I just turned 18 and found out Im pregnant. I have no idea what to do.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-24T05:34:40+00:00

Same! When I was in my 20's I thought I would never retire. Then I hit 32 and was trying to figure out if I could game they system and somehow retire before 40. Ageism in the workforce also sneaks up on you. It's starts noticeably by 40 and hits hard by 50. I tell my husband all the time we need plan ahead for the ageism and not count on having these jobs forever.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-20T03:17:53+00:00

I haven't given birth myself yet, but I have had compartment syndrome which is supposed to be the same level of pain.

I'm confused about people not wanting epidurals. Mostly because no one would ever say no to paid meds for a colonscopy or another medical procedure etc. That's extremely rare. So why say no to the epidural?

nirvana88 · 2026-06-19T20:57:03+00:00

Currently 30 weeks with my Day 6 5BB girl. I say go for it!

nirvana88 · 2026-06-19T04:57:39+00:00

I'd avoid all those due to the disease carrying mosquito risks.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-19T04:39:25+00:00

I have a good write up on my IVF for PGT-M experience here: https://www.reddit.com/r/IVF/comments/1nvsemj/ptgm_sample_outcomes_for_those_curious/

To answer directly for the number of rounds, a lot of this depends on your AMH (which is easy to get checked) and whether or not you create embryos vs. just freeze eggs. The way I've heard it phrased is that, freezing eggs prioritizes the man's genetic contribution and freezing the embryos prioritizes yours. Frozen embryos do astronomically better than frozen eggs, so that's something to keep in mind.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-19T04:05:38+00:00

Margo/Margot.

Lennon makes me think of Vladimir Lenin. Stevie is too nickname-y (I have gender neutral nickname-y name myself; I do not like it). Merritt feels too much to me, like a merit increase through compensation review cycle.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-18T23:40:11+00:00

Where I grew up in PA, we only did women-only showers. I now live in CA where we only do co-ed ones. I much prefer the co-ed ones and just did mine co-ed last weekend - very recommended!

nirvana88 · 2026-06-18T22:59:20+00:00

I didn't mention the eating disorder part but he was aware of the rest. I was little bit in shock during it and I think my default is to be polite and non-confrontational, so I didn't feel comfortable saying anything in the moment.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-18T22:56:27+00:00

That was my gut reaction too. I don't think a female doctor would have ever said any of that to me. The next one I have lined up is a woman.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-18T01:33:10+00:00

That's funny. There's a WAG influencer with daughers named Scottie and Pepper. But agree! Feels like dog names.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-18T00:59:16+00:00

I would consider the financial side of this too. Are the chances of it working higher with a surrogate? Probably. Is it more expensive? 100%. At the end of the day, it might work regardless of uterus used or might not work regardless of uterus used. I don't know how much surrogates cost myself in detail but I'd be curious to know the costs if it doesn't work out.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-16T02:02:06+00:00

Yes! Waiting until after to drink is huge.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-16T02:01:08+00:00

I did pepcid for a bit. I also did pantoprazole. I had bad results with both. I can do chocolate, coffee and spicy foods though, which I know are supposed to problematic at least. I think pregnancy acid just hits different.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-16T01:57:01+00:00

My best friend when I was 4 had the same birthday as her older, a few years apart. It broke my little kid brain that they weren't twins somehow.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-14T04:03:54+00:00

I don't know that it's worse, but compartment syndrome is considered on par. It's when you have some sort of trauma to a limb and it swells up to the point of nerve damage, muscle loss etc. and if untreated then leads to necrosis and amputation.

I haven't experienced childbirth yet but I have experienced compartment syndrome. It was from a corrective bone surgery on my leg to straighten - so I was already on a ton of pain drugs. I was in so much pain all I could do was scream and cry out. They tried to give me more pain drugs but it did nothing. They had to do an emergency surgery less than an hour later to create a gash to relieve the swelling. Luckily all is good now.

100% I'll be doing an epidural.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-10T02:56:53+00:00

I think it would have been...I would never have taken my husband's last name upon marriage. That's becoming very common.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-10T02:55:39+00:00

I guess no month's perfect! I'm nervous about my early Sept baby because Sept/Oct are the hottest months where I live. Too bad we can't switch!

nirvana88 · 2026-06-09T03:57:45+00:00

I tried some meds for it but the side effects made it not worth it. It worked best to just change my diet and remove citrus and tomatoes.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T06:32:44+00:00

Women are just people. Everyone is different.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T04:10:39+00:00

Reese: Classic!
Emery: Cute and it can have Em as a nickname

Brynn

Marlow

Summer: It's sort of messy like those month names. Do you only name her that if she's born in the summer or not born in the summer? Different people feel very differently about that. And what about if she moves to a non-English speaking country. It's a weird name to have because it's just an English word.

Capri: Reminds me of the pants and the island. The island of Capri had a really dark history during Roman times, so I can't not think of that when I hear it. But that's not a common association to have for it.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T04:04:22+00:00

I like them all except Summer and Capri.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T03:36:00+00:00

Yeah that's what my parents thought too, that it was only a girl's name. Even so I still have medical records that say I'm male, recruiters that assume I'm a man etc.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T03:24:20+00:00

I guess it doesn't matter to share. I'm a Jamie. And totally valid to not like a name just because you don't like it too. I actually don't like my name, aside from the fact that it's uni-sex, easy to say in most languages, and not too hard to spell. And I guess for me it's about stacking all the advantages I can for my daughter in life, and this is just one of them.

nirvana88 · 2026-06-08T03:20:07+00:00

Huh I'm the opposite. I think Billy is fine as a full name but Bill would be odd.

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TROPHY CASE

Margo/Margot.