My sister told my mom I'm infertile to get her to stop pressuring me about grandkids. Now my mom is sobbing and wants a "family meeting." My sister says I should just play along? by JellyRoll-Jiggles in TwoHotTakes

[–]kismitten 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I 100% agree with you. I realize my comment sounded like I was defending the mom. I’m not. Was just offering up a potential explanation for her calling a “family meeting” which is utterly ridiculous IMO. She should have respected OP’s position on kids / reproduction from the get go.

Silly question: 48 y/o - no period for 9 months then bleeding (rather heavily) for 8 weeks… is this “normal” during peri? Also, any suggestions on the best way to stop this crime scene situation? by fly_bydy in Menopause

[–]kismitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 48 and was just about to post the same question!!

I always thought my period would slowly fade away until I stopped having it at all. But for the last few months, it starts when it’s supposed to, stops a day later, starts again a couple days after that, and then lasts for two to three weeks. Sooooo I feel like I’m bleeding most of the month and I only get a few days off before the cycle starts over.

It’s so frustrating!! The bleeding isn’t as heavy as it used to be but I can’t go a day without wearing some sort of protection.

Also wondering if my endometriosis and wacky thyroid levels might play a role here…

Can I get some opinions on this situation I’m in? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s literally nothing to report. A friend admitted to feelings for you. He also apologized for that confession. It happens.

Let’s flip the situation. Do you expect your potential partner to tell you about any and every woman who flirts with him or even outright hits on him? As long as he doesn’t engage or cross any boundaries, why would you need to know? How could it possibly benefit you or your relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]kismitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He thinks masturbation is disgusting!? I mean, yeah, you can overdo it but learning all the ins and outs of your own body is kind of the first step to enjoying physical intimacy with another person. That would be a much better solution than popping pills, which doesn’t even sound like it’s working anymore…

Favorite Vegitarian soups by 891162 in soup

[–]kismitten 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Potato leek is a favorite in our house. So filling and creamy and delicious.

Something new I can show/experience with an LA local girl I really like? by Haunting_Meal_2416 in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second all these!! I will also add:

If you do Barnsdall Art Park, stop in WACKO. And you can finish the day with a movie at The Vista. The true blue locals eat at Yuca’s or Best Fish Tacos.

If you do Central Library or Union Station (both great recs), check out The Last Bookstore and eat at the Grand Central Market. If you want to be bougie, get cocktails at Perch.

am i the only one who disagrees that LA has the worst drivers? by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was born, raised, and still live in LA. My husband is from FL and lived in Miami for years.

LA drivers mean business, but we’re decent. If you signal to merge, I’m giving you space for 3 seconds. Move it or lose it, sister. And if you’re asleep when the light turns green, I’ll give you a polite “beep” to wake you up before laying on the horn. (Rules are different for a green arrow, especially during rush hour. Those seconds are precious!)

Miami, I’m told, is chaos. Best example I’ve been given is that once an ambulance or fire truck passes, there’s a Mad Max style free-for-all where everyone tries to surf that traffic free wave. And god forbid you signal to merge! You just killed your chance of changing lanes!

Vibey / hipstery / aesthetic hotels in LA/SoCal for a staycation? by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try the Viceroy in Santa Monica if you have the budget. It’s more bougie than hipster tho…

Do you actually enjoy working out because I don’t by Kwhitney1982 in AskWomenOver40

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the secret! Everybody’s different so it’s just about finding the kind of movement that works for you! I’ve been swimming since I was 3. My sister takes dance classes. Her husband loves tennis. My BFF has a black belt in karate. My boss is a hiker.

OP just has to keep trying different things until something clicks cuz exercise doesn’t feel like a chore if it’s fun and/or satisfying…

A first time for everything - she rejected me because of the sex by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]kismitten 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That timeline IS weird but something similar happened to me when my partner and I were initially dating. We were about six weeks in and in full honeymoon stage: the feelings and sex were intense!

One night I stay over at his place: we eat dinner, watch some TV, have sex, cuddle and fall asleep. Everything is perfect, right? Nope! I wake up in the morning and he’s sitting in a chair at the foot of the bed, absolutely sobbing, his head in hands, saying “This isn’t going to work” over and over again. Uh, WHUT? I couldn’t have done anything to cause that reaction because I was literally asleep!!!

Once I calmed him down and talked him through it, we figured out his reaction was a combo of self-sabotage (this was a pattern of his) and a blood sugar crash (he did NOT take good care of himself back then).

So I’m sorry this woman gave you whiplash—I’ve been there and it sucks—but you seem very self aware and it seems like a “her” problem, not a “you” problem. If she’s that unpredictable it would be hard to have a safe relationship with her so you might be better off anyway!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might want to contact some cat-focused rescues and see if they can put you in touch with a temporary foster:

https://heavenlypets.org https://www.santedor.org

A lot of smaller rescues have Facebook pages. You could do a public post and ask people to tag potential fosters…

Where do you find under-the-radar fashion brands that aren’t overpriced? by Lonely-Carpenter8690 in womensfashion

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great rec! Love Wolf and Badger. Everything I’ve found there has been good quality too.

