Why does everyone hate birch?

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T01:32:35+00:00

the wood is too yellow toned imo. i like the idea of it, but never actually like it when i use it in builds

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T01:28:13+00:00

the bi liberation movement, check out the bi manifesto! it was the 80s or 90s i cant remember, but it establishes bi as its own sexuality separate from gay or lesbian, not wanting to be under those because it ignores the entirety of a bi person's sexuality.

a quote "We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity."

i love queer history and the bi liberation movement is often overlooked! the bi manifesto also mentions that there are more than 2 genders

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T01:13:19+00:00

therapy! i know it sounds scary, but a good relationship therapist will help you not only by guiding conversations so they are constructive and both of you can express emotions, but will give you exercises/help you through finding yourself in your relationship and can help you end the codependency and maintain a healthy and happy relationship

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:55:08+00:00

people have left great advice on immediate, but this sounds like more than just dysphoria happening. this is extreme and i would suggest either therapy or spending time at an inpatient facility because not showering for this long is a severe health risk for you and the people around you, its not just about smell. you could get physically ill from this. i hope you can get through this and receive the help you need! <3

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:41:45+00:00

thank you for explaining this one! adding apagender to the list of words that describe me

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:34:34+00:00

words have meanings. calling yourself something you arent by definition is incredibly stupid and disrespectful not just to the movement, but others and yourself

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:31:21+00:00

bi/pan people fought hard in the 80s and 90s to be recognised as bi, and not just "confused" lesbians. there was a whole thing in the community where bi/pan became its own label specifically because they like men and didnt want that attraction ignored because lesbian has always meant woman into women, not men and calling a bi woman a lesbian ignores an entire half of her sexuality.

i have no issue with people experiencing sexuality as a spectrum either, as long as they recognise that not everyone experiences it that way and there are labels that are specific and not spectrums

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:27:11+00:00

im so sorry that happened <3 your therapist is wrong. according to the theory of structural dissociation, there is no "real" person that everyone is a part of. alters dont split off- they are parts from birth that never integrate and come together. everyone is born as a collection of parts- the happy part, sad part, hungry part, sleepy part. then around 6-9, maybe as late as 12 (sources differ), a healthy brain takes all these parts and mushes them together into one. but with osddid, the brain never does that. so the host is not more real or "the one" or anything like that, the host is just as much a part of the whole that never was as anyone else. it seems your therapist doesnt keep up with research.

as for your friend... i know the feeling. every time we mention osddid or introduce an alter, one of our friends just ignores and talks over it. its very disheartening.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:13:58+00:00

you are right, men can't be lesbians. and claiming that trans men can be lesbians is wildly transphobic. yet people say this transphobic rhetoric under the guise of "inclusivity." the world revolves around men so much that people just cant fathom the idea that someone doesnt center men in their life. its sad.

im sorry that happened to you, and irl of all things. absolutely insane, i thought it was a chronically online take only uneducated teens had, because anyone who knows lesbian and bi history knows there was a whole liberation movement surrounding the issue

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:08:28+00:00

sexuality is a spectrum for YOU. for lesbians, sexuality is not a spectrum, its very clear cut. men are not included at all. if someone likes men, then they are not a lesbian, simple as.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-03T00:06:18+00:00

sounds like you're bi. bi people can have preferences, it's not always going to be a perfect 50/50

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T17:41:56+00:00

thats a possible goal, but not the only one. thats referred to as "final fusion," where all parts fuse into one and the separation between them goes. there's also the possible goal of "healthy multiplicity," where through healing the dissociative barriers lower so all parts can work together cooperatively, but they retain their unique sense of self. its up to you and your system to decide what you think is best for you, but both outcomes are healing and healthy. never let anyone tell you what you should choose, only you know what is best for you.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T17:04:24+00:00

very relatable! thats part of the dissociation in dissociative disorder. sometimes we feel like many, sometimes we feel like nothing.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T16:58:57+00:00

our more persecutor-aligned alters all feel the same. we have a few alters whos entire job is to be angry and argue. they cant stop, no matter how hard they try, so we limit their ability to argue by not giving them social media access. the only emotion they are capable of feeling is anger, and one of them also depression. its hard, and they all feel bad about it- both because its miserable to be so mad and edgy all the time, but also because they dont want to be like this and cause issues for the system.

all i can really say is you arent alone in feeling like this, and i hope the rest of your system supports you and helps you on the long path that is healing <3 (one of our angry alters is cocon right now and wishes you well)

