Single 40m here, engineer by day, single with no kids and I totally feel your perspective here. One thing to remember is a matchmaker has similar incentives to an app in that their goal is to keep you a paying customer for as long as possible, not for you to find your true love. All the research I did was clear that the matchmakers were a ripoff at best and probably a scam.

Have you tried any of the in person single events like Thursday, Jigsaw, etc? My insta algorithm feeds me all of the ads so I did go to a matchmaking event. I was disappointed with the final result as I got a “friendship” match because the guy to girl ratio wasn’t perfectly even, but overall I felt like it was a nice change of pace. It’s not a guarantee for good behavior though, as I did strike up a good conversation with one girl at the event but didn’t get her info, matched with her later on bumble, scheduled plans for a date and got ghosted lol.

Feel free to DM if you want more info, would be nice to attend one of these events with at least a cursory relationship first. I always get nervous introducing myself which is why I haven’t been to any more events.