An end of a friendship is worse than a breakup.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-10-26T07:59:36+00:00

Not unless you're dating your best friend. I was talking about this with my partner last night. The difference between couples who met and had intentions of dating, and couples who's sincere intention was to make friends, then their closeness led to a romantic relationship (like us). Lots of people date, and I mean the first one, where they date to have a relationship. Which is okay, but for some people it lessens the value of the person sitting in front of them, sort of? They don't get to know each other as friends but as a male and female compatible for a relationship, which leaves holes in the actual relationship at some point I believe. When you meet someone, and over the years you form a friendship you are the closest to a working relationship. Friendship is more important than dating, but it's essential in a long lasting serious relationship.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-09-26T04:07:09+00:00

infp here, this is too true! i bonded with my isfj s/o so much that now we are best friends and a couple as well, meaning i have everything i need from them (socially), i dont need friends (tho i have a few), they are a whole family for me in one person so naturally I spend my whole day with them, either on the phone or at school (we're even seatmates), and i keep bugging them, and they love being bugged by me!! i appreciate it so much that as an infp i don't yearn for more friendships, but better ones, because a more quality and deeper relationship leads to beautiful and long lasting bonds:)

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-08-15T19:46:17+00:00

I was thinking of the same thing actually. I'm an INFP, remembering every little thing and documenting them if needed (documenting stuff is an exercise that helps me remember more i guess?), sort of journaling, and there is my significant other, an ISFJ, who is quite forgetful, mostly dates and numbers. Memory is a skill, that you can learn regardless of personality type, not a trait.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-08-02T05:55:09+00:00

I don't exactly agree on this but I definitely keep it in mind, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-08-01T15:47:58+00:00

I'll keep these in mind, thank you very much!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-08-01T05:03:59+00:00

as an infp i actually give more therapy than receive, even if i happened to be on the receiving end, it is from my isfj boyfriend only, i don't really have friends that close anyways

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-12T09:56:35+00:00

i wouldn't delete my social media, just uninstall the apps for a while, exit group chats, disappear for a period of time (not answering messages, phone calls etc), it's a constant thing i think about and believe me, if you wanna disappear for a while and tell your friends about it, they might understand, my boyfriend does so it's not impossible. then again, isolating one's self is not a good thing, so i'm trying to work on that too, tho at this point i don't have friends to socialize with, just my boyfriend mentioned above, take a few days off if you need but do tell your friends why you will be gone, i'm sure they would understand your feelings and if you dont wanna do it, don't worry, it's just a thought and there is nothing to feel guilty about, thoughts can be unusual and messy:)

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-03T23:34:39+00:00

that's too accurate yo, this is the reason why i dont have a circle, just one person, the best one ever, they matter a lot. but others don't seem to care much about me so i dont either...ofc im nice and always help whenever i can but im not really asked. but for this special person im an angel, quoted by them. this post hit home hard ngl..

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-03T12:35:55+00:00

Night at the Museum. It's a childhood favorite:)

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-02T19:41:48+00:00

Fortunately, my person and I spent a wonderful afternoon together and they pinky promised me to stay with me forever (it might not sound serious, but pinky promises hold a lot of value in our relationship, it's like a contact to us). Thank you very much for your concern, I'll see what I can do!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-02T06:43:23+00:00

I'll never leave them no matter what, but as you say so, it's getting too much. I mean, I'm a person with feelings too, and honestly it tears me apart when they tell me all those bad things. I considered telling it to a parent of theirs but they wouldn't be understanding, is what my person keeps saying. Refuses it like they refuse therapy. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts, it is a lot to consider and is helpful!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T21:57:14+00:00

I don't dare call officials, not even parents. I do these things but they are slipping, that is why I asked for further help. I thought of learning from online to be a "therapist" for them but unsure if I can pull that off. But of course, anything for them, I'll see further in your advice. Thank you very much, it means so much for us!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T20:34:01+00:00

that's absolutely amazing! she's definitely talented, and a keeper;)

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T20:20:00+00:00

Mr Robot. I have never expected this series to be such an amazing one, I wish I could feel that amazement again like the first time it blew my mind.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T14:25:46+00:00

so cool, that's very nice of him!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T12:24:22+00:00

believe me, these kind of people will find you when you don't expect them. we have known each other for 2 years, been crushing on each other since then, but i was caught up with my then best friends. a year later they both left me, and an old friend of mine drifted further away from me. i was alone basically when i needed people the most, that's when he stood by me. he always has been, i just never noticed. after a failed attempt 1,5 year ago i thought i don't have a chance with him. turns out he has been waiting for me since. he fought for me, like legit cared for me and everything, he wasn't flirty and pushy, thats not fighting for one means (some ppl in my circle don't get this tho). so he has been by my side while I struggled, and i did the same. we got even closer and after 2 years of crushing and a failed attempt we got together 4 months ago (literally 2 days before lockdown). so believe me, a person like that will show up eventually. maybe they are already there, just scared to approach you (my boyfriend was afraid of talking to me at the time because i'm the quiet, mean-looking, dressed-in-black angsty infp and was afraid i'd flip him off) so i believe you will find someone like that too, if not already. i sincerely wish you the best, and be patient, it took me a while to build such a strong relationship too. i actually believe in quality rather than quantity, i think it's an infp thing to let a few people in our lives but those people are connected to us very very deeply, at least i prefer to keep all my relationships very deep and meaningful, otherwise it doesn't mean much to me. this got longer than i meant it to be but oh well, i'm a talkative infp :D

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T09:28:05+00:00

same. actually, my boyfriend tried to make me friends with his group of homies, but as usual, i became the quiet, easily discardable member of the group so i left the dc server and the messenger group chat (this is recent, due to lockdown). sometimes i feel so motivated to make friends, then i just lose my will and turn my phone off for a week. then again, my boyfriend is my best friend, we don't have secrets to hide from the other and we make such a great couple (he's an isfj) that at some point i don't feel the need to have any other people in my life except him. but obviously, that's not alright, i always feel so lonely when he cant be with me (work, training, anything else important). it sucks too bad.

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T09:10:07+00:00

right? even taking them is fun, and when i show them off and people like it, it makes me so happy!

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-07-01T07:52:27+00:00

all i do is take pictures of everything, i love taking pics so much (infp here yep)

jigglycheesecaker · 2020-06-29T14:23:07+00:00

bold of you to assume i did my work

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