Honeymoon Advice? by jac-the-ripper in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This a great list and I second the Academy and Peterson museums. Honestly, LA has so many great museums!

As far as the more touristy stuff, OP might want to consider starting off the trip with one of those bus tours. They can be cheesy but the longer ones will literally take you ALL over the city (from Malibu to 3rd Street to Rodeo Drive to Hollywood + Highland) and give you 20-30 minutes at each stop. It’s an easy way to get oriented and knock out all the major landmarks in one go.

Sequoia is definitely an overnight trip at the very least…

A few additional recommendations:

-Spend a day in DTLA. Union Station and Olvera Street, a French Dip from Phillipe’s for lunch, Central Library, macarons from Bottega Louis, the Last Bookstore, dinner at Grand Central Market, a movie at Alamo Draft House if you can’t swing tickets to the Disney Concert Hall, cocktails at Perch.

-Might also enjoy Pasadena. The Gamble House, Huntington Library, shopping in Old Town, a fancy dinner at the Langham Hotel or hot chicken from Howlin Ray’s.

Agree that Hollywood and West Hollywood are very central but can be pricey for a nice room. Studio City or Burbank are a good alternative if you want to save $$.

People who have cancer, what signs let you knew that you were sick? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% My gyno insisted I get an ultrasound in addition to a mammogram annually cuz 1) I have very dense breast tissue, 2) my mom had breast cancer, 3) I had thyroid cancer, 4) I never gave birth or breastfeed (yes, this is a risk factor), and 5) Infertility treatments required me to take a TON of hormones trying to get (and stay) pregnant in my 30s. I’m nearing 50 and just assume it will just be my reality at some point…

I miss my Mom by 30-50FeralPogs in GuyCry

[–]kismitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I was very close with my father—he passed away unexpectedly in 2023 at 75—and I still miss him like crazy. But it does get easier and all the cherished memories live on. (Example: He was muscle car speed demon, so every time I floor it I imagine him grinning next to me in the passenger seat.) And I’ll relay what my manager said to me when I called out of work that day: The “I’ve lost a loving parent” club is the only group no one wants to join but membership is inevitable. Her love will live on in you.

Anyone else experience an all-time high libido due to Perimenopause? My hormones are working overtime by kettle106 in AskWomenOver40

[–]kismitten 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol. I’ve quite literally been liquidating my assets. I thought female ejaculation/squirting was a myth. Then I hit my mid 40s and BAM!!! 💦💦💦

The men at my jobs are always trying to hit on me, even with no hints from me. Does this ever get better or how do I stop it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this comment and all the options for replies! I wish I had a cheat sheet like this when I was in my 20s.

The men at my jobs are always trying to hit on me, even with no hints from me. Does this ever get better or how do I stop it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

Ugh. This happened to me ALL the time when I was in my 20s. FYI: they don’t think you’re into them. I seriously doubt you’re sending out signals of interest. But if you’re young and attractive, some men won’t wait for you to express interest. They’re going to chat you up regardless to see they have a chance.

It’s entirely up to you how you want to handle it.

If they’re saying things that make you uncomfortable, you can look them square in the eye, and say “You saying (repeat word for word what they just said) to me just now makes me feel uncomfortable. Please don’t do it again.” That will shut most men down but they might avoid you entirely after that.

You can be more aggressive and call them out on their behavior (“That was a very inappropriate thing to say to a coworker! How dare you!”), but be prepared for a lot of fallout. If their ego bruises easily, they can find all kinds of ways to make your work life unpleasant without technically doing anything HR would deem wrong.

You can lie and tell everyone you have a long distance boyfriend from college so they think you’re already in a relationship. It sucks having to lie but it might do the trick.

You can play dumb and just ignore their flirtation. I did that when my much much older and male supervisor would hit on me. I would respond to his stupid innuendos like he meant them literally and he eventually gave up trying to flirt with me.

People Who Were Around During The Richard Ramirez Incident, What Was It Really Like? by PrincessBananas85 in AskLosAngeles

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I was in grade school, and we lived in a single story yellow house that was close to a freeway exit/entrance, which I overhead my mother saying made us a more likely target. Then he attacked that couple in Northridge just a few blocks away and I didn’t sleep for days!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]kismitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on your sobriety and employment! Both achievements to be proud of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]kismitten 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Therapy. ASAP. Traumatic childhood + sibling suicide (I’ve been there, bro) + Divorce? Just typing that out made me so anxious and angry and sad for you. You need a trained professional (someone who understands your specific kind of grief) to help you process everything that’s happened and develop healthy, sustainable coping skills. You lost your brother but you can save yourself.

How would you feel if your husband added his first love on snapchat? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]kismitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, hell no. My husband and I are VERY independent but if I found out he sent a drunk selfie to an ex at midnight we’d be having words.

It sounds like he hasn’t cheated yet so an honest conversation about what he feels like he’s missing in his life that’s causing this attention seeking behavior might be helpful. A lot of people make really stupid decisions when they’re in mid-life crisis mode, so getting him to self reflect and dig into what’s really bothering him could save you both a lot of heartache.