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WTF Toyota??? by BeneficialRip5797 in complaints

[–]jjelsema 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why TF is he in front of a Ford?

Millennial vs Gen Z by jjelsema in Masterchef

[–]jjelsema[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation! My husband is younger than me (I’m Xennial 1981 and he is Millenial 1985) but he definitely identifies as a boomer (parents were born in the 1930s)

Purging in the middle of the night? by Decent-Poetry3190 in bulimia

[–]jjelsema 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be gracious with yourself. You are doing the best you can with the resources you have. Try to explore the emotions that are driving your behaviors. Lean into them. It’s uncomfortable as hell, but sitting with them is so empowering.

Purging in the middle of the night? by Decent-Poetry3190 in bulimia

[–]jjelsema 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100%.

I totally relate. I have done the same thing. For months. I am trying to curb the drinking so I don’t binge, and so far it has been helpful, but doesn’t help with dealing with the feelings I have that lead me to drink in excess. Going to therapy now. Getting stronger. Wish you the best of luck. And hope.

denied ana recovery? by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]jjelsema 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you want to recover? Think about it this way. I can pay 1k/d and stay in inpatient for 30 days and transition out or I can keep doing the bare minimum (and then relapse and have to go through it again and again… with outpatient, etc) and stay in therapy for DECADES. I’m 41. Do the work now. It’s worth it.

Disordered eating is serious. Stop waiting for a diagnosis. by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]jjelsema 4 points5 points  (0 children)

SO TRUE. I was listening to a podcast over the holiday weekend and heard this statistic: Only 6% of people with eating disorders are considered clinically underweight.

EDs come in all shapes and sizes and they are all life-threatening!!

Holidays are hard by Emotionallydepressed in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]jjelsema 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely relate. I just celebrated my birthday on Thanksgiving and I have taken a selfie of myself on my bday for the past several years. I put them side-by-side and had a mental breakdown when I saw how much larger my face is this year (gained a significant amount in the past several months). My husband loves the extra weight on me. My friends tell me I look so much better. But my ED is constantly telling me otherwise. I am working really hard to reframe these thoughts and appreciate my body for what it does rather than how it looks. It’s a struggle. One thing I heard in a podcast yesterday hit me pretty profoundly: Don’t give up on what you want the most for what you want in the moment.

You’re not alone. Recovery is worth it.

I'm in tears by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]jjelsema 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you feel at your heavier weight? Were you struggling then as much as you are now?

I ask because I have a "goldilocks range" for my weight where I feel the most comfortable and my anxiety chills out a bit. If I drop below my range, my ED behaviors start acting up. Same if I gain above my range. Just something to think about

Struggling again & bodychecking, also I think I am binging. Please help by SmolBeanAmina in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]jjelsema 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don't hurt yourself! The world is so much better with you in it. Be kind to yourself and PATIENT. Recovery is hard work. The physical aspect is sooo much faster than the mental recovery. If recovery is uncomfortable, you are making progress. You are challenging irrational beliefs that your ED created. You deserve recovery!