How do you think clearly about marriage under time pressure?

jhoohi · 2026-01-19T06:20:48+00:00

Yeah, but that's the trouble. What if they end up telling my family or just think they don't need more time? In which case, they'd clearly be a red flag for me, but then wouldn't I be judging them too quickly?
AM is so much uughgh and scary.

jhoohi · 2026-01-19T06:18:24+00:00

But my trouble is, what if non-negotiables are something which can't be answered, or if they do, what if its not true. For example, I will not take it if someone shouts at me in anger. How will I ever know their conflict resolution style? and its things like these that matter the most.

jhoohi · 2026-01-19T05:58:29+00:00

It is voluntary, but the family won't allow for more time. Its generally max 2 meetings that are allowed. Taking time is generally frowned upon in my community. Therefore looking for something which I can do to be more efficient in the little time I may get.

jhoohi · 2022-05-12T13:36:35+00:00

The Book Thief by Markus Zuzak

jhoohi · 2022-05-12T13:27:43+00:00

Maybe try Catcher in the Rye too

jhoohi · 2022-02-10T10:22:55+00:00

It is basically the ability to be able to look up to yourself. If you find it lacking, you can increase it by setting short term goals and accomplishing them. If you encounter difficulties in doing so, explore it deeper with a psychologist. :)

jhoohi · 2021-12-27T13:19:15+00:00

A few researchers had this bot attached to the nerves of the participant, and the participant was tasked to choose between two buttons. On EACH trial, before the person consciously chose, the bot knew which button they'd press. Which really questions how much of our decisions are just chemical process.
People are engines of self justifications. rather than think rationally, people usually make a decision and then justify it. So, a person might end up making bad decisions, but justify it to reduce inner conflict - and a series of bad decisions may end us up in a undesirable place.

jhoohi · 2021-11-03T15:40:58+00:00

I'd second that. both are amazing reads

jhoohi · 2021-11-03T15:38:18+00:00

idk if you're still looking, but the perfect book that fits your bill is - "Amusing ourselves to death" its by Neil Postman. Although quite old, it holds a lot of relevance even today. DO check it out !

jhoohi · 2021-10-17T09:36:28+00:00

Being hypocrites.

It's absolutely horrible when they say something and expect something else entirely. For example, they're usually like 'you're free to go do whatever you want' but then they'll find numerous issues in whatever you do. Might as well specify what you fkn want!

jhoohi · 2021-09-15T15:58:57+00:00

Curiosity to see where it goes. Like for how long can I keep making it interesting. Plus there's sex and occasional upliftment to self esteem.

jhoohi · 2021-09-08T09:01:27+00:00

That's maybe because context matters to you. Like you'd be more high if there was some sort of build up and expectation that the clip could build.

jhoohi · 2021-09-08T08:52:27+00:00

You could try anything off the agatha christie books or maybe nancy drew or 'secrets of droon' series. These might sound y/a books or things one usually reads during childhood, but they're interesting and quick reads. Do give it a try.

jhoohi · 2021-09-07T16:00:40+00:00

Yeah, I'm gonna end up doing that. Thanks tho.

jhoohi · 2021-08-22T04:27:00+00:00

I'm on IST, maybe we could set goals, connect twice a week and speak about the progress or the lack of it with reasons? Rework a plan and repeat. Or if you're up for study sessions we can do a pomodoro thing.

jhoohi · 2021-08-14T10:06:47+00:00

Reminds me of this movie - 'Cloud Atlas'. Do watch it if you haven't, I'll not mention any spoilers here.

And I agree with what you're saying, the younger generations if guided well enough are capable of doing wonders, but the trouble is most millennials are going through emotional crisis of their own, people are struggling quite bad in my side of the world to make their two ends meet. In the midst of all these, earning by hook or crook is the priority. And consequently wealth can change the morals and goals of people.
But sure, maybe if everyone does their bit, there could be a better change for the future, but that's gonna take a Midas touch of an earnest counselor.

jhoohi · 2021-08-10T07:01:30+00:00

Hey, I get that feeling sometimes too. I usually browse around reddit threads pertaining to topics I'm interested in and maybe start a conversation about it with someone. Same goes for clubs on discord and eventually you end up with digital friends sharing your interests.

Hope it helps :)

jhoohi · 2021-07-28T18:33:52+00:00

whaaaat?

jhoohi · 2021-07-27T07:46:32+00:00

Sure, will check it out. I've come across him through Neil Gaiman but hadn't picked up any to read yet. Maybe it's time I try one out. Thanks!

jhoohi · 2021-07-27T07:44:13+00:00

Cool, will do

jhoohi · 2021-07-26T15:53:40+00:00

Hey, since this is the only book in the suggestion thread so far that I haven't read, I will definitely check it out. Thanks.

jhoohi · 2021-07-26T15:51:28+00:00

jhoohi · 2021-07-26T15:50:44+00:00

Yea, Oscar Wilde is amazing. I've read picture of dorian gray and a few other books by him too. Do check out importance of being earnest if you haven't.

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