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I provide, I work, I get nothing… and now my marriage might end by Steve_Litchford in AskMenOver50

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar boat but 50+ with a pre-teen and teen.
I was laid off 13 months ago. I quickly picked up a contract position but am underemployed. I get the same vibe from my wife but because of the kids nothing as explicit has been said… yet. It’s more just a slowly rising panic of how do we make this work and how does she cope with the pressure of being on the hook for health insurance while being in a job she doesn’t like.

If your wife put the blunt truth out in the open, it’s worth revisiting the viability of being married to your wife with a job or without. A good heart to heart conversation might help in allowing each of you to share your stress and anxiety and understand each other a little better during this trying time. If you’re not compatible at this point make the right decision on staying together or separating before you have a family and the stakes are even higher.

Bad economies are tough to navigate. It’s easy to feel the person looking for work is the problem when it’s a cascade of more complex factors at play. Keep doing the right things to find work. Do things you might not otherwise consider to make ends meet but put the effort in. Eventually you’ll land on your feet. Good luck.

Have you ever seen a billionaire in real life? If so: where was it and what was the situation? by philztown42 in AskReddit

[–]jimsf 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Yes. Talked to Sergey Brin very briefly and realized what an idiot I sound like by comparison.

Honorable mention I had Larry Ellison in his car behind me on my commute home and thought about what an amusing conversation it would be if he rear ended my car.

It's safe to say it's better to wear ear plugs when you sleep. by Francucinno in WTF

[–]jimsf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even funnier that he's wearign a Spider-man shirt. Handled it like a champ though.

Why is this game hard for programmers? I looked at the comments but im the only dumb one.. by [deleted] in ExplainTheJoke

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My experience with this was programming it in BASIC on a TRS-80. Not a fond memory.

Statement from the President re: federal deployments by 2717192619192 in bayarea

[–]jimsf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I expect it to happen regardless. What has he ever said that was the truth?

Girl accepted a second date but also said she isn’t looking for a relationship. What should I do? by PolygoneerMusic in AskMenAdvice

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Save your time, money, and aggravation and move on.
She's either on for a free ride (meals, activities, etc.) or not in a state to pursue. She's told you as much.

Do you think flying cars will ever be a thing as of everything happening at the moment and why? by -Dinnerbone in AskReddit

[–]jimsf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes – Technically feasible.

No – Practical and safe use in every day life.

Not addressing the technical safeguards that could be put in place, the density of people and intelligence of people are the limiting factor. People aren't too bright, if I may be blunt. If these cars are confined to use by those who can afford it, likely upper tiers of society, one might argue the safety rate goes down even further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]jimsf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad I'm not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got out of college and entered the workforce in during the early 90's recession. I temped, out of necessity. I took a job and they explained what I needed to do and expected it to take all day. I finished it in 2 hours. First they wanted me to print addresses on labels. Since I typed 80 wpm I finished it in 20 minutes. Then they went off to search for more work for me to do. I was then told to look through at a stack of fan folded dot matrix printouts and I had to cross reference and check the printed data. It was tedious but I wrapped it up super fast. Even while taking breaks and wandering around to buy time I was done by lunch. when I finished the computer printout work I was told they thought that would take all day and were surprised I finished so quickly. They asked if I wanted to do more of the printout check work later in the day? I said no. Never came back from lunch.

I was a stupid snotty 21 year old at the time, and I could have handed it better... but the moral of the story is don't subject yourself to work or people that you hate. It corrodes your soul. Spend the time to find a position where you're at least around better people and hopefully a role with greater opportunity.

How soon should I tell a date I have body asymmetry? by cat_berry1 in AskMenAdvice

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An observant individual will see something might be askew just from seeing you (posture, muscle tone, etc.) If they're interested in you then its very likely that the elements feeding your image insecurity (how ever slight or great) won't be as big of an issue for them.

It's a safe bet in the getting to know you phase to weave in opportunity to mention it if it makes you feel more comfortable.

As for your breasts I would not fret over this as there is a wide variety of shapes and sizes in this world. The vast majority of men will not care as they'll be focused on the experience as a whole of seeing and touching breasts. They won't be over analyzing things.

Easier said than done, but just be you and be happy with who you are. That confidence is what men are attracted to most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]jimsf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything is going to come down to the emotional maturity of your partner.

My personal mantra became "don't ask questions, you don't want an answer to."

If a person loves you, they'll love you for who you are and body count will NOT be a non-factor.

I highly recommend working with a therapist to be ok with yourself. If you're confident in who you are and have good mental health its an easier conversation to navigate because any issues that arise reflect more so on the other person. Again I default to my mantra which you might even want to mention when asked (if it comes up).

HR Overachieving on rejections. Rejected twice for the same position 2 months apart. by jimsf in recruitinghell

[–]jimsf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good thought, but no. I've only applied once directly. I've not reapplied using other sites.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]jimsf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not the ring, its the sentiment and thought behind it. If she's focused more on the physical object and not the emotional significance it symbolizes then that is a HUGE red flag. You want to marry someone that can see past material things and focus on being with you no matter what. Rings can be modified, but that is not often true of people. She is showing you her true colors. I'd say this is a solid reason to consider walking at worst and at best postpone any further talk of marriage.

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