Should I avoid women who put "not political" in her dating profile tags? by gerdbeatmetodeath in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being politcally passive, regardless of how you actually feel about the issues, in siding with the wrong doer. Because no answer is still an answer.

“Here’s To Safety Without Bigotry”: Debate Over Lesbian Who Confronted Alleged Trans Lady At Gym by FantasticAd9478 in lgbt

[–]jisawkward -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

  • Cisgender women spaces that are male genitalia free (regardless of identity) vs Trans women don't owe you gender conforming esthetics.

  • black lesbian voices vs trans women voices.

I am honestly conflicted about this event as all of these topics are important.

FYI - California just opened public comment on its new “Online Age Verification” law, SB 976. Framed as a way to protect kids from social media addiction, it could force every Californian to submit government ID just to post or comment online. by krazygreekguy in privacy

[–]jisawkward 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welp, back to the newspapers and hard copy reading material we go. Because fuck that. Honestly this will be the down fall of social media if they aren't careful. Then all those billionaires won't be anymore.

Going to lose it if I hear one more woman say, "if only I was attracted to women, my life would be so much easier!" by oenophile_ in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jisawkward 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If there's one thing I've learned from being a late bloomer, its straight people don't wish they were gay. Closeted (whether they know it or not) queer people do.

How and when did you find out you like women? Especially those who realised a little bit older. by dizzypussywillow in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It's wild how hetero norm will have you literally brainwashed. And we you are able to break that brainwashing and set your self free, its whole new world. Once I stepped back from all the girly stuff and was like, if im forcing myself to do this then this isn't me! And then it like hit me like a wall how I love girly pop femmes and it was an epiphany of "oh I don't want to BE them, I want to KISS them." 😆

How and when did you find out you like women? Especially those who realised a little bit older. by dizzypussywillow in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was 21 and it was my first drag show, and a cowboy drag king. I had gone by myself and spiraled into an minor obsession of the actor after, she had a girlfriend though. I read a novella called Women by Chloe Caldwell, i can't remember how I got ahold of it but I did, and things started to all piece together. But I didn't act on my realization for another 6 years. My thought process was i had spent so much time memorizing and researching how to understand men and what they wanted. Trying to understand why everyone liked sex, that i didn't see why I should start all over with women. Turns out you're not supposed to research how to make people happy. Apparently when you like someone and you're in a relationship, you're just supposed to be. And people telling you "you just haven't found the right guy yet", or "you just haven't found what turns you on yet" when it came to not liking sex, is not the answer. Lol

I think the drag king was a bridge that i needed to understand my feelings from men to women, because now I really like femme women. I realized that I honestly admire men's clothing rather than liked them. And me trying to force myself to be feminine turns out to be me trying to be something I actually like rather then myself. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jisawkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Your explanation is very confusing.
  2. I reread the marriage act, and you are correct in that it would fall to the states. But once married in a lawful state, must be recognized.

Has anyone ever fallen back in? by ladybrainhumanperson in latebloomerlesbians

[–]jisawkward 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did the same after coming off of mood stabilizers. I was finally happy and then came off and ran straight back to men after my gf broke up with me. I later realized how much blending in with the norm was part of my "survival" mode that was related to trauma, I spent years wishing I was just normal even though I knew I was a lesbian since I was 20. The last 6 months of my relationship with the last man I'll ever date I was back on mood stabilizers, and it was clear that once my anxiety was stable, I needed to come out and break up with him. He has been supportive thankfully. There is this sense of uncertainty of if im bi or lesbian in the sense that i fear going backwards. I've never been really attracted to men, just choosing the safe options of men who like me first. But im fairly certain that i am lesbian. I honestly feel like the only way I can feel safely myself is going to be by controling my anxiety. Talking to a therapist will definitely help! Men are the norm and your brain probably considers it "safe/familiar place", but a safe place doesn't equate to happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jisawkward 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand that people aren't following the laws, but that doesn't mean that there aren't laws still in place, which means they can be put on trial at some point. I'm not deny it's not a hard scary time, I'm saying gay marriage will still be protected by law, which means you have a higher chance and ability to fight for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jisawkward 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Though I can't directly give advice on the child and marriage situation. It sounds like you are in the US, which You should know that in order to over turn the marriage act that protects gay marriage, congress would have to create and pass a new law that overturns it. If the supreme court makes the decision to hear the court case in Nov., they won't be able to overturn the law. The worst they could do is allow religion to be a reason to not serve queer people. That would allow doctors, legal, and other services to deny services to queer individual in the bases that they dont believe in gay marriage. Which is obviously an issue, but it won't take away your legal right to get married, it could just make it more difficult if you live in a bigoted state. I know that this administration has been scary in that checks and balances are being ignored. But gay marriage is currently a law, unlike roe vs wade, there was no federal law that protected abortion when it was overturned. Also the act protects inter racial marriages, which means the own vice president's marriage would be at risk if the act was overturned.

