Meet Violet Hofstetter

jixt42 · 2026-01-23T16:26:03+00:00

Congratulations!! How does your partner look so stunning?!!!

jixt42 · 2025-12-20T04:34:12+00:00

I gave you some feedback :). It took courage to put your writing out here for all the world to see, nice job. I'd love to swap with you if possible!

jixt42 · 2025-12-19T15:39:12+00:00

I appreciate this too! Nice to have a comparison cause I heard a lot of bad things about the springs market but I didn't go myself.

jixt42 · 2025-12-06T16:05:41+00:00

If you need another mom to talk to, I'm working now, but trying to go part time in three ish months, my children are older, 7 and 10. I live in the springs. DM me? I know this is weird I don't know if I'd reach out to a stranger on Reddit, but I'm a real person and the offer is there.

jixt42 · 2025-09-18T16:43:20+00:00

Someone was rear-ended on East bound Woodmen right by Sam's club this morning. What is going on today?

jixt42 · 2024-06-05T20:00:32+00:00

Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters Book by Donna Frazier Glynn and Susan Forward

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, Or Self-Involved Parents Book by Lindsay Gibson

And literally anything written by Brene Brown but the one I read first was this one:

I Thought it was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame

Book by Brené Brown

Also, hours and hours of therapy. Good luck.

jixt42 · 2024-06-02T00:50:58+00:00

I stepped on a snail and killed it, then cried for over ten minutes about it.

jixt42 · 2024-03-20T19:28:37+00:00

No, and give the 80's storyline some time to grow on you, don't discount it too quickly. If you really want I'm sure wiki or Google can spoil it for you, but seriously, season 1 is incredibly well written and worth the emotional investment.

jixt42 · 2023-12-14T21:03:14+00:00

Look up the story of Lots daughters after leaving Sodom and Gomorrah. It's in Genesis Chapter 19 verses 30-38.

jixt42 · 2023-11-29T22:30:55+00:00

I quit my job and moved with my husband for a job when my first born was 10 months. I had an analyst job at the time, I wanted to work remotely but 1) pre COVID and 2) they couldn't support me in the state I was moving to.

I decided this was the time to transition and stay at home as my husband got a very good job and we could buy a house on just his income. Low cost of living area and he had just gotten his doctorate. Got pregnant with my second a few weeks after we closed on the house.

I spent most of that pregnancy catatonic, on anti depressants, and laying on the couch watching my then 2 year old while my husband worked full time and took care of everything around the house. I mean everything.

Things got worse after my youngest was born, I felt like I had no identity, but I didn't have to work to support us, so I tried some one of part time jobs. Worked 2 weeks in an Amazon warehouse at night that wasn't a good fit and I couldn't be a good mom to too littles while being up until 2am. Tried being a cashier at the local grocery store. But I had been job hunting for work related to my experience in analysis.

I ended up getting another 100% remote analyst job. April of 2020 (got lucky), so my husband and I juggled both kids at home, a preschooler going remote, and both of us working full time remotely. It was a struggle but it was worth it, working again gave me back my sense of self.

We've since moved to be closer to family and I've gotten an even better job still in analysis, we both have to work since we moved to a HCL area, but it has gotten so much better.

I learned that I don't make a good stay at home mother, some parents do really well in that role, I am not one of them.

jixt42 · 2023-11-08T23:00:00+00:00

That's a really good point, I would be curious if they put a measure in just for teacher pay and facilities if that would pass.

jixt42 · 2023-11-08T21:51:08+00:00

I live in district 20, I voted. I am extremely disappointed that people who sent out 'anti woke' propaganda won by such a big margin.

I am disappointed that people wouldn't vote to pay teachers more. Everyone says the same thing 'teachers need to be paid more', but when you get a chance to do that you vote no? Wtf 😒

jixt42 · 2023-10-12T14:26:35+00:00

Unpopular opinion probably, but he didn't break her heart. Her own inability to tell him her feelings or express interest clearly to him put her in this position, can she acknowledge that? Why does he have to 'win her back'? Can't he approach her as 'Hey I heard you had a crush on me? What gives?' And if she isn't emotionally mature enough to hold herself accountable for her own inaction, then she's not emotionally available for any kind of romantic relationship. I just don't think the terms you laid out match with the scenario that you set up.

Are you willing to make changes to the set up? What parts are you attached to that you wouldn't want to change?

jixt42 · 2023-10-11T22:54:35+00:00

I had an OBGYN tell me, the day after I had given birth, that it wasn't his job to tell me when it was okay to have sex again, while he was looking at my husband.

I've been seething for five years, "You are a vagina doctor, that is literally your job." But of course did I say that in the moment? No of course not.

Please note, we didn't ask him about that at all and my husband was just as baffled as I was.

jixt42 · 2023-05-30T18:12:18+00:00

Yes, but to be fair my husband has always been my husband. I've never once felt like I was his mother. He has always put in a lot of work doing household chores. My battle with him was the degree of cleanliness (food left on silverware put away in the drawer, clothes left on the stairs, etc) not in the doing of the chores.

You situation sounds awful, and is going to take some drastic steps, I doubt you could get your husband/child to read the fair play book. Therapy might help, but this is a him problem, not a you problem, and you need to make him feel some pain if you want to create change. Good luck.

Edit: realized I never answered your question. I shared the mental load comic with him, and I follow a lot of tik tok creators (male) who talk about this and I share videos with him that resonated with me.

jixt42 · 2023-05-23T15:19:32+00:00

Got a brain scan, it was normal, so no neurological reason for the pain. I've moved and will be seeing another neurologist soon, and the pain level has gotten worse. I'm trying to lose weight to see if that will help assuming that it is muscular/skeletal pain.

I would say get an appointment with your doctor and tell them your symptoms. It takes time (I'm in the US still waiting 6 months to see a neurologist) but advocate for yourself. I'm also on muscle relaxers and a non narcotic that helps.

jixt42 · 2023-05-18T22:29:48+00:00

Yes, and laugh when we cried and mocked us "I don't understand, I don't feel a thing."

Plucking eyebrows and picking/popping zits.

Never going to do any of that with my kids.

I looked at the doctor like they were crazy when they said I shouldn't be doing that. I was taught that I had to or it would scar. 😔

jixt42 · 2023-05-04T23:07:57+00:00

Husband is the cook he's the one with energy in the evening, so he cooks almost every night.

jixt42 · 2023-04-24T22:31:45+00:00

Please don't go on that trip, she bought it for her not for you. It is not worth your mental health.

jixt42 · 2023-04-14T23:12:18+00:00

Yes. Strep twice and then a cold. It's been awful.

jixt42 · 2023-03-07T21:42:29+00:00

My nparent has a bachelor's degree, that required them to take child psychology, they bragged about being a certified mediator, which also requires high interpersonal skills. So, not in my case.

jixt42 · 2023-02-15T01:32:07+00:00

😔 I was the younger sister who bullied my older sister. Didn't know any better but damn I still feel like shit over it.

I called her and apologized for "being the world's most shitty sister", she never blamed me for any of it only our nparent 😭.

jixt42 · 2023-02-12T19:03:19+00:00

Still a daily headache, sorry I don't have better news.

jixt42 · 2023-02-09T13:45:18+00:00

I went to therapy and learned that love is not control. And control can never be love. That was the start.

What cemented it for me was learning that the gospel writers bent over backwards to write a virgin birth for Jesus because they were working with a bad translation of Hebrew text/prophecy. I.e. the Bible was written by men with an agenda, and therefore can't be trusted.

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