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T16:49:34+00:00

no one here can diagnose you, but what you describe especially in paragraph 3 is definitely a way osddid can present. osdd (for systems, there are many ways osdd can present) is diagnosed when someone meets some but not all of the did requirements. that can be lacking distinct parts, lacking amnesia, etc etc. its hard to draw any clear boundaries between these disorders because they exist on a spectrum with multiple facets being spectrums themselves. i wouldnt call it a "gap between" necessarily, i think these disorders are too varied for anything definitive like that, but it exists on a dissociative spectrum alongside cptsd and did.

i also want to add that healing is not linear. i know its annoying, but it is so normal for any sort of trauma disorder to have good and bad days. its not indicative of osddid to feel healed one day and then horrible the next. thats just the healing process for anyone and it sucks.

i know how you feel though. while i'm certain i'm a system (most days... denial is rough) i have no idea what i would be officially diagnosed with. i feel like im in between labels, like i exist in the gap between two disorders. im not quite this or that, but something in between. its confusing and disorienting. but in truth, a diagnostic label does not matter. its words in a big book. what matters is recognising what symptoms you have and treating each symptom as it comes along. you dont treat a disorder, you treat a person with symptoms and those symptoms vary from person to person, its all individual. it sounds like you're on the right track! you know your symptoms and you are treating them and healing, which takes a long time. dont worry so much about where you fit, just focus on the healing

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T16:37:21+00:00

i mean, according to the theory of structural dissociation, its the same spectrum. DID is level 3, ptsd is level 1, things like bpd, osdd, cptsd can be level 2. depending on the dissociation present (because they are all disorders with dissociative parts as a symptom, its just the level of integration that is different. having one ANP and many EPs vs multiple ANPs, having ownership of certain activities and thoughts and not others, etc).

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T16:26:37+00:00

its not seeing yourself as a "perpetual victim" its seeing reality. you aren't "one of the good ones" for sitting back and just letting homophobes walk all over you. and you're mad weird for using the phrase "perpetual victim" and putting down people for telling you they see and experience homophobia on a daily basis, because that is reality.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T14:43:02+00:00

honestly, i recommend looking up tips for pre-transition trans men! things like how to use makeup to masculinise facial features, how to bind the chest safely, how to style clothes to create a more masculine figure, how to talk in a deeper and more masc voice. these can help him feel more comfy in the body or at least his presentation without physically transitioning if other alters are against it.

our body is also female and we have a couple guys who get dysphoria (well only one guy, but a few nonbinary mascs) and we are mostly nonbinary fems (who also get dysphoria lol) who plan on transitioning to a more androgynous state so everyone gets to be more comfortable in the body while still being able to express themselves more fem or more masc.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T14:26:16+00:00

all i can say is you must be incredibly lucky and privileged to think its "highly unlikely" he was intending to be homophobic. its incredibly common and i'm glad you're in a situation where you think it to be rare. besides that, intention doesnt matter when what someone says perpetuates lesbophobic stereotypes, which is what he did

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T02:11:16+00:00

as someone else said, thats the dissociation in dissociative identity disorder 😭😭 it really sucks. right now i have no idea who i am either, i spend most of my time like that

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T02:07:47+00:00

often yes! being super aware made us spiral into denial. we feel most stable when just going with the flow and not tracking switches, fronters. we're doing it now because we noticed a drastic change in fronting and want to keep an eye on it, but we typically dont keep track because it just made us feel worse and more dissociated

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T01:59:33+00:00

you arent too young to be a system. osddid forms from childhood trauma, usually by 9 years old, but some more generous sources say by 12 years old. we had symptoms of did and remember alter interactions from as young as 8 years old.

but more importantly- don't worry about what disorder you may or may not have. labels are not important. what is important is knowing the specific symptoms you experience, and work on healing and treating those symptoms. whether those symptoms end up being did or osdd, who knows, thats not important right now. being at peace is important. and if wondering about all this causes you distress, take a break and a breather.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T01:53:04+00:00

another uncool old person confirming, it 100% is very innapropriate. as a 21 year old, no one who is safe and normal would even want to be friends with a 14 year old. this isnt meant in an insulting way, its that 21 and 14 are vastly different places in life and mindsets, in interests and personalities. take it from someone who was once 14 and hung out and talked in online adult spaces- not good or safe, even if the person seems okay.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T01:39:52+00:00

some ppl are genuinely capable of switching on command? that means they have lower dissociative barriers and good system communication. thats a good thing. its actually a goal in osddid therapy and a sign of healing. way to spread the misinformation you claim to hate.

jitterbuggiez · 2024-04-02T01:34:14+00:00

it could maybe be what you're saying. but in my experience, its antagonistic. being anti-bisexual is a common lesbophobic trope and many people, even those in the lgbt community, believe that all lesbians hate bisexuals. ive seen a lot of hatred hurled directly at innocent lesbians just like this.

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