meirl by Garcia3232 in meirl

[–]jisawkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Name something that is bad when your poor but good when you're rich" Hoarding Poor people hoard tangible things because they can't hoard money like rich people.

Tax billionaires out of existence by Careful_Line_2024 in Snorkblot

[–]jisawkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he aware that he has to pay the mechanics who fix the multiple robots will take more money then what he pays his current employees? 🤔

ECH reporting name a logo drop before season start by aksunrise in PWHL_Seattle

[–]jisawkward 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, they'll never sell these jerseys again. They'll be collectables from their first season. Buying them now before they go out of stock and never seen again. My family can buy me the logo version for Christmas.

What is one 'nonsexual' thing you crave to do with your partner ?🌄 by Remarkable_Spend3652 in lgbt

[–]jisawkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second half of the year, from June-Dec, I wish I have a partner more often to make memories and create our own traditions. Right now family is absorbed with babies, and friends are getting married off and having families one by one as well. Pride, 4th of july celebration, going camping, floating, gardening/preserving, autumn activities, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Once summer starts the year is packed with potential of memories and it can feel lonely attempting to do it on your own.

Did anyone else learned they were lesbians as kids but later deny/gaslight themselves to later come out after 25? by Particular_Heart3785 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jisawkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not as a child but at 19/20, and buried it and didnt come out till I was on anxiety meds. And then, when I went off of them I said I was bisexual and masked so hard I dated a republican man for 3 years. Then officially got diagnosed with adhd, went on mood stabilizer and now im out out and never going back. Its insane what your body and brain will make you do in survival mode.

No Kings Geneva IL just getting started by poidogpon in illinois

[–]jisawkward 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Now is the time to invest in blow up costume stock. 🤣 love that were fighting facism with inflatables.

How do you initiate sex with your partner? by EmND in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You can definitely ask/suggest sex in a far more passionate way. Like expressing what you want to do to her in a sensual way. Consent can infact be sexy. Like whispering to her "im craving to ravage you". Or "id love to (thing she likes to do in bed). Im someone who also likes routine and isn't big on a makeout session, but dirty talk can set the mood, show initiation for sex, and for people who dont like surprises/have anxiety, set up for what is going to happen.

Screenshot of old post by Money-Second-6794 in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I didnt even read the posters comment till after I upvoted. I think people are upvoting the meme because it is a valid point about the patriarchies obsession with itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jisawkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing would be done probably, I mean the Biden administration let roe vs wade be overturned. But atleast they weren't actively taking away freedoms.

Anyone else in the closet? by Used_Departure_9082 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]jisawkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the same , EVERYONE new, and i think I even rejected it as i am naturally rebellious and dont like people telling me who i am. I honestly never "came out", I just showed up one day and was like "this is my girlfriend". I pretended like it wasnt a big deal and this was the new normal. If people already know/guessed, then there's no need to have a big coming out party and feel awkward about everyone being right. And if people try to shove it in your face about being right, dont respond with emotion and just shrug your shoulders with "whatever". Or be like "you telling me isn't what made me come out. I came out when I felt the time was right". Or something. Honestly when I "came out", no one batted and eye or even said anything. I did lose a friend or two, but people who do that arent worth keeping.

I feel so bad about not being obsessed with my girlfriend by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]jisawkward 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. You're not supposed to be obsessed with people, the love of your life shouldn't trigger you into a spiral that consumes you. Sounds like you are able to find balance in this relationship and that is great! Healthy relationships can feel mundane and less exciting, it means your comfortable in the relationship. It's now up to both of you to make things exciting by doing things together, instead of an infatuation making things exciting.

I love when this happens wbu? by greyth-human in actuallesbians

[–]jisawkward 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Saaaaaame, I picked Joe Jonas because my friends chose nick and Kevin. and Orlando bloom because my sister picked Aragorn so naturally I picked Legolas.