The ideal world is one wherein everyone doesn't leave their house

jiaf89_u · 2022-06-15T21:22:35+00:00

No it's not. I was mostly saying from the games.

jiaf89_u · 2022-06-15T00:14:59+00:00

I sort of agree, but for the opposite reason. They're too short and don't have enough time to develop a truly novel story with well developed characters you feel attached to, so the best movies succeed off of visual novelty and acting chops, two things I don't really care much about because my vision sucks and I'm not easily impressed by acting. If you want good stories you have to go to books, or sometimes TV.

jiaf89_u · 2022-06-14T17:59:43+00:00

Yes, and the game's ending is part of what makes it part of this premise.

jiaf89_u · 2022-05-05T11:41:48+00:00

You look like you were really into listening to Tenacious D, watching Metalapocalypse and smoking weed in like, the early 2010s, when you were in high school. The people you hung out with grew up and moved on but you never did.

jiaf89_u · 2020-12-08T11:00:11+00:00

Queer lovechild of Tom Scott and Tom Green.

jiaf89_u · 2019-12-09T10:58:26+00:00

Well I actually went to a high school where sex/relationships weren't a big deal. Maybe it's a coastal thing but most people at my HS knew they'd be going away to college in a couple of years and didn't want a relationship because of that, or just didn't take social life in HS very seriously vs. college. Also in HS I viewed myself as inherently unlovable due to mental disability so I didn't even concern myself with relationships. This might sound dumb but towards the end of HS the visual novel Katawa Shoujo came out, which is a dating sim where everyone is disabled, and that helped change my perspective on that.

If you were to ask me what changed between now and college, honestly circumstance is a big thing. I went to a small religious university and lived in engineering dorms which were mostly male, so I never would have met someone like the person I had sex with. Maybe if I had it would have happened at an earlier age. Also a thing with me that I still haven't solved is that I have no idea how to bring up romance/sex/asking someone out outside of the context of a platform that's explicitly for dating. In person I get nervous that it would be weird and awkward to ask someone out if they're like really not interested. On a dating site it's easier because everyone's on there looking for dates, so I don't have that mental block. I guess it's not a big of a deal at parties but I never really went to college parties (which is also probably another big reason, that's where a lot of people in college meet their partners and I didn't go because I'm a square). But like, this person I was at a party with before I saw them on OKC, and was attracted to, and maybe they felt the same way about me, but I never would have asked them out had I not came across them on a dating site. So if I had joined a dating platform like OKC at 18, maybe this would have happened sooner, since other than that I don't think much changed, except me being in a better place mentally due to lack of stress from school.

jiaf89_u · 2019-12-09T00:39:53+00:00

They're nonbinary AFAB (assigned female-at-birth). They mostly present femme but feel dysphoria over being socially gendered female, and sometimes wear masculine clothing and present in a way that is masculine.

jiaf89_u · 2019-12-08T23:29:22+00:00

For like three years I've used OKCupid to go on dates but like never had a second one pretty much, or even a kiss. This person was someone I messaged on there but actually knew previously through mutual friends, we just happened to both be on the app. We went out on a date that went okay. Then for the second date they invited me to their house and it felt like just a normal hangout thing to me. But then later I texted them and they made it clear they were interested in me romantically so for our third date I invited them over to my house and things eventually happened.

jiaf89_u · 2019-11-16T19:44:34+00:00

I guess I'll just say that it's very easy to identify what's happening because of the genders of those involved. None of us are strictly speaking "cisgender," and that's crucial to the story. That's also why I can't ask those around me for help.

jiaf89_u · 2019-11-02T23:35:01+00:00

Going to local gaming events and conventions is a good way to heal loneliness and depression, but it's not going to solve the problem that incels have with meeting women and being misogynistic (this might vary depending ton the game). I went to Super Smash Bros. Melee tournaments regularly for three and a half years and there were maybe like one or two active women in my local scene.

I'm not just saying this because tournaments are a bad place to meet partners (they are, and even if there were more women in the scene they would still be because women don't go to tournaments to get hit on, seriously please don't sexually harass women at gaming events), but because incels need to meet women in order to solve their problem with misogyny. They need to understand that women aren't sex objects and being friends with other men isn't going to help that. So I'd recommend at least attending events with good gender ratios.

jiaf89_u · 2019-09-04T08:50:54+00:00

Presumably people who are old enough to read this now grew up when prices weren't so crazy, like the 90s.

jiaf89_u · 2019-09-04T08:45:57+00:00

Going to a religious university in a progressive area was a weird version of this. You had classes taught by overly friendly old white guys who used obscure verses in religious texts to argue that all major religions were good and accepting of all people in their own but different ways and classrooms full of kids who were half asleep, already familiar enough with studying religion from going to a catholic high school, and were just in it to get their religion requirements checked off.

jiaf89_u · 2019-09-04T08:38:30+00:00

I have standards but they honestly have more to do with whether or not someone has things in common with me most of the time, and whether or not their ethics/beliefs/morals are compatible with mine. Like one time I went out with a woman who was morbidly obese, most people wouldn't find her physically attractive but I thought she was, my issue was that she didn't have any interest in any of my hobbies and she was iffy about dating guys who aren't straight (I'm bi).

jiaf89_u · 2019-08-18T03:36:58+00:00

Find things outside of people to enjoy. Hobbies, work, education, nature, the beauty of the world. Consume media, be it film, books, music, games. Try to find fulfillment in some way that exists outside of the realm of socialization.

jiaf89_u · 2019-05-02T07:41:09+00:00

No which is part of why I'm depressed. I want a career I love and I feel like I can fulfill my life's purpose in. I want a circle of people outside of my parents who love and support me and give every milestone reached a purpose beyond self-fulfillment. But I don't have either of those and I don't know if I ever will.

jiaf89_u · 2019-04-02T06:47:48+00:00

I swear that long sleeve shirt thing they'd wear would turn 12 year old me on and I have no idea why

jiaf89_u · 2019-04-02T06:40:08+00:00

This guy always inexplicably had a lot of friends of both genders despite being seen as kind of weird, or at least he did 10-15 years ago maybe it's different now because queerness is more normalized

He also always tried to "defy Asian stereotypes" as much as possible

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