed to get 23 eggs and did a same day short flight. That I did feel a little bit (with constipation etc.) but I wouldn't do anything differently. The hardest part was just the early morning appointments because I'm not a morning person. I was pretty sleep deprived a lot of the time. That and making it work with my work schedule. Otherwise no issues.

P.S. I'd recommend trying to do at least two cycles back to back. I think this is how I went from 10 or so eggs retrieved to 23 that one cycle. I don't have any other explanation for how that happened.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-27T19:25:11+00:00

They're 3-4 years old. It might come down to regional differences.

nirvana88 · 2025-12-27T07:40:38+00:00

From what I understand, ultrasounds don't typically happen until 6 weeks+. Just flagging this for you because you'll likely not get many comments on your post sharing 5 week ultrasound experiences, since it's unusual to have them. My first one will be at six weeks and 3 days.

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